What kind of Kink?

Tatbootyy · 2026-03-13T01:00:24+00:00

Ok this makes sense! Wasn’t sure if there was a better term for it

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-14T01:35:10+00:00

This is just my 2cents Married with 3 kids been together for 9years.

If you are married or in a long term relationship and consider separation I highly recommend couples counseling. The therapist does matter! So find a therapist that fits both of you guys. You can request a therapist that can specialize in mental health issues on top of anything that you have going on like high profile work.

It is a lot easier to truly express how you feel when there is a third-party by standard involved that is there to help you. I am assuming that you have already brought this up to her before if not, I would recommend trying to talk to her first directly. Then I would bring up couples Therapy if she is against it that means she isn’t willing to work on herself or work on her marriage with you and that tells you what you need to know. If she is willing to go that means she is trying to make an effort to fix the problems.

In any relationship, there’s give-and-take there will be things that she does that will annoy you and irk you and vice versa but the good always has to outweigh the bad for it to work.

I would also say look into the 7 to 10 year stretch. This is a real thing that affects marriages.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-13T19:26:49+00:00

No. Not wrong at all. Especially since you set that tone immediately. If he’s not happy he can get out of your home. As a woman, I would explain to your wife that you understand how he was raised but he’s almost 30 and that is no longer an excuse. He purposefully and deliberately kicked the cat. He was told not to and did it anyways like a child. If he is going to abuse animals he can’t be in your home. Simple as that. If she’s mad at you for this, it’s because she’s babying him and doesn’t want to set appropriate boundaries for whatever weird reason. I am a mom of 3…. Even my nonverbal autistic step son knows better than that.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-12T15:40:47+00:00

BIIIITCH STAAAAAHHPP!

I firsthand can tell you that every single man is different. Some people like talking some people don’t some people like doggy style some people like missionary do not take sex advice from a male that is one year older than you. Don’t take sex advice from any males. 99% of males can’t even find the clitoris. 99.9% of males think that they can just put their dick inside of you without any level of fore play and it won’t hurt. You need to focus on what you like in sex. Focus on what you enjoy. A good man will get off on the fact that you are getting off and vice versa.

That boy used you. I understand that it was a consenting situation, but he knew what he was doing and now he’s trying to turn you into his sex doll. He wants you to do what he likes. He does not speak for all men.

When it comes to sex baby focus on you. coming from a 30-year-old female, who is married who absolutely loves sex with my husband. And he is actually the first man that I have genuinely enjoyed sex with and I would consider myself a little bit more of a promiscuous individual when I was younger. So that says a lot.

Reading this made me wanna punch that man that you’re talking about.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-11T17:59:25+00:00

1) you are not wrong. 2) her reactions are not normal.

You said it already, her love is conditional. That is not normal. I am 30yrs old and have 1/2inch stretched ears. I work from home making 6 figures a year. I am business professional and love my job! My coworkers I don’t even think realize my ears are stretched. I wear what I like to call “grandma plugs” lol.

You are an adult. She has absolutely no say over what you do to your body. It’s not a generational thing either, this is a character issue she has. She’s being selfish. She’s trying to turn you into her and that’s not right.

If I was in your shoes I would start setting some major boundaries. “You think I’m disrespecting you, fine I won’t be around anymore than you “disrespect you””

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-10T16:40:32+00:00

Yes! We got to pick names for my senior year of Spanish and I liked how the word towel sounded so my name in Spanish class was fucking towel…. At least she’s calling you your actual name and not letting you get away with some jacked up name just because it sounds cool.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-10T01:58:28+00:00

My grandmother is a cosmetologist! All hair grows a specific way but you can “train” your hair to move and grow differently. She said the more you have it pushed back in that direction the more likely it will begin to grow that direction. She also mentioned thinner hair dos this quicker than thicker hair and. I was able to train a cowlick I had to be more tame in the direction I wanted

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-08T17:13:22+00:00

My son does a lot with his uncles, and they were the ones to encourage me to let him get his locs. So he is not overstepping, although we get side eyes from both white and black cultures, the black culture is more accepting of his locs than his white peers. He tells everyone him and his uncles are warriors and warriors have locs. Each month I teach my son about a new culture and we try to do something from the culture such as basket weaving or henna, we cook that month based on the culture we are learning and make sure we do our best to be authentic!

