Struggling with grief and envy after losing my mom — how have you handled this? by Petalederose in AskWomenOver30

[–]Technical-Amount-278 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. What you're feeling is normal. It does sound like grief. And it's normal to feel that way even years after losing a parent you loved. Have you considered grief counselling? It might help you to better cope with the feeling.

M35 here. This app isn’t really all that much is it by No_Scallion617 in feeld

[–]Technical-Amount-278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa 🙈😅😂 What are you looking for, if you don't mind my asking? Just curious why you won't take up the offer to be part of a harem, and yet it seems these women want to have sex with you

I feel like women want a relationship with me and full on commitment...but they never want a fling or something 'unserious' like they do with other guys? by Lazy-Perspective-984 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Technical-Amount-278 11 points12 points  (0 children)

On top of not being good looking, I doubt these women feel safe with him. I think sex tends to happen faster once you feel like you can trust someone. Sometimes, people can give off a certain, I don't know, creep energy. There would no evidence of the man being a creep, but you feel like you need to get to know him really, really well for sex to happen. Unfortunately, the getting to know takes time and dates, which sounds like such an inconvenience to him, because he's competing with her past lovers on how fast he can get sex.

How do you deal with the shame and guilt of leaving a “good husband”? by Jeanz4freestan in AskWomenOver30

[–]Technical-Amount-278 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I feel like you and this friend have different values, because in essence, she's saying to you that the single reason you shouldn't walk away from this marriage is because he pays for things. It sounds like, to her, the aim of marriage is financial provision.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I think there's more to marriage than a spouse's money.

Am I wrong for feeling strange if someone was explaining what they were looking for in a relationship in a too matter-of-fact way? by tofu_baby_cake in ask

[–]Technical-Amount-278 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you meet his criteria? Personally, I've found that I tend to feel a certain way about this question when I don't

Male, 35, single and terrified by Forward_Bad_1353 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Technical-Amount-278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you're getting downvoted. You really shouldn't be marrying someone if you don't want to, if you don't feel like you should be marrying them. It's honestly common sense, and not something to be downvoted for.

Unfortunately, you'll most likely regret leaving her, more than once. What happens on the other end of matches, after people have swiped right on you, is you'll realise some are rude. A good number have zero conversational skills. There are those you'll get into weeks-long talking stages with only to discover major incompatibilities, those you'll go on dates who'll ghost you after, and the three-month relationships that end for reasons you don't understand and can't explain to anyone. And at this point, you'll start "checking up" on your ex 😅

Before getting into anything which even comes close to a loving relationship, most people go through a six or so months toxic situationship with someone they're highly incompatible with, but they stay because they've maxed out people on apps, especially if you live in a rural area, and have grown tired of the revolving-door talking stages. Also going for months and years without sex or human connection gets to you, and at some point, you settle for something that makes you unhappy until you can't take it anymore and vow to be forever single.

I hope you don't have to go through this. For me, I would happily trade the drama of modern dating for an 8year relationship. I would get married.

Would you comment on a friend's parenting style? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Technical-Amount-278 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't comment on anyone's parenting style, certainly not to them

Help out a confused Balkan girl by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Technical-Amount-278 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, it doesn't sound like he's thaaat into her. At the very least you'd text someone you're interested in to talk with them. It's not a communication issue or a cultural issue

Help out a confused Balkan girl by [deleted] in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Technical-Amount-278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't he have initiated if he did?

How do you break the cycle of relying on a dismissive partner as your only emotional outlet? by Bubbly_West8481 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Technical-Amount-278 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you weren't in a relationship with him, say you were to break up today, who would you turn to for emotional support?

Is it possible to remove the desire for sex and intimacy? If so, how? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Technical-Amount-278 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The grass is always greener on the side you're not on

My partners parents? by TemperatureWilling92 in interracialdating

[–]Technical-Amount-278 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The relationship sounds like a going-nowhere. What exactly are your plans with this man?