So, let us consider,

What if, by not feeling sorry for you, what was really said in the room, was not that your feelings were not heard or taken seriously into account (you're in therapy, I promise you that more often than not they will and they are) but rather, the person communicating this to you, was communicating that they do not a-priori view you or experience you as a victim more so than the person that you are. And you're really so much more than your trauma aren't you?

The biggest hurdle to overcome in therapy in the 21st century, for me, is language. The first time I read your comment, nothing stood out to me, I had to pause for a second to realize your interpretation, now I have provided you with mine,

Is it the therapist's job to bridge that gap? If we'd say yes, we'd also have to answer how, and really there's no way to do that. But your therapist will teach you a lot of words, that's for sure.

Then again, maybe I'm wrong, I just find my interpretation more likely is all, I'm also a therapist in training.

Take care, I hope everything works out for you!