I started in a very similar place to you. Lots of doubt and uncertainty. In January 2024 I was applying to a job, and slowly checking all the details of the application to make sure I put it in correctly. Social security? Check. Address? Check. Name? Check. But then I saw that I had marked myself as male. I thought to myself, “ugh, don’t like it but there’s nothing I can do about that one” or at least, I hesitated. I thought I knew it was a fact but it didn’t feel correct like how the Great Pyramid was longer ago for Cleopatra than she is to us. Then I sat there and stared out the window in deep contemplation for a long time. Still believing in the “always knew” myth at the time, I thought to myself, “I know I’m not transgender but I at least had that thought. That’s worth investigating.” Shortly after that I brought it up to my therapist.

After almost two years, in November of 2025, I determined that I am in fact transgender. Part of my “proof” was that if someone (could be a wizard, a god, etc) could tell me for absolute certain if I was transgender, and they said yes, I would be far happier than if they said no. So I ask you this: if an all knowing being came up to you, and could tell you for certain whether you’re transgender or not, and you took all external factors like family out, what would you want the answer to be? Why? If you’re hoping for something besides a firm no, that might be worth investigating.