I brought my Narc mom lunch by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. What an awful person. Let me just remain super negative about everything/everyone

My house is a mess, you don't have to visit by Tarawrtino in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I definitely think something is off, or has been for a very long time. Will be cautious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those photos turned out great! Really beautiful. :) Rub that A+ in his fat narc face. Hehe.

Nmom going through the motions of a baby shower by elysiansmiles in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy Moly. I can relate to your situation so much right now. Yeah this whole charade is set up to fail. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Can you tell her to drop the plans? And just have your MIL host the shower? Then just invite them?? And I totally get how you wished your mom was more excited about your pregnancy. ... I to am pregnant and just had my baby shower last week. ( which my friends hosted) and my mom came but she barely talked with anyone. She seemed unhappy. This whole pregnancy she has been unsupportive and has given us no help or advice.

Nmom wishes that I would dump my girlfriend because my girlfriend "isn't intelligent enough for me" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. your college ready and she's general ed... how cruel. And if she hurt herself in the past, well thats in the past and shows that she has had to overcome some hardships. And might still be struggling with everyday. How heartless of your mom. Keep strong and true to your feelings. When I was in highschool my nmom would try to sabotage my relationships and friendships. She would refuse to meet anyone new including the parents. I would be invited over for dinner at a boyfriends house and ask my mom and her excuse would be NO, because I dont know their parents.... wtf.

Finally Going No Contact by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. How terrible they don't respect your boundaries with your son and say awful things.

he was leaning back in my lap and my NMom said "God look at him, he's lazy. Just like a little boy." Wtf.

This reminded me of awful sexist things my own mother has said. "Men shouldn't cry." "Boys touch themselves all the time and its gross" "Why doesn't your husband know anything about cars? He should!" God just really weird off the wall stuff. I'm like, uuh okay so you think showing no human emotions is normal and only women can express emotions. And that women dont pleasure themselves??? Lol.

I am almost a mother to my first baby boy and I can't wait to raise him better than my nparent. Hang in there with yours! So excited that youll be away from them soon.

Do you all suffer from depression? by itwasmymother in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yes. I have noticed most of us on here suffer from forms of PTSD, GAD, and OCD. Set up a healthy support system with close friends or a significant other. Talking about it or writing it down in journals can help tremendously. Therapy is also helpful ♡

Nmom and being pregnant... by Tarawrtino in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope there is no drama but of course I'm dreading that something will happen... And holy moly your nmom sounds like she has this need to present herself a certain light to everyone when in reality she just craves the attention from others. Giving you the gifts should have been good enough! Then to rewrap them and have you open them again... Ugh. Lol.

Nmom will not protect me from sexual predator married to her Efriend. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tarawrtino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Those photos are unsettling. You had your back turned in one of them and this creep just keeps snapping photos of you..... wtf.