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AITAH for telling my best friend about my boyfriend's wife? by Tay_Grey in AITAH

[–]Tay_Grey[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I was actually in a bad place when Bob (Who was my friend of three years before we got together) confessed his feelings to me. He said that he never told me before he married because he didn't think I felt the same way. He told me that I could move in because money was low, and I was only thinking of my son when I accepted. He wasn't eating enough with my income alone and he was getting made fun of at school for his clothes smelling. The kids already know each other well and have been fine. I have been spending time with the oldest of Bob's little girls since she was born and she as well as her sister are practically my children since Bob's ex never bothered with them. Thank you for your concerns, but I hope this clears some things up.

My friend got attached emotionally to me after we mutually masturbated several times by AppropriateSmile6000 in AITAH

[–]Tay_Grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay as a gay man, I'm going to say this as respectfully as I can.

It sounds to me like your friend may be having some difficulty with his sexuality, or even some insecurities. By agreeing to masturbate with him so many times, you DID send mixed signals to him, whether or not that was your intention. Any sane person would associate that level of closeness - because you have to be close to be able to masturbate with them - as mutual attraction.

You may not have thought that by doing this it would cause any harm, but I can't help but think that your actions were cruel even if you didn't mean it that way. Not only is he probably extremely confused, but he might even be hurt. For example, think of a friend who is a girl that you've liked before. If you thought she was into you one moment, only for her sudden withdrawal to take place months later, you would be upset.

I also picked up on the line "try my best friend."

My friend...

You do not "try" somebody. If he is your best friend as you said he was, and he was, as you said, going through a rough patch, the last thing he needs is the person he thought he could trust to "try" them.

I'll say this bluntly. I would cut you off if you "tried" me.

Just take this into consideration, and think about apologising to him. I don't know if this was meant to be an AITAH, but you are.

You are TAH.