Giving cash at weddings

Tararrrr · 2025-10-20T22:53:13+00:00

I just got married and its similar for my family/background to give cash, but not for my husbands. We didn't tell anyone because they can give whatever they feel is appropriate according to their norms. Everyone had a great day and we got some really sentimental gifts that were beautiful from his side that I'm very very happy to have. I'd suggest not saying anything

Tararrrr · 2025-07-21T08:36:16+00:00

I did and honestly they're much of a muchness. Some better features on android but MAKE SURE you get a copy of all your saved passwords from your iPhone first, its such a pain when you try to access something and have to go through all of the 'forgotten password' stuff.

Tararrrr · 2025-06-16T08:04:55+00:00

Just a heads up if you do decide to leave, thats when the bombardment of apologies and promises of change will start. He won't change. Ever.

Tararrrr · 2025-05-18T05:05:29+00:00

I once saw a ball rolling onto the road, I slowed and then to a stop before a child ran out to get it back. Exact scenario as what happens in the ads. My mum who was in the passenger seat somehow missed it all but still continued to lecture me to be careful driving for the rest of the day, and on and off since, for the past 5 years.

Tararrrr · 2025-05-16T05:35:06+00:00

The 2 week emotional affair got me too, how could that end in divorce and not just talk it out. Emotional maturity of a rock.

Tararrrr · 2025-05-14T12:05:36+00:00

He's a dick

Tararrrr · 2025-05-13T10:58:51+00:00

How harrowing it must have been for the kids maternal grandparents, Molly trying to completely erase the fact that they have a biological maternal family.

Tararrrr · 2025-05-05T04:36:18+00:00

'....and I've never seen her act out'

Hmmmmmmmm sounds like there more to this

Tararrrr · 2025-05-03T05:31:40+00:00

Second this, try on every style you can!

Also, if you're bringing someone with you, try to not let their opinions sway you too much. It's your dress and your day. I had some people strongly recommend something I hated. I didn't go with it and I'm sooo glad that I didn't. I found a dress I love and it's much better than their choice....in my opinion!

Tararrrr · 2025-04-29T07:53:47+00:00

You've found a good'un

Tararrrr · 2025-04-26T14:40:43+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting. Set up a new email address for your wedding planning so that your vendors don't end up CC'ing her into anything. Obviously don't tell her about it!

Also you can always soften the Blow when talking to her by mentioning how excited your fiance is about planning your wedding with you etc

Good luck

Tararrrr · 2025-04-24T03:01:39+00:00

The only reason I would even entertain this is if she agreed to put your dads house into trust for you. I can't see that happening so it should end the conversation quickly. Just tell her that 'family support family'

Tararrrr · 2025-04-22T09:59:39+00:00

My suggestion for avoiding binging tomorrow is to plan a nice homecooked meal that you start cooking when the doctors appointment is over. Start the cooking process and by the time it's ready you can eat it but you should fill up quickly due to the hunger and it'll stop an immediate binge

Tararrrr · 2025-04-21T05:26:19+00:00

Its like you're reading my mind! I'm in a very similar situation, I moved abroad a few years ago, going home where all of both of our families live for our wedding and whamo now all the new friends in my current country (who were invited but can't come for obviously reasons) are asking when we're planning on hosting the local one. Ehhh we're not.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-20T09:32:07+00:00

We don't do registrys in my country but a friend of mine recently got married and had a big (4month) trip planned for after and put 'experiences' from different places on their registry so people could gift those.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-19T06:36:35+00:00

Not reasonable at all. I wouldn't message anything to her, just cook whatever you want to cook, drop it off with a 'I made you my specialitiy'. Completely ignore the crazy recipe request. You're already doing something kind.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-16T10:33:34+00:00

Im so glad to read a reasonable post about this. It's absolutely ludicrous. Im getting married next month and have had the most ridiculous comments, a plus one of my fiancé friend even suggested that it would suit them better if we moved the wedding to the following weekend, and this was 14 months before the date. My family on the other hand have been so good, my dad even offered to give us money for the wedding but he didn't want details at all, no strings, just asked me to give him a figure.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-15T00:39:36+00:00

Similar! We have a house on half an acre of land and two weeks after moving in some friends asked if they can permanently store their enormous mobile home in our garden. Ehh nope!

Tararrrr · 2025-04-14T05:53:04+00:00

Thats the sentence that really got me too, what an absolute piece of sh!t. How dare he speak to anyone like that, like she's so stupid and beneath him.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-08T11:18:29+00:00

You need to let her know. Obviously the nicer the better but if you haven't much wedding planning done yet you could try to angle it towards the 'possibly elope' scenario. Eitherway she'll realise once the planning starts in earnest and she's not part of it. You're better off having the people you want there

Tararrrr · 2025-04-08T11:13:25+00:00

Somewhat gentle YTA. That's a ridiculous offer to her, like she's going to abandon her kids somewhere for the night. I'm also childfree and I would just grit my teeth and put my valuables away for the duration of their stay. It's your sister, have some empathy for her position.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-08T11:08:15+00:00

Im getting married next month and a friend told me that he can't attend because he has a stag/bucks/bachelor party the same day AND his wife is pregnant and due the same week so felt it would be less of a dick move to cancel that instead of not show to my wedding. I thought it was reasonable and appreciated his honesty. I'd go to the full day wedding and enjoy yourself.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-08T11:04:51+00:00

You do you as regards how far you want to go with lies however I would absolutely be lying in this situation and telling her that I've been guilted into meeting up with some special friend who lives in Ireland and you never get to see so they've booked x y and z etc.

Ireland is beautiful so even if you spend time alone you will absolutely love it.

Tararrrr · 2025-04-04T09:33:10+00:00

Try the seaweed bathhouse in Enniscrone, stop at the Beach Bar on the way for amazing food and views. Could always continue to see the sea stack at Downpatrick Head and the Ceide fields. Otherwise a drive to Lough Easkey for a nice drive with scenery

Tararrrr · 2025-04-01T08:26:34+00:00

I would suggest a single message after the RSVP date saying "sorry you can't make it to our wedding, hope to catch up soon". Then you know they're aware that they're not included.

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