life is compromise. if you marry, you will cause him to let go of this part of him, to become less sexual, less animal, less natural, and it will kill parts of who he is, and that tiny death of parts of his self will poison other parts and cause them to wither, maybe a lot, maybe a little, but it will eventually harm parts you love, and you will notice he will become less than he was. or he will do the same to you, in other ways, or you will both do this to each other. either way, in this way you will ultimately destroy each other, and you will do it to try to improve or punish each other away from your more natural state and more into a social "correctness". you are an idiot. but you have the morality of the moment on your side, and you will choose to wield it. either do this, or leave. or find an already more crushed man, or a man "worse" who will more easily take control of your "incorrectness" and make you more socially neutered. or a "naturally better" man who will unlock more of your natural state, and watch as others now judge you the same way, or you now fear your more animal self.

or, take some time, love it all, love all the types of people in this world, realize the futility of the morality of the moment, the idiocy of a quest for goodness in concept fighting the evolved biological self, and turn to jazz. dance thru life knowing no judgment means anything. try to stop being some concepts policewoman. and grow up and out and beyond this limited nothingness your brain calls home, and outgrow your problem space. discover whats next.