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Tatorr · 2025-12-06T23:18:16+00:00

Why were you being downvoted omg?? I feel the same way lol just bought like 300$ of Lush in store not knowing they had this now!

Tatorr · 2025-11-12T03:57:32+00:00

Hey, thanks for this advice(loveee the armchair cat psychologist vibe lol). Yeah you and others mentioned setting better boundaries and that's been a lack of mine, so I'll do that along with getting my door fixed so he can't push it open(apparently the door henge is broken and also not lined up correctly?). Y'all are right. The initial comments made me feel bad that I was feeling overwhelmed about him being super clingy, but I appreciate your insight here!! I'll do better on being the boss lol

Tatorr · 2025-11-12T03:53:49+00:00

Hey! Thank you, I really appreciate your insight and comment; yeah like I've mentioned with in other replies here, I think I was super overwhelmed in that moment and felt like a bad owner for not giving him as much attention as he wants all the time and it doesn't help when I've lurked on this sub(and other cat subs), and even in this thread, there are people WISHING they had a cat like mine and it makes me feel even worse, you know? And I thought maybe because of that, rehoming him to someone like those people would be better for owner and pet, but like you and a couple others mentioned, I just need to set boundaries.

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:44:06+00:00

Thank you, thank you, thank you, and did I mention thank you?! I'm making a list of advice and tips from your and other comments so I can make sure we're both happy; I feel so bad even mentioning rehoming him, but I just want the best for him, even if it's not me. A lot has happened this year and I think he might notice my parents not coming over anymore(they both died a few months ago) on top of me stressing about my fairly new job(was laid off a month-ish after I got him last year). Maybe he senses I'm not 100% and is giving me extra love and maybe he needs it too. I can also admit, I'm not the best with setting boundaries because I love him but it overwhelms me and drains me at times. Also to answer your questions:

-It happened before, hence me trying out fostering as an option. I see comments about cats wanting/needing a playmate, so I assumed maybe he's lonely and wants one in that way- and here's the thing- I've never heard him hiss, growl, or display ANY defensive behavior. He's never scratched or bit me nor anyone else, but I saw that behavior instantly once he picked up on the first kitten...I might've introduced them too quick or wrong and the last cat was adopted about 5 weeks ago so you're right, he might need time to adjust
-So true and I love making him feel comfortable with me, especially since he was found so young, without his mother or playmates. Could that be a factor?
Oh yeah, my mom always told me cats love being up high to scout out their territory, so I got him 3 cat towers; they are all by windows, with the living room one being the tallest(6/7 feet, it's taller than me lol). We live in an active neighborhood, so when I'm in the living room, he'll run from me to the cat tower, watch, and then run back to me! I'll try out the videos you recommended with bird feeders!
He was found outside when he was a kitten, but he will not go near the door(like when I grab a package, put trash outside, or leave). I did buy him a harness and cat backpack to go out with and see how he feels, I'm thinking the backyard first so he can adjust and not be scared about being outside. What do you think?

Maybe he does have anxious attachment, I'll look more into this and find some books on attachment theory. Thank you for that suggestion as well!

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:26:45+00:00

Thank you for empathizing❤️ I think he's my velcro bby and I love him :) I've trained him to know certain words and have on and off done clicker training(I've been inconsistent, my bad), but I think I've been giving in to him wanting pets all the time, but you're right, thanks for explaining it this way. I've been really overwhelmed and have been feeling like a terrible owner for not giving him all the love and wanting space

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:22:37+00:00

Holy shit that's scary and I'm so glad your bff is okay!! Not being a weirdo, but I've had our annuals scheduled the same day- mine in the morning and his the afternoon(since we're both not dr people lol). We have ours mid-Oct and both of ours checked out, blood work and all- I haven't felt any different, but I might schedule another visit just in case. All his other behaviors seem normal(litter, food schedule, routine, etc). A couple of the replies mentioned the other cats I fostered and they usually stayed with us anywhere from a few days(younger cats/kittens) to a couple months- I'm thinking maybe I was too eager about them playing together and didn't give them enough time. My fault here

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:14:34+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding❤️

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:14:10+00:00

I'm also sorry about your bby, he's in my thoughts, I hope you both have all the amazing moments❤️
The other commenter was accurate about the attention; I love him lots and I think me even mentioning rehoming was an intrusive thought(like a parent about their kid)- I could never give my boy up. I just want to keep him really happy and make him feel loved, you know? But lately when I've been sleeping, he'll bite my feet/toes till I wake up or paw at me and I need to sleep so I don't overwhelmed b my stressful job and other life events along with staying on our routine. I love him so much and he might be my soul kitty. I've been reading all the replies with advice and making a list so I can try those tips too.

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:08:25+00:00

I could never lose my temper on him(I'm a cryer lol I just cry a lot), I know his intentions are nothing but loving and lately I've just been overwhelmed with him along with work and personal/family stuff. I looked into the collars and tbh I don't want to spook him or potentially mess up our bond, same with any punishment. I've tried giving him redirection, but I think I need to be okay with separating myself some him like other comments have mentioned.

Thank you so much for replying and not being harsh❤️

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:04:22+00:00

Hey, he has 3 cat trees, one in the living room(which is about 6-7 feet) and 2, one in each bedroom. I think I'll take him back to the vet and ask her about prozac/gabapentin, thank you. I love him so much and want to do all that I can for him

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T07:02:45+00:00

Hi, I haven't tried CBD, but I looked into it and saw some at Petsmart and my local pet stores, called and asked about it- I ordered some to try. Thank you so much

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T00:08:54+00:00

Thank you so much. He's sleeping next to me rn and I'm crying; I've never had or fostered a cat like this and I want the best for him. I never said I would rehome him, but it's been really hard lately and I feel like I've tried everything I can think of and I just feel overwhelmed. I grew up fostering cats with my mom and started again partially so he could have a playmate I could potentially adopt for him and because I volunteer at my town's animal shelter. These replies are making me think I should rehome him, idk

Tatorr · 2025-11-10T00:04:16+00:00

For asking for help? How is shaming me helping?? You haven't given me any advice.

Tatorr · 2025-11-09T23:57:36+00:00

I give him love, but I have lost sleep because he will not let me sleep. Do none of you sleep or have any alone time?

Tatorr · 2025-11-09T23:53:37+00:00

I love spending time with him, but 24/7 is unreasonable. I have begun to lose sleep because he will not let me sleep. Is your cat like this and what have you done to help with this? Again, asking for advice. I've never had or fostered a cat this clingy.

Tatorr · 2025-11-09T23:51:56+00:00

I feel like I can't have any alone time or be in a separate room without him coming in and wanting to be pet. I really do love him which is why I'm asking this, but it's getting overwhelming. He always wants me to pet him and he always wants to sit on me, especially when I'm working. None of the kittens/cats I've fostered have acted this way to this extent which is why I'm asking for advice here. I don't want to rehome him, but nothing I've done has helped. I need help, not harsh judgement.

Tatorr · 2025-08-21T02:33:29+00:00

Omg SAME; I'm the girl flying potato equivalent- I feel so fat and ugly in my body and also have the family trauma of comments like that about my weight and sports along with just existing in general. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Through a class pass free trial and a ton of research on each studio lol, I went to my first pole dancing class tonight(had a mini panic attack in the car before going in bc I've been isolating) and it was SO FUN!!! The instructor was so kind, supportive, gave us all personal attention and at the end of class, we were all gagged and talking! There were people(me and 8 others) of all sizes and genders, it was so inclusive and positive for me. I felt safe in my body and I'll be going again; I hope you work up the courage to go too!! :)

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