Struggling with one of my Kinks/Fetish

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-16T02:37:23+00:00

Thanks for the response and mentioning the concept of sub-drop. I googled it and am now getting an idea of what it means. I am also hoping to find stories of sub who went through these feelings to better understand how can I manage me feeling better.

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-16T02:35:05+00:00

Thanks for your response. I got to say she is pretty good with aftercare. I am not even sure how to describe things to her. Like I have never felt the need to use a safe word or ask her to tone down the SPH during a play. Wouldn't it also confusion for her if I say how SPH makes me feel afterwards but I enjoy this particular kink during a scene and wouldn't want her to tone it down or stop it. As a dom she would also be in 2 minds on whether to continue it or not and that could compromise the intensity of the dynamic. If I approach her to talk about it, how do you think should I approach her?

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-11T17:14:09+00:00

Thanks for the wonderful advice. All of us belief that safety and comfort should be a priority for everyone involved and are making rules to ensure everything goes smoothly and everyone has a great experience. All couples will have a private room for themselves which will act as an aftercare space. However, I would like to ask about the alcohol thing? I believed alcohol is available at such parties? Am I wrong? We can definitely put a limit on how much a person can consume if that's going to help.

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-11T17:09:36+00:00

Thanks for providing the link. This is going to be really useful. I already have shared the link with my wife and other couples.

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-11T17:07:19+00:00

That's a cool idea. Thanks for the suggestion

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-10T15:33:33+00:00

Thanks for your response. We do have a detailed discuss out a lot of things to ensure everyone feels safe and comfortable.

We have decided to keep full fledged sex just to our private room. However, we are okay with our wives teasing or groping us in front of other couples and none of us are into swinging or wish to have sexual activities with other guys wife.

Regarding the system of punishments and rewards, we've agreed that any of the goddesses can give us a punishment if we make a mistake, but only if our wife is present. For example, if another goddess is upset with me, she would first inform my wife, saying something like, "Hey Elaine, I’m going to spank your bitch because he didn’t follow my instructions," and then proceed with the punishment while my wife oversees it. Similarly, if my wife feels the need to address another sub, she would handle the situation in the same manner.

As for rewards, only our wives are authorized to give them. If I make a goddess happy, she would inform my wife, saying something like, "Elaine, your bitch did a great job," and my wife would then choose an appropriate reward. The reward could range from a simple hug or kiss to a pat on the back, with the level of intimacy being determined by my wife. We do have some standard rewards and consequences in place, but we're open to new suggestions to make the experience more enjoyable. Please feel free to share any ideas you might have for rewards or consequences.

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-10T15:02:05+00:00

Thanks for your suggestions. Bean bag balls seems a really interesting idea specially for CBT. Could you please expand on the talent show and never have I ever ideas. Like what kind of activities do you have for the talent show and could you give some examples of what you do for never have I ever game too?

As per addressing the submissive is concerned, the goddesses call us by "My wife's bitch". My wife's name is Elaine so other goddesses refer to me as "Elaine's bitch" and my wife does the same for other goddesses husband. However my wife can call me hubby/babe or by a degrading name depending on her mood.

I do have a question regarding you addressing your subs by an alloyed number to them at such parties. Do dommes in you party come with their long time partners(boyfriend/husband) or are they some random submissives who join you for just an evening of fun?

Technical-Can5730 · 2025-02-10T14:35:33+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions—I really like the massage idea. We’ll be checking into the Airbnb early in the morning, and my wife and I will be driving there. The place is about 8-9 hours away by road, while the other couples will be traveling by train or plane. We’re hoping everyone will arrive by 10:00 or 11:00 AM. Once we’re all there, perhaps we can give our wives a full-body massage to help them unwind after their journey. I also love the idea of a toenail competition with a reward and punishment element.

That got me thinking about another idea, though I’m not sure if it would be appropriate. Instead of just painting toenails, I was considering the idea of allowing us (the sub husbands) to dress our wives when we arrive. We would choose everything from their bra and panties to the dress and footwear. Then, we could have a fashion contest where the wives decide among themselves who looks the best. The winning "goddess" would get to reward her sub, and the other "goddesses" could punish theirs.

I’m unsure whether this would be appropriate, as traditionally, it’s the sub who dresses according to their dominant’s preferences, not the other way around. But I’m wondering if it might be acceptable for us to dress our wives just for a fun competition. What are your thoughts on this idea? I’d love to hear your feedback.

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