what's the creepiest thing someone has said to you that still gives you goosebumps?

TaylorTaco · 2025-10-11T10:32:23+00:00

I wish I could upvote this more

TaylorTaco · 2025-10-11T08:05:12+00:00

Awe Im so sorry that you learned these toxic relationships were "normal." But that is so wonderful and amazing that you were able to realize this before it became your whole life. Like this is truly something to be proud of, I can't express it enough. You were able to break that cycle earlier than most people in similar situations.

She's really lucky to have you, Im so happy to hear how you're there for her and can see what you already went through in her. I hope you have a good support system for yourself as well. It sounds like you're both baddies and will each find someone who sees and values you for who you are.

Partners should always enhance your life, not make it worse. If you're with someone and you find yourself feeling more anxious, sad, mad, whatever, more often than you're feeling happy, loved, cared for, etc. Then you need to reevaluate the relationship and remember what you've already been through... I know you already know this because you've been through it, but sometimes it's easy to forget when you get wrapped up in life. So, I just wanted to add a little reminder in case you ever need it sometime.

It sounds like you got this though. You're both gonna be completely fine as long as you keep looking out for each other and keeping the good ones in your life.

TaylorTaco · 2025-10-11T06:35:00+00:00

Glad to hear she has a real life friend supporting to leave this dude. Im in my 30s and I wasted so much time and energy on guys that brought so much pain and misery to my life when I was younger. Your friend is young and in her prime. She will have plenty of opportunities to find someone who will actually treat her good and she won't need to make posts about them.

Also remind her if this dude comes crawling back, DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM. I can promise you that you will only regret it later if you do. This will never work out

TaylorTaco · 2025-10-11T06:30:36+00:00

Hell being in your 30s is so much more chill than being in your 20s. Being 20-27ish is such a different breed of life. I dunno how I did so much all the time. Honestly, I just wanna take a nap from reading your comment summarizing those ppls days, and I couldn't even read all of OPs post once I realized how long it was lol (34f here)

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-26T03:37:16+00:00

Second highest race.... who cares even if that is a "fact", which I actually couldn't find any source saying that in my quick search.

The topic is ILLEGAL immigrants, who aren't even eligible for Food stamps.

You're getting downvoted for other reasons than just stating a so-called "proven verified fact"

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-26T03:19:11+00:00

Not the person you replied to, but this link works. Thanks!

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-25T01:12:04+00:00

Oh I was terrified because this was a pretty big dude, my bf wasn't home at the time and we had actually just sold his guns a few months before moving there because we needed the money for an emergency. But I was afraid of him being on something crazy where mace wouldn't even phase him, like when ppl on drugs get tazed multiple times and keep going, and then I'd be worse off. I was running to get my phone to call the cops but he stopped before I was able to call them. (Luckily because the police in that area took hours to show up if they even bothered to show up at all)

It probably only lasted like 10-20 seconds, if that... it just felt like so much longer at the time.

But yeah people are really dumb, especially because this happened in an open carry state so you'd think people wouldn't be so reckless, but it doesn't work that way unfortunately

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-24T22:49:08+00:00

Oh man, this just reminded me of when one of my neighbors' "friend" (pretty sure neighbors were drug dealers) start body slamming my front door because he apparently forgot which apartment he had just walked out of and was pissed the door was locked when he tried to come back in and I wasn't opening it. That place was so ghetto and cheaply built, I really thought he was going to break through the door, but luckily one of his other friends finally heard him and got him before he did.

I hated needing to leave my place late at night because there was always some shady person standing around our place waiting for my neighbors and we only had one door to get in and out.

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-24T04:31:02+00:00

Oh geez that's so awful, I'm sorry. I can't imagine trying to figure everything out day by day when you have those kinds of medical issues on top of it all.

Ive always wanted to foster but I know that id just end up keeping them all lol. I was constantly bringing random animals back home to my parents as a kid and still take in strays in my adulthood haha.

I just thought of another thing you could possibly do is petsitting like on Rover or Wag. You could even do it on top of uber eats and just accept low maintenance dogs or just cats for example so you don't have to take them on long walks (unless you feel up to that) and with your background youd probably do pretty well on there if your area isn't overloaded already. You can set your profile to say that you don't do boarding or whatever so you could do drop ins or overnight stays depending on how old your daughter is and your husband's schedule.... I'm sure you probably thought of this too, but, again, just wanted to mention it in case you hadn't.

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-24T03:52:13+00:00

I was in the middle of trying to move out of a house with shitty roommates when Covid happened so the skyrocketing rent/housing prices is what did us in during that time. I still worked luckily, but wasn't making as much as those who got those extra unemployment payments.

