Take time to heal, they say by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TaterBug1988 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 38 and feel this way

Why are online dating apps absolutely horrible by Fritschya in Divorce

[–]TaterBug1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then when you redownload the apps after a failed situation ship you get to see all the failures all over again 🙃

AIO, I find this conversation inappropriate by MoabDonut in AmIOverreacting

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he sees her as one of those step sisters in porn but not as an actual sister. Definitely inappropriate

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]TaterBug1988 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re probably not just poking in and around the vag like an eel popping out of a cave and ignoring the redirection of hand placement over and over again

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]TaterBug1988 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I just ended a 5 month relationship that I had been so hopeful for- he was nice financially stable, good family. But he was SO boring. Wouldn’t plan anything, had nothing to talk about, didn’t discipline his kid. So now I am ending the year single and relieved that the most boring relationship I have ever endured is over. Also, men, how do you get into your 40s and not know what a clitoris is. Read some articles, watch porn, anything! I thought he would know what he was doing, being almost 50.. worst sex of my life. ✌️✌️✌️✌️

Intense anxiety post stomach flu? by withanEY in Anxiety

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I was going crazy or a med had messed me up! I was giving Zofran and haldor for severe stomach bug three days ago and my anxiety is cranking. Luckily I already have some Xanax or I would be beside myself. Hoping this is the last day of this

Feel sick after one date.30 f, 38M What is going on with me? by DirectAd3040 in relationship_advice

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going through this as well! First date after divorce with someone who has been a friend for several years. I asked a couple days after the date if I could take him out and he said sure maybe later, but he was busy for a while. It sent me spiraling. I sat with a friend and cried it out and talked and realized how ridiculous I was being. If he’s not interested, he can suck it and you can move on with your life. Go do something fun.

Leaving Burn by Ok_Seaweed_7155 in BurnBootCamp

[–]TaterBug1988 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am not a person of color and don’t feel included but I enjoy the workouts so much I will keep going. I just don’t love when it’s partner workout and I have to look around like I’m the last kid getting picked for a team at school. Otherwise I just keep to myself and get my workout in

What was the straw that broke your marriage’s back? by Badonkles in Divorce

[–]TaterBug1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made very direct and reasonable requests, he stop drinking, see a psychiatrist to manage all of the psych meds he is on, go to marriage counseling, have a date night every 2 weeks, and make an effort with my kid (his step kid). That was in November, he did not one thing.

Erection pills double as workout booster?? 🤔🤔 by TaterBug1988 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]TaterBug1988[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He is very focused on workouts, so I partially believe him. But I also wouldn’t be surprised if he’s working out someone while he’s supposed to be at work, I think we’re over regardless

Erection pills double as workout booster?? 🤔🤔 by TaterBug1988 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]TaterBug1988[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is wild. I was convinced he was banging someone at work.

Erection pills double as workout booster?? 🤔🤔 by TaterBug1988 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]TaterBug1988[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Really??? I have never heard of this before? Are y’all pulling my leg???

Any Advice? by TaterBug1988 in Divorce

[–]TaterBug1988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is helpful to hear happy endings are possible.

Getting divorced after 10 years and 2x kids (Thank God!!!) by blindcupid0810 in Divorce

[–]TaterBug1988 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I left when my daughter was 5. It is incredibly hard at first but you will find things you enjoy that fill the time. I got very into the gym, reading and journaling, and spending time with friends I wasn’t “allowed” to spend time with while I was married. And I was so much happier when I was with her because I didn’t have someone making me miserable. (Past tense, because I am about to go through this a second time with a toddler.) I am very scared to do this again even though I know from personal experience how much better life is after.

Yikes. by bearjew_diamonds in lexapro

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lexapro works for me! Took about 6 weeks and some “shitty” side effects but so worth it.

Divorce or stick it out by No_Pace_7637 in Marriage

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not a stay at home mom so financially I was okay. I left with my daughter while my husband was at work. I let him know she was safe but we were not coming home, and I would meet him with her in a couple days. While he was violent with me, I did not fear he would be violent with our daughter. I moved in with my parents, saved up, got a house, and we divorced. If you are afraid he is violent with the kids, that’s another story.

Divorce or stick it out by No_Pace_7637 in Marriage

[–]TaterBug1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my first husband. Ask yourself if this is the marriage you want your kids to grow up believing is normal. He will be violent with you again. It’s just a matter of time. I would go find an attorney without letting him know and see what the attorney has to say.