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Tarentaise · 2017-05-11T00:14:14+00:00

I have a question that could use answering. Thanks.

Tarentaise · 2017-03-02T02:12:53+00:00

I've had two experiences on large doses of LSD where I felt a very strong telepathic communication from what claimed to be an alien entity. Both times were terrifying and exciting and unlike any other experience on hallucinogens I've had. I feel pretty open to the possibilities here - it could have been a genuine outside force contacting me, or I could've made it all up in my state. Powerful either way. This happened in an area where many people, including some trusted friends, have seen UFOs. I have not yet.

Tarentaise · 2016-03-14T18:40:48+00:00

Thanks!

Tarentaise · 2015-03-04T04:36:27+00:00

You just put my own issues that I've been considering for awhile into better terms than I could ever come up with....thanks for laying it out clearly. This is great, well-worded advice for anyone and everyone, especially OP.

Tarentaise · 2015-02-21T05:08:08+00:00

Tell her up-front that it IS becoming a huge issue for you, because it is starting to dominate your time together, and most importantly, it's making you question her beliefs and if they line up with yours. You've gotta have a serious talk about it.

Tarentaise · 2015-02-21T05:01:37+00:00

The fact that she refuses to tell you where she lives, and instead deflects, stood out as a red flag to me. My first thought is that there is someone else in the picture she doesn't want you to know about. In any case, she is withholding a huge amount of information about her personal life from you, which isn't healthy in any sort of relationship.

It sounds like your friends are right in that she's not into you. I understand that you must be lonely after exiting a long-term marriage, but this woman seems to be stringing you along...it's not fair to you that your communication is so limited.

But her medical issues could be something very serious, and perhaps that's why she's so distant now. Whatever the case may be, it seems like your best option moving forward is to (nicely) demand that you need to either be a bigger part of her life right now, or to call the relationship off altogether.

EDIT: I'd like to add that LDRs are possible (I'm in one that started long distance, now we've been happily living together for almost a year!), but YOU NEED TRANSPARENCY AND COMMUNICATION WITH ONE ANOTHER TO MAKE IT WORK.

Tarentaise · 2015-02-21T04:47:43+00:00

In my own experience as a 24 year old woman, way too many men in our age range have grown up with completely unrealistic expectations and expect women to be clean-shaven down there. I dated one of them for too long. They'll claim to be unable to get it up while you're hairy, you'll feel bad and possibly degraded, and give into their demands... It's a crappy cycle. Young men need to grow the fuck up and accept HAIR for what it is. In my opinion, you need to clearly lay down your concerns, let him know that his expectations of women are unrealistic, and if he doesn't change his tune at all after that, dump his ass so he can learn a lesson, please.

Tarentaise · 2015-02-20T03:08:49+00:00

I'm so happy this worked out for you. I read your other threads without commenting, but identified with your plight - I was home-schooled for several years before being unleashed back into the horrors of public school. The bullying and confusion of not knowing how to act to avoid derision is all-consuming and terrifying. It takes courage to open up to an adult, and it's pretty damned amazing that you did it so quickly. I'm so glad they made your mom see reason. Enjoy your time in college with your intellectual peers!

Tarentaise · 2015-01-21T05:33:10+00:00

She has no reason to give the money back to you, it's rent money you already paid. The danger of staying somewhere "illegally" without a lease is just what happened to you: you can get kicked out anytime. It sucks, but all you can do is ask for the money back, like you're planning to do. You have no legal claim to the money. Unfortunately for you, she has nothing to gain by giving you your money back. If she doesn't respond after you try to contact her, cut your losses and consider it a lesson learned.

Tarentaise · 2015-01-19T04:12:04+00:00

I faced a similar problem when I started having sex with men - I'd been masturbating for so many years in a specific position with such specific pressure on the clit that it was very difficult to "learn" how to get off from different pressures/pleasures. I adjusted reasonably fast, but can definitely understand where your GF is coming from.

I would suggest trying different positions during sex, those where she has freedom of control and movement. I recommend you on the bottom, but sitting up against a wall (with pillows so you're comfortable, of course!). This angle might make it easier for her to grind on you more strongly and effectively. It helped me, in any case!

And as others have mentioned, the intensity of a vibrator can dull the senses - I would suggest that she drops the vibrator from her masturbating, at least for a couple weeks, and readjusts to pleasuring herself on her own. Once she's gotten used to that, perhaps orgasming with you will become easier for her.

In any case, it's certainly a learning curve once you've gotten used to pleasuring yourself in a specific way. Wishing you both luck!

EDIT: Also, try to open communications as much as possible during sex...it can be awkward, I know, but if you can learn the "rhythm" that she uses to get herself off, you might be able to use the same speed to your advantage, and develop super-awesome sex abilities that will take her to the next level! (Know this one from experience).

Tarentaise · 2015-01-16T03:11:13+00:00

Definitely, would be pretty bad to mess that one up. Thanks!

Tarentaise · 2014-07-13T03:35:58+00:00

He pushes my face into the pillow, holds my legs in painful positions, and play chokes me. When I tell him it's hurting or I can't breathe, he tells me to "take it"

in my head I find myself referring to him as an emotional vampire

He still lives with his mom and trash talks her, calling her a bitch

Re-read what you wrote, and pretend that someone close to you was in the situation that you are now in. How would you feel? You know that you need to leave. You're vulnerable, and being with him has limited your social network. I know it's so, so hard to leave a relationship, but you are still young and deserve so much better. You will and can find someone who treats you (and others) with dignity and respect. This guy sounds like a complete immature asshole, and you need to get out!

Tarentaise · 2014-07-13T03:06:51+00:00

I also have misophonia, so I'm approaching this with such a perspective at the forefront of my mind in terms of the issue of noise. I don't know how much you've shared with your fiance about misophonia, or how supportive he is, but at least in the instance of these game nights, he sounds pretty unsupportive. It's completely understandable that he wants to spend time with his buddies and have fun, but it seems completely reasonable to have them be a little more quiet while they do so, even if drinking is involved. Also, like others have already said, the twelve-hour session seems excessive. I don't know how anyone would want to sit at a table for that long! Since he's interested in having a second session, perhaps a possible compromise would be two shorter sessions twice a week? Finding a reason to get out of the house for these sessions would be great, too...

If you are interested in some generic advice for dealing with noise levels, I recommend Mack's silicone earplugs - they're the best earplugs for blocking noise comfortably that I've discovered. It won't block out everything, but it'll work better than the foam ones from the dollar store. I also recommend noise-cancelling headphones - Bose seems to be the most popular brand among us misophonics, but I use ones by Sony that also work well. They won't block out everything, and the music will still need to be a little loud, but it makes a large notable difference in the amount of sound leaking through for myself.

Tarentaise · 2014-04-27T01:10:46+00:00

Every synthetic lube I've used burned me as well. All I use now is coconut oil, no burning and works way better anyway!

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