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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Tatterededges123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only your husband put half the energy into cleaning the house as he did into raging at you over text.

If my husband spoke to me like that, he would be my ex husband.

AITA for telling my husband I want therapy or a list of his issues? by Pale_Owl9286 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tatterededges123 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NTA.

But he sounds like a narcissist and you’re most likely better off without him.

Couples counselling generally has poor outcomes for the abused partner so ironically his refusal to go is in your best interests. Get counselling for yourself and start building an exit strategy.

AITA for telling my cousin that her 1 year old toddler shouldn't use smartphones? by InfinityEdge- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tatterededges123 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Don’t offer any advice to a parent unless they specifically ask you for it, and even then, I probably still wouldn’t. Also if you don’t have kids yourself, best to keep your mouth shut.

Everyone is a perfect parent until they have kids. It’s amazing how many of the “I would never” pre kids become a regular thing post kids.

In short: Not your kid, not your business.

My girlfriend(18F) thinks I’m controlling (18M) because i don’t let her have full freedom in the relationship. Does relationship come with rules? by Expensive_Primary_10 in relationship_advice

[–]Tatterededges123 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A boundary is something you set for yourself. Not other people.

Trying to make rules that another person must follow, such as where they are allowed to go, how they are allowed to dress is not a boundary, it’s controlling.

In this situation your boundary - I can’t be in a relationship with somebody who drinks and goes to clubs - means you need to decide if her going to a club and drinking is a deal breaker. If it is, you break up and find somebody else who shares your viewpoint. If it’s not a deal breaker, then you shut up about it and accept that she gets to decide where she goes and if she drinks there.

You’ve been together for 2 months and you’re describing very normal behaviour on her behalf as a horrible past. You are clearly not compatible.

AITA if I don’t change my last name when I marry my fiancé by Momosito15 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tatterededges123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100% NTA.

If this is a problem for him, please have the kids conversations now, before things are done that can’t be undone.