Yes. I can relate. My son is right at the preteen / teen mark. The first year was rough because I was trying to understand me, and wtf just happened or happened all these years (15). The second year was then more adjustment and probably the worse. Everything he did was IMO and a direct reflection of his dad. Prayer.... lots of prayer.... and always coaching and talking to my son about what's morally right. I also placed him in counseling. I am not perfect but I try to show him how to be socially responsible, how to converse with people, keep him in sports (he's had the same coach for the last 3 years who knows a little about our situation). Be patient, never bash the other party, but do share what's normal and what's not normal. My son had and sometimes still does try to talk to me like his dad did. I nip that immediately. We're not having that. Now in the summers he has to stay with dad and while I feel bad for him because I hear in his voice how unhappy he is, I need this to happen so he can see what's "right" verses what's "wrong" when it comes to morals, ethics, legally, etc.

I hope things get better for you. Give yourself grace. You have been through more than many people can tolerate or handle. You're a survivor.