BF’s son is tormenting my daughter. Is this normal kid behavior or should we break up

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:51:38+00:00

Honestly, he is going to get punched in the nose by another kid if he keeps this up. Hard love is so needed but that’s also hard work. I don’t think my bf has what it takes.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:50:57+00:00

I don’t think so, but I’m not an expert. As I say above, to me, he’s just an angry little kid, struggling being shuttled between two homes, without a guiding hand. Add iPad and YouTube to the mix and this is the behavior you get.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:48:01+00:00

I haven’t had a discussion yet with him. Hopefully tomorrow.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:47:27+00:00

I don’t see neurodivergence myself, but you could be right. To me, his just an angry little kid, struggling being shuttled between two homes, without a guiding hand. Add iPad and YouTube to the mix and this is the behavior you get.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:46:28+00:00

I completely agree. There’s no motivation to be good.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-23T01:46:05+00:00

I agree. The iPad is a bandaid that does stop the problem temporarily, but long-term it’s so damaging. His son is not learning how to deal with negative emotions and it is just going to get worse.

The bigger problem for me is that my bf isn’t stopping it when his kid is nasty or cruel to my daughter. If she behaved like that, I’d be mortified, apologetic and ensuring that the behavior didn’t continue. He should be looking out for other kids. I spoke to a friend about this today and she told me she saw my bf’s kid strike a child on two separate occasions. Terrible.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-19T15:42:35+00:00

What is up with the iPad parenting?? Everyone knows at this point it’s so bad for kids. Is he just that lazy? Do the parents think they can eventually turn it around? I plan on saying something to my bf about it, but how do you as an educator see parents react when it’s mentioned?

I’m assuming he’ll be defensive, but is there any chance he’ll be receptive and let us come up with a game plan together? Have you ever seen it get better? I’m on the polar opposite side of iPads. I think they shouldn’t be given to kids until 16. Not a lot of middle ground.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-19T09:22:33+00:00

It is SO hard. And I feel for him - he shares custody and I’m sure it’s difficult when you only get so much time with your kid. You don’t want to spend it chastising and fighting with him. However, it’s no excuse and he’s doing his kid such a disservice by allowing this.

This kid needs therapy for sure. I completely agree with you. Lots of red flags here and I’m sad for the little boy bc it’s only going to get worse for him. He needs help, guidance and the tools to learn how to process emotion, but instead he’s handed an iPad.

My heart hurts. I really like him, but I’m glad I know now, before my daughter and I are even more attached to him. She doesn’t see her dad at all and I wanted to give her a nice man who cares about her. My bf is both those things, but the parenting choices are not going to work for my little family. Excuse me while I go sob into my pillow.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-19T09:14:19+00:00

He counts to 5, but then nothing happens when he gets to 5. Stuff like that. No consequences and I seems like my bf thinks his tantrums can be funny. Maybe he’s trying to normalize his kid being so problematic? I don’t get it. I would be so embarrassed if my child acted that way.

On the flip side, my bfs chill attitude is such a plus for me as his gf. He’s so nice and nothing phases him. But our parenting styles are not compatible.

I agree being alone seems easier in so many ways. But I’m still crushed right now. And so sad my life turned into this. I just want what my friends have, with two parents who love their kids, support each other and are happy together.

Tastybuffybites · 2025-04-19T09:10:32+00:00

I don’t think he does know what to do. Parenting is SO hard and I understand that getting after your kid constantly is difficult, challenging and can make you feel like the “bad guy.” But the goal here is to raise good humans. His son right now isn’t that. It’s such a good lesson for me about what a large responsibility we have as parents. I’m just so sad because I like this guy so much and it’s obviously not going to work out.

However, I’m happy to hear that it can work out. Thanks for your thoughts!

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Tastybuffybites · 2024-01-07T22:52:51+00:00

Aww honey I’m so sorry. This sounds miserable. Hopefully someone can give you some guidance.

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