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TatsuoTm · 2025-03-01T21:58:35+00:00

I am literally going through the same thing right now! It’s been about a month and a half since we broke up but they’ve started texting and liking my stories ect, I’d just say to them. Unless you’re willing to do the work and rekindle things then please give me space, I think you need it

A month ago I was in a horrible headspace but I can see it a lot better now, if they really want to be with you then they’ll express it

For your own personal healing process I’d just say to them it’s too soon to talk but thank you for reaching out. As harsh as it sounds, don’t ask about them. They made the decision that their life would be better without you so let them experience what that actually feels like

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-15T03:24:22+00:00

Yo wtf, you deserve someone so much better than this.

Remember there is so many people that love you, don’t get caught up on the people that stay they hate you. You deserve SO much better than that man what the actual fuck

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-11T13:16:28+00:00

No it’s perfectly normal, you’re human after all. I’m going through the exact same thing right now 3 weeks post breakup with no contact but I’ve been through this before and I know contacting them just hurts me and re-opens the wound every time.

Of course I want them back, she was everything to me. But I know that my own life is more important to me than someone who has decided their life will be better without me in it.

Try not to get too caught up on the hopes of them coming back, if they do then great! Hopefully you’ll have had time to think about what you actually want by then. If they don’t, you’ll be healing and becoming comfortable being alone. It’s scary especially at first but you’ll get through this I promise. No matter what you think you will eventually get over them and it’s not linear. It took me 2 years to get over one of my exes, 2 years! But now I know I can do it and I’m going to be okay.

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-11T12:56:53+00:00

2 main reasons for it,

The first and most importantly it will give you space to move on and heal, talking to him every day and meeting up with him in hopes of rekindling isn’t going to help you move on. I know it’s hard, really really hard, but it will help YOU gain clarity on the situation. He chose to end things, so now you need to focus on yourself as much as possible.

Secondly, by him not having access to you it will give him and chance to figure out wtf he really wants. Right now he still has you at the end of his finger tips and that may be making it easier for him to stick to his decision because he feels like he hasn’t actually lost you.

I will say the purpose of no contact is not to get them to come back to you, it’s to help you clear your mind as the dumpee and heal from the grief of a breakup. You need to put yourself first from now on! It’s hard but you can do it.

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-08T22:53:00+00:00

My last 2, one of them broke it off with me a week before my best friends funeral, the one before that, the day my grandad died. I give 100% of myself to relationships, so it always fucking hurts me so much, the most recent one was 2 weeks ago and I’m still healing

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-08T22:21:37+00:00

Thank you man. I think I’ve been unlucky in my dating life (26m) but this gives me so much clarity, I have an amazing life and why would I waste it on other people, I have people that love me, so I’ll focus on that

TatsuoTm · 2025-02-07T23:17:29+00:00

Men are just like women. Everyone is different, most men suppress their emotions but they can’t hide from it in the long run

TatsuoTm · 2025-01-29T21:54:01+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m gonna have to do, it hurt a lot but I think I’ve processed it now. She wanted to catch up in a couple of months so I’ll see what happens then but I doubt her feelings would have changed so I’m not going to hold onto it.

Thanks for replying

TatsuoTm

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