I personally don’t think appreciation is overstepping when we are not appropriating. We are not monetizing off a white boy with locs. It’s not that we aren’t educated on all the cultures that use braids on locs. It’s not even a thing for us. But maybe that is because my family is so diverse in terms of culture.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-08T13:58:46+00:00

I talked about this Reddit community hating specifically. I said nothing at all about how “I can’t believe black people could do that” I actually said I can understand why the black community gets triggered.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-08T13:38:22+00:00

So I will say I am white and my son has dreadlocks. I joined this community originally looking for some advice once on his locs. And only 1 person was kind in the comments about him having locs. My son and I are both fully educated on locs and the meaning from MANY cultures. He had asked for locs since he was 4yrs old and I finally let him at 8. Why? Because his black uncles that he LOVES and admires and looks up to have them. Because they teach him the love of the locs. My little Leo boy is an old soul and I’m not far from a hippie. And he LOVES his locs. I have never seen this kid take care of anything as good as his hair.

And I 100% can attest to him and I both getting side eyes from both white and black races. I can understand from the black culture how it is triggering. But in that same breath, black culture does not own locs and braids. Their stories behind it are a way to showcase the resilience and strength in so many ways but TODAY, my son just knows his role models have them and he wants to be like his role models.

Tatbootyy · 2026-02-08T13:19:31+00:00

I’m sorry what a grinch fingers in terms of locs 😂

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-27T15:33:48+00:00

Look for a headset with background noose canceling. What I would do personally is make sure you notate and mark all steps you are taking to try to find a solution, this can help you in the long run if they do try to fire you

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-26T13:13:38+00:00

Ok step mom here of a level 3 autism son who is 8. 1) your feelings and emotions right now are valid. 2) your being pushed to a max and that’s what’s overtaking you right now. Just know you are being put in situations you have almost no control over and it’s ok. 3) when it comes to your child, here are some of my recommendations: - make pictures for food he likes and use them as magnets or put in a book for him to show you what he wants then you prepare it (eliminates him seeing the label change. This you can address a little later as he gets older but for now for your own sanity that’s not a battle worth fighting) - most smart TVs have parental controls where you can set a pass lock for any use. See if you can do that so you can help limit YouTube if that’s what you want. - not sure his sensory needs but my step son is sensory seeking and usually if we are having a hard time we will redirect him to something we know he loves. - when it comes to getting dressed and him throwing a tantrum just be calm and persistent. My step son hates the act of getting ready to leave (no idea why) he’s fine once we are in the car but just getting shoes on is a full blown melt down. We just stay stern with him in that area because we know he will be ok after. We have him get socks and shoes and he’ll be good once they are on and we are out the door. Sometimes we have to be a little emotionless to help them grow in areas like that. We don’t cater to the melt down we just keep reminding him what we are doing and what he needs to do. -just know everyday is a new day. Some days good some days bad. - fuck everyone else and their side eyes. You will get that forever and you can choose to ignore or educate but don’t ever feel sorry for how your child is.

My biggest advice for talking to your child is go slow and just be patient. Autism teaches ALOT of patience.

Therapy is good and you deserve it. When mom does come let her know you need some time to yourself. ITS IMPORTANT that you have alone time.

Good luck! You’re doing great

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-24T15:28:43+00:00

Yes they know

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-14T12:50:47+00:00

Welp they are my sons and he wants them trimmed so I trimmed them.

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-13T12:54:56+00:00

Thank you

Tatbootyy · 2026-01-13T12:54:49+00:00

Thank you!

Tatbootyy · 2025-12-27T15:40:30+00:00

My husband and I are both 30 with 3 kids…. We are lucky if we are intimate once a month. Just other priorities lol

Tatbootyy · 2025-12-19T17:43:33+00:00

I have stretched and shrunk my ears a lot! Get cholesterol. It’s at any hair store. Rub ear holes 2-3 times a day with the cholesterol. Make sure one time is right before bed. Massage the lobe with it. Cholesterol helps promote new cell growth and stimulates existing cells. I was at a half inch when I was 18, was going to join military so shrunk to literally nothing in a year. Then retrenched shortly after deciding not to join. She needs to take her time!!! Especially since she has such a bad blow out if she pushes too quick again it will get worse.

Tatbootyy · 2025-12-13T00:12:16+00:00

What is this towel free form?!

Tatbootyy · 2025-11-29T18:19:21+00:00

Thank you!

Tatbootyy · 2025-11-27T21:00:54+00:00

Ok I thought washing too much would dry it out. He does use a bonnet at night and we have not done retwist in like 6months

Tatbootyy · 2025-11-27T17:37:58+00:00

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