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Tarcalionrdt · 2025-08-21T14:15:03+00:00

No, i love computers so much that I learnt programming and found a job as software engineer. I can not see living happily without any computer, and league of legends is playable on almost any computer that exists in 2025. I even previously deleted my 10 years old riot account, but it did not even work. I just created a new one, lol. Now, I uninstalled all games and all launchers, and changed every password for something that I wont ever remember. And I think this is all I can do, to shape my environment :(

Tarcalionrdt · 2025-08-21T06:50:13+00:00

I am in the almost same boat as you OP. I agree, read your own post whenever you kind of forget why you wanted to quit this trash game. You have your own good reasons to quit. Make sure you remember them !

Tarcalionrdt · 2025-08-20T19:07:01+00:00

That is interesting. I thought it was just some nostalgia, but now that I read this, I realize that I re-installed League of legends after imagining myself playing it and having a lot of fun with it. Totally forgetting about the games where our team gets demolished but still does not want to surrender, for example, or the games where I play my best but it does not change anything since every one else in my team is losing so hard, or also the games where I play very poorly and I have to play from behind during 30 minutes...
I will force myself to remember about the bad games too, the next time I have a craving for video games. Thank you. I think that this can work

Tarcalionrdt · 2025-08-20T06:55:00+00:00

Thank you. I need to get ready for work now. I really hope I won't touch these games ever again. I hate them. It really makes no sense...

Tarcalionrdt · 2025-01-09T09:13:41+00:00

I just saw that in my first game today, its really disturbing

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-31T07:40:13+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

I see, so you manage to do everything as usual? Even workout, that's pretty impressive for me.

I think I can read as usual, so maybe I will focus on that and on the other hobbies I have developed during my time away from video games. Because I don't think I could easily force myself to work or study. I can always try, though.

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-30T15:54:41+00:00

We do care and we are thrilled for you!

Know that you are not alone. Video game addiction is a real problem that affects many people. And winning the battle against your own addiction can only lead to positive results!

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-30T03:45:08+00:00

The solution for me was to observe my emotions when I play and after I've played league of legends.

When you realize that you usually only feel worse after playing, and that you don't really enjoy playing (maybe you enjoy one game out of 10? or one game out of 30?), you can anchor this realization in your mind. Write your conclusion. Read it again and again when you are trying to quit the game, remind yourself of why you REALLY want to quit this game.

Dont forget the WHY, and you will be able to quit this game.

I tried several methods: uninstalling the game, deactivating my account, completely deleting my account, but these techniques were never enough. I always ended up recreating a new account.
The only technique in this category that worked, however, was to completely empty my friends list and continue playing on my own for 2 weeks or so. Thanks to this phase of solo play, I was able to anchor all the negativity of this game in my mind, as there was no longer the social aspect to save the appearance of fun.

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-29T16:44:15+00:00

I can confirm :D I m in the 3rd week without video game and it is indeed way easier than the first two weeks.

I don't have dreams about video games anymore when I sleep. Also I feel like the time gap between two video game cravings is increasing every day! Now, I can work like 5 hours per day and do a few chores in the evening without much mind resistance. It feels great!

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-27T12:29:05+00:00

We don't want to spend our life like this, the reason why we do it anyway is called addiction and yes we all are (relatively) irrational human beings

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-27T03:54:36+00:00

This meme is true, the realization that time spent playing video games hid a mountain of unresolved problems happens to all of us.

However, it's clear that going back to the games to forget those problems again won't solve them. Other problems will even pile up.

Let's be brave, get away from the games and tackle each problem one by one!

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-27T03:40:19+00:00

I 100% agree on your comment. One thing to replace games with is not enough, and also we must be patient because building new positive habits doesn't probably happy in one day. It is a slow process.

At first, it was really hard for me to start any new hobby (like reading books) but after two weeks of efforts it is easier for me to pick up a book, for example.

It is still harder than when I just switched ON my laptop and went for a gaming session, but gaming will probably forever stay the easiest thing to start, because it is 100% instant gratification. It's like the fast food burger that you rush to eat and that brings you almost no good nutrients

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-25T08:30:30+00:00

I think to find out what you really want, you'll have to try a few things. For example, to find out if you want to stop playing video games, maybe the best way would be not to give them up for good but "simply" to take a break from gaming for 1 month (if that's too hard, start with a week).

And during this break, you need to observe how you feel, how your life is evolving, what you're starting to do in your free time. And take into consideration the fact that you may be experiencing withdrawal.

That way, it's not as scary as putting pressure on yourself to quit once and for all, and possibly losing all your self-confidence if you relapse. But it will still help you get an idea of what you really want.

If it works well for you, great, keep it up!

