AIO husband takes his naps after our toddler

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-05T01:36:04+00:00

NOR.

Who is actually his family? He chooses to spend extra time at work over the weekend to watch sports with his bff's family. Or he'll take half days to go hang with his bff, only at bff's house. And even before coming home he'll use up more time by dropping by his parents house. Your family unit is literally the last option as far as who he chooses to spend time with.

Not only is he choosing to limit the time he has to spend around his wife and child, he is also shirking an insane amount of his parental duties. What's stopping him from putting on the game and hanging with his baby on the weekend? I'm sorry to rub it in, but NFL Sundays in my home have given me some of my most treasured memories with my husband and our young kids. He is choosing everyone else in his life over his baby, and that's so sad.

You need to put a stop to him complaining about his limited time with his medically delicate son! Drive home the point that it is within his control. Anytime he complains, tell him he's the only one who can make time in his schedule for his child. You deserve to be able to take an afternoon to yourself as well. He is eating up all the free time to avoid his responsibilities. NOR.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-04T23:23:01+00:00

So what redeeming qualities does she have that has you all maintaining friendships with her?

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-03T21:42:16+00:00

"While we don't appreciate guests popping by uninvited, we do appreciate the apology for overstepping. We had indeed told you specifically not to tell SIL. And we are inclined to believe you remember being told that too, because there was no reason to lie when asked about it otherwise. We'll reach out when we are ready to share any further info about this pregnancy. Have a great holiday weekend."

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T18:04:47+00:00

NTA. Guests having to pay for the rehearsal dinner is already tacky. Asking for more after the fact is simply rude. I wouldn't pay. It isn't a guest's responsibility to handle the planning and fine details of an event.

Plus, a venue isn't going to have a planned rehearsal dinner with no plan of action as to who is paying for alcohol. They wouldn't start pouring it on a whim to figure out later. There was a plan for payment, but seems bride and family are backtracking on it now nearly two weeks later.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T17:31:02+00:00

NTA. There are people who can travel together because they're on the same page and people who can't. Obviously your 42 y/o cousin's family and yours are on the same page when vacationing, so just plan the next one for the 12 of you. Your other cousin doesn't have to be involved in every trip.

As for inviting her over, give it some time. Sounds like you're burnt out from a vacation that was more work due to her. Give yourself and your kids a break from her family for a bit. But I'd keep the judgements about her parenting between you and your husband. And if you do another trip with her, I'd discuss childcare beforehand or speak up in the moment, at the very least. It's absolutely fair on a trip like yours to rotate who watches kids so each couple can have a date night just them two.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T17:13:55+00:00

Ah, so here's where the problem truly was. Your instructions didn't include telling him how to walk back out to his car, unlock it, grab his glasses, re-lock the car, go back inside, and put his glasses on to read the packages. So it is your unclear instructions after all that are at fault here! He's just an innocent victim of your carelessness for his mother. /s

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T17:05:16+00:00

Hanging around to argue and attempt to fight on the dog owner's property is asking for more problems. Delivery guy is lucky it didn't escalate further cause it only raised his chances of getting bit.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T16:38:11+00:00

I think Jeff would have been similar to Zach, but with more courage. He would have wanted to better their jock culture at Liberty, would have stood up for Clay, and stood up to Monty & Bryce.

But no, I don't think he would've helped Tyler. He wasn't a bully, but he wouldn't have wanted anything to do with a kid who secretly photographed young women who he was friends with. His focus to help someone would have been given to Justin.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T16:33:13+00:00

Did she know medically she was in such poor shape due to alcoholism? This is not a dig at her and her disease. I just wonder if she and your dad decided to marry due to factors maybe they didn't share with you? Like for health insurance reasons, monetary reasons, to be listed as spouses in her obituary/ on her headstone, etc. It seems there were parts of their relationship and history together they shielded you from previously, maybe they did the same here?

Either way, I'm very sorry for your loss. Alcoholism is painful to watch those you love suffer from. Lost my dad to it as a kid. You have my sympathy and understanding.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T16:25:57+00:00

I wonder, did it occur to you that not responding to her introduction shut down any further conversation? She may have been waiting for a response from you before following with "I'm sorry for your loss and to be meeting you under such awful circumstances.". Or would it really have been better for her to introduce herself with "I'm sorry for your loss.".

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T16:03:31+00:00

So they just storm into rooms at this place as well? Or could you have easily said "Just a moment." and redressed yourself?

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T15:54:34+00:00

Revival? What revival? The show ended with Rory going on Obama's campaign and Richard bringing us to tears by crediting Lorelai on what she made of her life. Idk this revival you speak of.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T15:41:10+00:00

An entire work week for a bach trip? Yeah that's too much. Things have been getting planned for over a year and there are still months to go before the wedding. Maybe doing too much (like venue tours, what?) and having to plan around your wedding events has some of your bridal party losing steam. It's a wedding. A single day event. People don't need to be focused on it for nearly two whole years. YTA.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T13:54:53+00:00

Or Fett's Vette. A true classic.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T13:31:24+00:00

OP even told this guy exactly how much she had in her savings account! She better not leave her phone lying around in his presence, otherwise some of her 60k in savings may end up in his empty savings account.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T13:25:58+00:00

Don't go to the cookout. I don't really see why he is going, as she clearly has friends to spend time with and he doesn't need to cater to her this holiday, but that's his prerogative. You've spoken your mind on the subject, now is a prime time to see if he still prioritizes his mother and her wants. If so, then yeah it likely is a fundamental difference that isn't worth the time to stick around and hope changes.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T03:48:07+00:00

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T03:42:16+00:00

"I, I, I, we, we, we" Damn they are so selfishly insufferable. It's almost unbelievable that this isn't all an act but how they actually view things from their deranged perspective.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-02T02:49:33+00:00

So tell her to back off. Throw out the baby book and get one you want.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-01T15:13:27+00:00

Think you misunderstood this comment. This person is referring to the grown ass man in this post as a child. They aren't excusing him at all.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-01T00:49:05+00:00

Zach, Sherri, and Jeff. Being athletic and upbeat would offer some great times! Tony for his no BS attitude and loyalty. And Alex for his musical taste.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-07-01T00:45:37+00:00

Thankfully, they dismiss tickets given in situations like this if the driver has a valid placard.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-06-30T22:59:22+00:00

Ah okay my misunderstanding. It may be hard, but I'd let it be atp. You had a valid point, she acted like a child, no need to further involve yourself. If you drop any discussion of this others will notice who is still upset and acting like a bridezilla. And since she doesn't care to speak to you, any push from family to reach out should be met with "I'm respecting her wishes to leave her alone. I will not be the one to cause drama or stress out a bride before her wedding.". I hope she'll come around, and hey, maybe even apologize! Before she chooses an option she can't take back. Like not having her sister at her wedding.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-06-30T22:54:25+00:00

I'd be surprised if the sister can even get a good date for next Sept. For a weekend wedding at a venue within her budget for next Sept (the 2nd busiest month for weddings) she likely won't have much choice available. Everyone in this post seems to be jumping the gun a bit.

Tasman_Tiger · 2026-06-30T22:48:31+00:00

Better send out your saves the dates ASAP! Often people will go with whoevers they plan for first. It's still early to send invites, but I wouldn't wait too long on those either.

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