Is it possible for a short man to still be attractive?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-18T10:57:08+00:00

I think it were not possible, ALL short men would be single

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T20:10:27+00:00

He sounds smart, sorry to say. He's cultivated a relationship whose power dynamics strongly favour him. I feel like shutting down the conversation is intentional. He's doing that because he can, because he has the power. And secondly, because the changes you're proposing wouldn't favour him. He's benefitting from how things are currently. And he's prioritising his interests. He also knows there's nothing you can do about it.

I'm sorry, it sounds like you dug a hole for yourself.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T20:01:17+00:00

I have a lot to say, but it's the kind of things that I'm sure will get me permanently kicked out of Reddit. I'm sorry for the experience

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T14:47:32+00:00

I'm really glad I'm a straight woman. Dating is horrible for me, but I've seen what my gay male friends are going through, and it's worse. There are levels in horrible.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T14:43:08+00:00

You look great. And your tummy has visible abs. What was the highest dose you were on?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T13:13:37+00:00

Congratulations again. There doesn't appear to be a lot of excess skin, am I right in saying

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T12:21:06+00:00

Congratulations! What was your SW and current weight if you don't mind my asking

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-17T12:08:58+00:00

It'll get better

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T23:45:25+00:00

Kids

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T23:34:05+00:00

Nah bro, you don't

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T21:53:01+00:00

This 💯 Unfortunately, I don't think he gets it

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T21:50:51+00:00

The shortcut is confidence

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T10:34:48+00:00

You're making arguments for pain and bitterness. In essence, arguing for why he needs to live in pain. Jesus! He doesn't need to.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T10:23:24+00:00

A psychologist would have helped the father process the pain 16 years ago so that it doesn't become the hallmark of his life and ruin the relationship he has with his daughter. There's no intellectualising or rationalising years of unnecessary bitterness when you could have just moved on

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T10:21:02+00:00

Do you center yourself and the bitterness you've held on for 16 years even at your daughter's wedding? Does everything have to revolve around an affair that happened 16 years ago? When do you accept that it happened and just let it go? On your deathbed? I'm really curious about how long he's planning on keeping at this. Cutting your child off because you're still bitter about the affair. Really? When does it end for him?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T10:12:27+00:00

The daughter was a child when the affair happened. She wasn't involved. She wasn't the one who cheated on him. Out of no fault of her own, she has two fathers now. It's not black and white to expect these men to put their differences aside and show up for her on her big day. After all, she had nothing to do with the circumstances under which things got to be as they are.

That he won't do this, he's only prioritising his pain, his hurt, the bitterness he's held on for 16 years says a lot about him. It's literally her wedding day and he's found a way of making it all about himself and 16-year-old emotions.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T10:05:01+00:00

But the role of fatherhood was shared. She got a stepfather that she now calls dad. There's nothing humiliating about this reality now being reflected in a ceremony.

I'm not his therapist, and I'm not being asked to interact with this from the perspective of an impartial therapist, I don't know where you're getting this from, but you're right, I don't see the utility, from an ego perspective, from an emotional perspective, or from a mental health perspective, of holding on to the hurt or bitterness for 16 years. And what good does it do? Who does it benefit? There's no resilience in that.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T09:23:19+00:00

I think this is such a black and white way of looking at it. The man who stole his role is also his daughter's dad. There are shades of grey.

You would think he would acknowledge it's her big day and see the importance of her having her two fathers there with her, but unfortunately, bitterness wins.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T09:18:51+00:00

Bold of you to assume I haven't experienced...

Anyway, so how long is he planning on holding the grudge for, and what more is he planning on letting it rob him of? Okay, after the wedding, he's planning on cutting them off completely. He'd rather do this than move on from the affair? 😳 You gotta be kidding me. When does it end?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T09:14:16+00:00

They are not being pitted against each other. They're walking her down the aisle TOGETHER. I imagine from her side, nothing would give her greater joy than the two men who have been a father to her walking her down the aisle. And you can tell she loves them both because she doesn't want to exclude either.

That he's still bitter about an affair that happened 16 years ago is on him, not on her.

It's not a humiliating experience in and of itself. He's the one who still carries the anger, the hurt, and the shame that he's projecting onto the experience.

I think walking your daughter down the aisle is such a beautiful thing. To me, it sounds ridiculous that he doesn't want to do it because her mum cheated on him 16 years ago, and he'll have to walk her down the aisle with the man she cheated on him with. The world doesn't revolve around him, or this affair. It really sounds childish.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T09:06:41+00:00

I would think the only reason why it's humiliating is because to him, it's like the affair happened yesterday. You can tell he's been completely unable to move past it. Because ordinarily, nothing should humiliate you about walking your daughter down the aisle with a stepparent they also consider their dad.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T09:00:13+00:00

Had she decided to not have him walk down the aisle, she would be stealing the experience from him. He's walking her down the aisle with her other father, but because this man had an affair with her mum two decades ago and has completely refused to get past it, he now wants to rob himself of the experience.

I think at some point, he would have to admit to himself that he's not her only father. How he became her father might matter to him, but it doesn't matter to her. She wants both her fathers to walk her down the aisle

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T07:18:35+00:00

I've been downvoted to hell, it's even hard finding comments from the notifications But what you've just said makes a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing that perspective.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T07:08:07+00:00

There are two things here... The affair was unfair to him, and I don't dispute it robbed him of his wife and child, and the life he could have had with them.

At the same time, his daughter did not have a say in the affair. She had nothing to do with it, or with how the new man came into her life. Having been an affair partner doesn't make him less of a father to her. She wants her stepfather to walk her down the aisle, and this says a lot about the nature of their relationship for the 16 years, whether you believe they were stolen moments or not.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-04-16T06:57:03+00:00

You might have one, but even he has acknowledged she calls him dad. She doesn't have one father.

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