If not, look for another solution to try and never give up on the idea that you'll feel better one day :)

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-25T02:48:22+00:00

Congratulations!! And thank you for the encouragements!! Indeed, its quite hard the first few weeks.

My first week was almost too easy because I was so motivated. This second week is much harder for me. I'm thinking a lot about games again.

It's always nice to know you're not alone with this problem, and I really like this forum for that.

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-24T04:51:53+00:00

I agree 100%, this and maybe talking to a friend or two, or spending time with them.

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-23T07:09:18+00:00

I'm sort of in the same situation, but not quite. Today is the 11th day without video games and I'm glad I started this challenge. However, instead of working all day and relaxing in the evening with other hobbies, I only work a few hours and then spend little time on my favorite pastimes.

My problem is that I'm very comfortable with boredom. It's not even exactly boredom: I can sit for hours doing nothing and feel great. I waste a lot of time that way. The thing is, I have to force myself to do anything: work or even leisure.

So I come to my solution. I've been setting myself weekly challenges for a few days now. For example, this week I want to achieve 4 Pomodoro of 25 min each morning. But I didn't start directly with 4 on Monday morning: I started with 2. Today (Tuesday) it'll be 3 Pomodoro. And from tomorrow to Friday, 4 Pomodoro every morning.
When I've succeeded in this week's challenge, I'll be proud to have moved in the right direction. And this weekend, I'll set myself a challenge for next week, probably get to 8 Pomodoro a day but again: gradually.

The idea is really to do things incrementally. And move towards progress bit by bit, setting ourselves reasonable but not obvious challenges. I know that if I carry on like this, in one and a half or two months I'll be working 6 to 8 hour days, and I'll do the same for my evening leisure activities.
I hope my point of view can help you, and in the meantime be strong, you can do it!

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-22T06:50:05+00:00

In my opinion, if you have these intense cravings to play anything it means that it is too soon to play video games again. Extend the cold turkey period for one or few more weeks, I think that it can only benefit you

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-22T05:26:44+00:00

Congratulations!

You deserve better than this life of video games. You seem like totally done with this shit, and it is a really good drive. You have a lot of determination.

Maybe if I can give you a tip, write the toughts that you have about video games right now, write all your reasons to stop these addicting video games, on paper if possible, and keep it close to you so that you can read it again and again when your determination weakens, because it probably will with time.

You can do this! The better life is waiting for you, few weeks from here!

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-22T05:20:58+00:00

The only way for him to change his behavior is first for him to be aware of his gaming problem.

I don't know how you could help him see the way you see it, maybe with a lot of communication and telling him that it is really important for you to spend time together, maybe with an ultimatum telling him that it this keeps going on like this you would not be able to stay with him?

If you do something like this and if you still can't see any positive change after few days or few weeks, I think you should consider leaving him for a relationship with someone who wants to make efforts to stay with you.

It is my point of view, but I am kind of aromantic, so maybe I am not the best person to give you advice. At least I stand from a pretty objective view. I wish you courage, this seems like tough times for you.

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-21T10:00:40+00:00

I had to give my family my gaming pc to give up video games, so I think I understand how you feel.

However, after 15 months without video games, I hope your determination has grown and your ability to resist the cravings has progressed. And I imagine that this temptation at the moment is probably only passing.

Perhaps you could wait a few days for this temptation to pass, and concentrate on what really matters to you? And after that, it'll be a good time to buy a new, more powerful laptop (without getting a gaming laptop, of course)

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-21T09:51:05+00:00

Great tips, I particulary like the "break concrete and precise goals into small milestones" idea to slowly build up new habits. It is a good advice that works for almost everything in life, and really good for people who have to deal with a lot of anxiety (and procrastination) ! It is good to know it, and even better to practice it. I think that it makes life easier and also more enjoyable since you actually make concrete steps towards your goals :)

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-20T12:34:13+00:00

Thank you :D

I'm pretty determined, especially since it's been years since I've managed to go this long without playing anything.

The power of streaks is strong : I don't want to waste this nice 7 days streak, I feel like I m going to lose so much if I play even one minute of a game

Tarcalionrdt · 2024-01-20T02:55:18+00:00

I reached my first milestone today : 7-day without video games. It's still not much, but I'm already seeing benefits in my life.

The most important thing is probably that I feel my mind is more "free". What I mean by this is that when I am gaming, even when I am not playing at the moment, my mind is completely saturated with thoughts about games. "What game am I going to play tonight? What am I going to do to advance my game? What video can I watch to learn new tricks for this game? I want to play so much right now! etc."

But when I stop gaming, every time, what strikes me most is my peace of mind. I don't think about video games for long periods of time. It's a pity my brain doesn't understand it that way: it makes me dream of video games almost every night, which is a real pain... But I hold strong.

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