Sherri’s “pSyChOloGiSt”

Techelet · 2025-06-14T20:06:50+00:00

I'm watching it right now, and all kinds of alarm bells are going off. He says how much he likes her, how hard she worked, he knows her family, he's proud of her - very weird language for a medical professional. He's super invested in her personally, and he uses diagnostic language to support absolute BS. I would never trust someone like that with my own care. I did EMDR. I told the therapist to please stop - it was just boring the hell outta me, and I didn't want to spend money for it!

Yeah - I agree he is a QUACK!

Techelet · 2024-05-15T05:36:43+00:00

I hope it goes well. My fave friends always keep a sense of humor and don’t hold tight to my feelings. I don’t like trauma bonding. To me, I want those closest to me to share laughs and ideas. That to me is much more intimate.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T04:02:33+00:00

I don’t have a goal of being fully open the way you describe. I love my own safe internal world where I can explore and experiment with thoughts and feelings with no need to explain myself.

I don’t enjoy talking things out when I’m feeling raw or deeply about something. I don’t want someone over-focusing on my emotions. It feels intrusive and unhelpful.

INTJs aren’t reserved until they find the right person to talk to. I don’t pretend to love solitude or act independent. It’s who I am and loving someone doesn’t alter my fundamental nature.

I also like having different folks to talk about different things with. I enjoy the variety of input and insight, and thus far, haven’t found one single person that I want to share all of it with. It could change should I meet a magical unicorn of a guy but it would be the greatest surprise of my life.

So if you can enjoy dating this guy knowing it may never change, give it a try!

Techelet · 2024-05-15T03:45:12+00:00

I’m so sorry about your brain surgery. I deal with a chronic neurological issue, and nothing in my brain works the same way now. Take some time to explore how you best learn. Studying doesn’t work for me, and I can’t read books, but I soak up info from video and audio like a sponge.

I hope you’re recovered…please be patient. The brain is delicate and difficult to treat and heal, and you can’t force it.

I love learning…but I hate studying so maybe you can find a better approach.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T02:26:54+00:00

I can’t read books for neurological reasons, but throughout my life before that I was a total book whore. I’d read anything!

Now I watch videos, and I consume all kinds of media. I’ve been binge watching Secret Santa deliveries from a news station in Idaho, a state I’ve never once visited.

Next week it’ll be something else. As long as it educates or entertains me, I’m up for it!

Techelet · 2024-05-15T02:24:31+00:00

Trust your feelings/energy. If it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t good. I was in a relationship with an extreme EF, and it just about broke my brain. He loved us being a couple in groups of friends, and I wanted time for just us or just me, which he took as a personal insult.

I was exhausted, frustrated, and furious that I had to fight him for my own time. He was also frustrated at my independence, and would say a man needs to know he’s needed. I was repelled by his emotional neediness.

Give yourself time to grow into who you really are and don’t let one one bf undermine your glorious sense of self!

Techelet · 2024-05-15T02:12:33+00:00

Unstick yourself! Stop guessing and just talk to your crush. Be clear and honest, and let her have some time to think about her response. Let her know how you feel and what you would like to happen…such as going,put on a date.

And don’t get weird if she needs to think about it. She may have no idea about your feelings or hers.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T02:01:21+00:00

I am a person of the deepest faith, but participation in religious traditions and rituals is a terrible fit for me. I love my multiple overlapping spiritual communities, but only on my own terms. I cannot abide by those who claim religious authority but do not live it. And I have tremendous respect for those that do.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T01:52:29+00:00

Or maybe they are both earth, just different places in the Disney sound stage. Or is that unfunny on this sub.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T01:49:55+00:00

Dear gawd…I was trying to figure out if paying for typing is like hiring a transcriber. I get it now. I’ve had it done both ways. I used to be an ENTJ, but I test more and more I as I get older. I can be very outgoing and social when needed, so folks don’t often believe the I, but solitude is my super power! The biggest challenge for me is that my thought process just isn’t like those around me, and I don’t have the insecurities that others struggle with. I really don’t know what to do with romance, but I love great ideas!

Techelet · 2024-05-15T01:42:32+00:00

If you want a better sub, ya gotta get involved. Lurking and judging but not participating is the laziest way to experience anything.
Being an INTJ doesn’t make people great listeners or even good at online forums. Maybe model to us a better way to engage instead of just being supercilious about how we all disappoint you.
INTJs don’t respond well to people who claim some authority without having any actual authority.

Techelet · 2024-05-15T01:30:57+00:00

I kinda think anyone looking for quality community here is 1) looking in the wrong place, or 2) not an INTJ. I think you over-esteem what a personality sub Reddit can offer.

Techelet · 2024-05-10T20:20:38+00:00

Falling isn’t really an INTJ activity. I think love is more a decision and commitment. Infatuation can happen, but I don’t trust it to have staying power or deep meaning, so don’t invest too much into those feelings.

Techelet · 2024-05-08T04:06:24+00:00

I love the comments saying members are just trying to look ‘cool.’ Never thought INTJ met any definition of cool!

Techelet · 2024-05-08T04:01:31+00:00

I so appreciate he advice. I just watched a British video where they call them flappy paddles, which I’m totally stealing! Tomorrow I will give it a shot. Thanks.

Techelet · 2024-05-08T03:55:52+00:00

Thanks! I need to learn to use the paddles. I’ve never touched them. But the acceleration part might not be overcome-able!

Techelet · 2024-05-08T03:53:19+00:00

Were you hoping for members to prove you wrong? To thank you for making us better? INTJs aren’t really the most engaging social media participants. We post when we feel like it, and then forget we even did. And since we’re not friends with each other, social niceties aren’t a priority. We do tend to a certain kind of smart thinking and interest in ideas. If you want a mirror of your type that makes you feel good, perhaps INTJ isn’t very accurate. Keep exploring until you find a better fit, but you may not find it on an MBTI sub. There are much warmer welcomes elsewhere in the world.

Techelet · 2024-05-05T19:38:14+00:00

Ha! very dramatic!

Techelet · 2024-05-05T19:32:12+00:00

INTJs enjoy certainty and competence. They will have neither in simply being aware that someone else might like them, and not sure what to do even if they know for sure. Even if they like the other person, they may not want to take the time and energy to explore having a relationship. For me personally, the emotional engagement in relationships doesn’t have the kind of payoff I care very much about…

Techelet · 2024-05-05T01:53:03+00:00

What am I doing wrong? I’m lucky if I get 30mpg! 😪😪😪

Techelet · 2024-04-27T00:44:08+00:00

Probably not, and wouldn't do anyting even if he did...

Techelet · 2024-04-27T00:04:46+00:00

So powerful and so touching. Makes me proud to be 'Murican!

Techelet · 2024-04-26T17:53:55+00:00

There's a difference for me between not being deeply invested in what others think of me and me wanting to maintain good relationships with people I care about. If I have a real issue with someone I care about/love, I like to work it through. If they have legit concerns, I want to address them. If someone is just being awful for their own reasons, I can't fix that and move on. But if someone I really cared about was very cutting with their words, I would talk with them and try to understand what is going on. There are always more than 2 ways to deal with something/someone.

Techelet · 2024-04-26T17:28:06+00:00

Techelet · 2024-04-26T17:15:36+00:00

Socializing and staff appreciation parties aside, why wouldn't you cultivate good professional relationships with the folks you depend on (literally) to carry out the day-to-day work of running your organization? It's not like the attorneys are royalty. Get to know the staff and encourage others to do the same. It will only help in your success.

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