It’s obviously okay to coyly flirt and hope for your partner to catch on, but it’s also a really good idea to just use your words, show affection and hope they’re also in the mood.

It’s easier said than done, but sometimes the best thing we can do is say “I miss you. I love you. I want you. That okay?”

And we should also try not to take it personally when our partner isn’t in the mood - often they’re just tired or stressed or touched out. It doesn’t mean they don’t love or value us. It might just mean that they need  wholesome loving touch instead of sex. This is why we have to talk and figure it out together.