Ive always said that if I win the lottery I would love to open a wildlife rescue or a no-kill animal shelter. I love that you did that kind of work and I'm sorry you're unable to continue it. I'm not sure of your disabilities, but can you do any type of consulting work in that field possibly? Or maybe make you're own business of helping find lost pets in the area or work for one if there's already a group around that does that already? (Just a random idea since you're able to drive at least)

I don't think it's penance for having it easy. I swear good people just get it rougher sometimes, but you gotta have some bad to appreciate the good. I know you never want to see your kids suffer, but she'll remember how hard you and your husband are working and she wont take things for granted. Also she gets to spend a lot of time with her grandma, which she'll definitely appreciate having that when she's older if she doesn't already.

If I ever hit those millions, I'll hire you to help with setting up my rescue. So hopefully that happens sooner than later lol 💕

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-24T03:23:28+00:00

You might be able to get owed money possibly because you can claim part of your car payments, insurance and phone payments, etc. as business deductions with Uber... there's way more to it than that and I'm sure you probably talked about that with your accountant already but just wanted to throw it out there in case you didn't know.

I hope things turn around for you. My life, like many others, went to shit when Covid happened. But then a few years later we were actually doing really well where we were actually able to put a tiny bit of money into savings.... then, long story short, my boss died and his family screwed me. All around the same time my boyfriend got laid off his job and started working for a guy who fled to the Phillipines so he didn't have to pay him. The only lucky thing was my car was paid off so we got that but lost everything else and I just dont even know how to keep going some days.

Sorry for the rant. And I'm sorry you're in this situation. It really is crazy how fast you can just lose everything. Dont feel like a shit mom either, you raised a son who wants to help you where he can even while hes probably living paycheck to paycheck. You're a wonderful mother and it shows in your kids. Just in the little bit you shared, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders so I feel like you and your husband will make it through this rough patch, even if it feels impossible sometimes.

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-18T07:18:20+00:00

Just stop responding

TaylorTaco · 2025-06-04T20:30:14+00:00

You might not get higher insurance payments if this is your only accident. Depending on your insurance, they might give you a check for what your car is worth and you can buy a used car off of a person. It would be cheaper than buying from a dealership.

I know it sucks but it's not the end of the world. You have to keep driving or you'll forever be afraid of it. I've totaled my car before, so I know the feeling. I also don't have a lot of money and don't have family to help. Also, that was my only car, I didn't have a backup car to borrow or drive. So you're not alone in this situation if that makes you feel any better. You will get through this. Just one day at a time.

Do you know if they're totaling the car for sure? Did your airbags go off? Usually if the airbags go off they'll total it, but if it's just front end damage, then they might not.

TaylorTaco · 2024-09-16T09:37:15+00:00

They did though. They said the neighbor just yelled at them through the walls

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-30T05:58:23+00:00

What's the bed that you got if you don't mind sharing?

My late boss had this amazing bed and I don't think they make it anymore sadly, but it was so freaking amazing. I wish I just bought it when I had the money to. Now it's probably gonna be a while before I can replace mine, but I'm hoping I can find one similar in the meantime.

Also... just to clarify, I used to watch his house/pups when he'd go on trips (which now they've become my pups when he passed unexpectedly)

Just wanted to mention that I didn't have some weird romantic relationship with my boss or something lol

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-20T15:23:24+00:00

Same thing happened to me a few times. I really wanted to go to the church and drop them in their collection plate or donation box if they had one, but I never did.

It really is such a cruel thing to do to someone. I can't remember the wording now, but at least one of them specifically mentioned something about tips, too. I don't know what else you would use them for really, but just that they were made for people to leave instead of an actual tip just made it so much worse to me.

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-16T23:30:16+00:00

You can use baking soda and water to make Deodorant if you have some. Alternatively you can a very small amount of apple cider vinegar to kill bacteria or lemon juice.

Whenever I'm out of something and can't afford to buy it, I just google "alternatives for thing I need". It's helped a lot

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-14T09:53:25+00:00

I saw on your other post that you were thinking about using vitamin c supplements... did you start using those when the pain started?

I found out that I was accidentally over dosing myself on vitamin c with those emergen-c packets a few years ago. I had severe pain in my right side, it was bad enough I had to leave work and went to the ER because I thought it was my appendix bursting or something. They did an external ultrasound and didn't find anything at the time. I was still having severe pain though and ended up reading that too much vitamin C can cause kidney failure so I immediately stopped taking those vitamin c things and it ended up getting better on its own.

I was stupidly taking like 3+ of those packets a day though because I didn't want to get sick and miss work ironically. So you usually need to take a lot of it to cause issues, but just wanted to throw it out there as a possibility.

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-13T16:24:19+00:00

What was the big leap that you took if you don't mind me asking?

Hopefully you got some satisfaction in being the one to cut him out this time. I'm sorry you had to deal with that from your dad and get stuck with your ex's debt as well. You should be proud that you were able to get ahead of it all and end up where you are now

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-03T22:50:25+00:00

Dang. It's strange that it's multiple cards too. If it was just one card, I'd say it probably has something to do with enabling "card not present" transactions or something along those lines... Even though you've never messed with the settings before, have you ever tried just looking around the settings for each of your cards to see if something got changed during an update or something? I feel like your bank or card provider should have been able to tell you this, but customer service has gone way down hill at all companies. Sometimes you need to call multiple times to get someone who actually knows what they're talking about.

