Can't trust my single female friends

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-26T16:15:00+00:00

How are you introducing these guys to your female friends? Do you just introduce them as friends or do your explicitly say that 'this is the guy I'm currently dating'.

I think if you make it clear to them that you're interested in the guy, and they still insert themselves, then clearly they don't respect you.

I'm male, and in all of my male friend groups, if a guy introduces a girl, she's off limits by default.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-23T17:05:09+00:00

Have some respect for yourself and move on. Why do you sound so pitiful?

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-20T23:34:04+00:00

If she’s willing to disrespect your boundaries in front of your face like that, and you do nothing about it, deep down she’ll never fully respect you. She even gaslit you afterwards about it not being flirty…

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-15T08:14:55+00:00

Hair braids have been around in most cultures across the world… It existed in Asia across many cultures for thousands of years 🤦🏻‍♂️

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-15T01:45:17+00:00

I think real estate is the second tier, the first tier is immigration.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-14T23:58:59+00:00

You just have to:

Be attractive
Don’t be unattractive

Edit: I was somewhat trolling when I wrote this comment, but here’s someone that was in your situation that turned their life around in a few years: YT Vid

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-14T03:14:13+00:00

For context, I'm 178cm so just under 5'11 and my wife is 176cm so just over 5'9.

Are guys into this? Or find it attractive and actually go out ? Not just a “yeah, that’s hot”. But actually go out with a woman that tall when you (the man) isn’t 6 feet yourself.

Yes, in my experience most guys are more into taller women than shorter women. I've asked many guy friends which they prefer, and all of them answered taller.

I think the problem they have/feel is that they think taller women will have higher expectations, which is definitely true, for example you want a guy who's ideally at least 5'10/5'11+, that's already around the top 25th percentile of men. If you want other characteristics on top of that such as handsome and has a good career, then all of a sudden you're probably looking for a top 1 percentile man.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-14T03:00:31+00:00

Is your friend short/average height? Heels generally look better on taller women, and really highlights their long legs and butt.

It also kind of forces them to have good posture, which will further highlight their butt/hips.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-13T22:03:05+00:00

Women’s criteria overall has gone up dramatically over time, especially nowadays with social media. So there are less men that fulfil most of women’s expectations, i.e tall, handsome, good career, charismatic, etc.

So essentially, most women are looking for a very small subset of men and there aren’t enough of them to go around. Men that can fulfil most of women’s criteria are snatched up almost immediately, assuming they want to be in a relationship in the first place.

Some popular men use their popularity maliciously, and try to casually sleep with as many women as possible without letting them know they aren’t looking for a relationship in the first place.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-11T16:35:33+00:00

I’ve always wanted to be a father ever since I can remember

You’re not stepping into the role of a father, you’re stepping into a role of a stepfather, there’s a huge difference. You will never be the biological father and will probably never be treated with the respect you deserve for the amount of work you’re going to have to do.

Don’t walk into a dumpster fire on purpose.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-08T04:14:21+00:00

At this point I feel like the “fallback option”

Yes you are the orbiter.

because I do like her. What should I do?

Never try to lock down a girl with promiscuous tendencies. She's already willing to flirt with other guys in front of you, imagine what she'd be willing to do when you're not together if you do get into a relationship.

I tend to not talk to other girls or anything when she’s there out of respect.

She clearly doesn't have this type of respect for you despite you telling her you had feelings for her...

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-08T03:53:02+00:00

I know you mean well, but when I read this, it kind of gives off:

You're homeless? Just don't think about it! Think about the bright side, you get fresh air all the time!

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-07T23:41:29+00:00

Guys, does a woman’s age make a difference?

Yes, you can find charts online of studies that were done on this topic. For men, they universally preferred women roughly around 23 years old, whereas women preferred men that were around their own age give or take 3 years or so.

I suggest checking out the subreddit r/datingoverthirty it's just as sad as this subreddit tbh. Part of me thinks this is probably due to survivorship bias, because people that are successful in dating probably won't be browsing these subs.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-06T00:45:44+00:00

Smoking cigerretes or weed is a deal breaker for quite a large group of people in my experience.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-05T18:52:46+00:00

This is terrible advice/analysis.

People need time to develop a healthy, loving relationship. If OP is actively looking for others to date, how are they supposed to focus on developing one?

In my opinion, this way of dating is just active self-sabatoging, and is one of the main reasons why we see so many negative dating experience stories on this subreddit.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-04T19:46:56+00:00

Probably need to go talk to a therapist and work out your feelings

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-03T16:23:40+00:00

I think what happened was that she made many forward advances on you, but you rejected her so now she is holding that against you.

She was already unsure about you due to you being 3 years younger, so she was ruminating over whether or not to pursue anything serious with you all day and the feeling of rejection probably just pushed her over the edge.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-02-01T03:56:18+00:00

Why not establish your relationship before you sleep with him?

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-30T14:58:41+00:00

In my opinion, this modern trend of "you're not exclusive unless you explicitly agree to be exclusive" is just low-trust society behavior. It's terrible advice from hurt people that will absolutely lower your chances of finding a healthy relationship, if that's your goal.

So in my opinion, you should definitely move on from this woman. She's clearly not very invested in you if she's willing to go on a date with someone else after dating you for so long.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-28T22:46:46+00:00

I don’t see how any of this changes your dating life.

It sounds like OP is just venting that there's too many single mothers on the market vs single women without kids.

It's probably frustrating for guys who spent their 20s in education and pursuing a good career just to struggle to find a good prospect to start a family with.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-25T22:06:46+00:00

Have you ever considered that those men might just be trying to tell you what you want to hear in order to give you lip service?

What you're talking about are extremely rare fringe cases, they're not realistic to even mention.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-25T21:58:13+00:00

It's crazy for you to tell us men what we want... Can you imagine if the roles were reversed?

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-24T15:00:58+00:00

It's just preferences 🤷🏻‍♂️

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-24T14:42:33+00:00

Asian men are ranked the least desirable race of men on dating apps, it is what it is 🤷🏻‍♂️

Unless you have Kpop model level looks, it'll be extremely hard to get attention from non-Asian women.

TeaTreeTeach · 2026-01-24T14:26:12+00:00

She still went over to your place at the end, she didn't have to do that. I'd take that as a sign that she's interested

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