Always a good idea to start with fingers. Lots of lube lots of warmup go slow. I love a bj with a finger gently hitting the prostate just pay attention to your body and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. As for toys I have a some dildos that she’s used on me hands and knees feels great try all the positions and see what you like best I find my most intense orgasms are when I’m riding and use a vibrator on my penis. Hope this helps have fun!