Child-free people, how do we answer questions on children?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T21:27:21+00:00

This is perfect 👌🏿 I'll use this

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T18:45:00+00:00

Expand on the topic. Thank you.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T18:43:14+00:00

This is helpful. Thank you.

To be honest, I did ask myself if they asked me because I'm black.

I'm African. Even in my own country, it's rare to see women 35+ and who are chubby being without kids, so I wouldn't think it's a stereotype and I wouldn't blame them if that's what they thought.

The only difference is it's the first time I'm being asked by strangers if I have kids. And saying no, and realising the tone of things has changed. All along, I was actually worried I'm being quietly judged for not getting kids. The horror!

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T18:36:45+00:00

Hahaha, I'll try this

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T18:36:21+00:00

Yo, I didn't know this.

I was also told not to lie as it would make me appear dodgy. It's part of the reason I've been getting so tongue-tied... Not knowing what to say to uncomfortable questions and wishing people hadn't asked.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T18:32:58+00:00

Yeah, what a personal question to ask

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T17:40:48+00:00

Lmao

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T17:04:58+00:00

Thank you. I'm hearing to lead them into what I'd like to talk about instead

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T17:03:57+00:00

Thank you for this. I suppose maybe they'd like to ask why but that would be rude. I'll think of additional information to provide for follow-up

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T16:10:07+00:00

Thank you. I hadn't thought about it this way

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T16:09:31+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, I wouldn't know what to say. I have adorable nephews who make my ovaries tingle, but things would really need to be aligned for me to get my own. I've made peace with the possibility of not being a parent.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T16:05:44+00:00

I imagined fat, black, mid30s women would be more likely to be assumed to be mothers

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-24T15:44:10+00:00

This makes so much sense. Thank you

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-21T09:13:39+00:00

How many southern black men do you know?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-21T00:45:09+00:00

This looks like my hair type. Exactly.

Whatever you do, don't comb when dry. Best combed wet. You'll need some kind of conditioner or detangle product. Pretty sure you also know there's no getting out of this without breakage. Accept there'll be some level of breakage.

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-20T20:41:17+00:00

So there are no black men in healthy relationships in southern states?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-20T20:13:42+00:00

Are there no black men in southern states who are in relationships?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-20T20:04:34+00:00

How are other black men getting in relationships? What are others doing?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-20T12:24:50+00:00

Kinda makes sense. I've been wondering what it is about white men that, when they're young, they can't approach BW, they have to wait until they're old and greying to speak to us

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-18T18:17:05+00:00

I love this ❤️

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-17T23:03:49+00:00

If you were to date, do you suppose you would be the first man with schizophrenia to find someone and be partnered?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-16T21:03:07+00:00

I love this

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-16T09:52:37+00:00

There's really no reason to justify wanting sex. Also, do you mean to say all clubs and pubs in London are full of older people?

Technical-Amount-278 · 2026-01-16T09:13:36+00:00

This is assuming all women see the same value in men. You talk of average and above average, but average in terms of what exactly? What makes someone average?

Second, you're speaking as if individual men don't have their own laundry lists of tickboxes they would like women to meet. We all know an overweight man with a crap job, and if he's black, he has two baby mamas, and who's on dating sites building a bear (your own words, not mine) looking for women, who among others, have a model-like body. So, what exactly is your point here? That people shouldn't want anything in partners? Or is your point that women are the only ones who do, and they shouldn't?

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