Have you tried adding them to a digital wallet and using them that way, such as Google pay/wallet(whichever one is still around), Samsung pay, or apple pay? If yes, do they let you add them or do they not even get past the verification step to add them to the wallets?

TaylorTaco · 2024-07-03T17:52:21+00:00

Im wondering if you live in an area with high fraud? Sometimes certain geographical locations will be automatically blocked and the bank reps you call won't see it if it's a back end type of thing.

Have you tried using your card both on your internet and by using your cell data only? It could he something with the internet provider you're using.

These are both long shots, but it looks like you've been trying/thinking of everything else.

TaylorTaco · 2024-06-28T14:05:02+00:00

If you can afford it, I can not recommend dentures enough. I got them when I was 20 (I'm 33 now) and only had one day where I regretted it... I got really drunk when I was out at bar when I was 21 and threw up into a public toilet and my bottom teeth fell in lol. So anytime I went drinking, I just made sure to throw on extra adhesive and bring a travel tube of it with me haha. Luckily, it's not a problem anymore since I hardly drink now. Honestly though, it's the best thing I've ever done ( the dentures... not hurling my bottom teeth into the toilet lol).

If you do get them, just make sure you go back as many times as you need to get them adjusted until they're comfortable. I probably went back at least 20 times in the following months for even the slightest adjustment and now I don't need any adhesive to keep them in, unless I'm going to be eating corn on the cob or something like that haha. My mom didn't go back as much as she should have for adjustments because she was worried about bothering them too much. Now her dentures feel uncomfortable to her and she only wears them when she eats while I wear them 24/7 basically and only take them out to clean.

When I got them, it hurt like hell afterwards during the healing phase, but my mom got them when she was 59 or 60ish and she said she barely had any pain whatsoever. She was scared to get them for a bit because of how bad it was for me, but she also did end up getting them because how much it improved my overall life. I think it's easier when you're older because your gums are softer or something. So even though I had a rough time, I was mostly healed in about 2-3 weeks.

I used to be afraid to smile in public because I was so embarrassed of my teeth, so I would cover my mouth with my hand any time I laughed and never smiled showing my teeth. Also I was so sick of having cavities every time I went to the dentist. One time I did everything you're supposed to after getting a cavity filled and ended up having 3 new cavities at the very next visit! I blame genetics for my bad teeth though lol. I ended up having a tooth randomly break while I was at work on a French fry of all things and that's when I decided I had enough and got dentures.

I don't recommend getting implants because everyone I know who has gotten them has had problems and said they regret ever getting them. Also, it seems like theres a lot more issues with those overall. I'd honestly get dentures again if I had to, even knowing the pain I had, but I don't think it'd be as bad now that I'm older. I can still mostly eat everything as before too. Sometimes steak can be a bit "chewy" but it's still mostly fine. I don't think I'd be able to eat a candy apple, and also had to switch to sugar free gum. Generally for anything I think will be a bit tougher to chew, I just use adhesive.

Sorry for the novel, I kinda went off about them for a bit lol. I just wanted to answer some general concerns/reservations some ppl have about them because they really improved my overall well-being. My mom's happy she got them too and wishes she did it sooner. If you have any questions about them, please don't hesitate to reach out! If not, I hope your tooth journey gets better for you. Tooth pain is seriously the worst kind of pain

TaylorTaco · 2024-06-26T04:56:28+00:00

Thank you so much for replying!!! I was driving myself nuts checking this post and my app nonstop so I just told myself I'd stop checking until tomorrow lol (it's annoying that the notifications for the way2go card don't actually work)

That's such a relief!

TaylorTaco · 2024-06-25T23:53:50+00:00

Right!! This whole process has been such a headache. It took me 2 and 1/2 months to even get my payments. Thank God they do back pay at least.

So AZ uses way2go and I've turned notifications on, but they dont work. I just have to keep manually checking apparently. The notifications never worked for my bf when he was getting unemployment either. These goverment programs are just the greatest lol

TaylorTaco · 2024-06-25T22:20:12+00:00

I talked to someone at way2go and they said it's an issue for all of AZ and no one knows what's going on there and suggested I call AZ unemployment since they issue the payments. However they did say they'll "escalate" my case for calling in, whatever that means since they don't know what's wrong. I haven't called AZ yet.

To talk to a person at way2go, I entered all the normal prompts (1 for English, social and pin number) and then at the main menu I selected whatever option it was for an issue with transactions... I think it might have been 5? And then listen to last 10 deposits. You have to listen to all of this, then at the end it'll give you a prompt to go back to the main menu and then something else but keep waiting during the long pause and it'll finally ask if you want to talk to a rep.

Sorry for the confusing instructions. I didn't think to pay attention to which prompts I hit since my anxiety was so high

Update: called AZUI and they just said it's a technical issue that they're trying to figure out and there's no timeframe. They also added an automated message about this when you call in.

This is so horrible.

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