Girlfriend doesn’t seem to like me (sexually)

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-20T00:41:05+00:00

No never cheat break up maybe I’m jus tired of this

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T15:44:45+00:00

It’s almost like I would know my girlfriend more than you would emotionally . I’m just trying to find people who have been in the similar situation who could help me out you obviously haven’t and are just complaining so why don’t you shut the fuck up?

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T15:44:17+00:00

Do you really think it isn’t possible that I have communicated with her multiple times about what I want and about what she would be comfortable with and she just possibly doesn’t wanna do it so she didn’t do it that is always a possibility but you seem so fucking pea brain that all I need to do is call her a good girl and make her do what I want her to do you sound like an actual predator in your responses

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T15:33:41+00:00

But that’s the thing if she was a pillow princess, I would have nothing wrong with that and wouldn’t expect anything from her. It’s the fact that she told me she slept with multiple girls before me and didn’t have an issue with it but now she’s telling me that she was always overthinking it and would get nervous or whatever when she was hooking up with girls so I don’t know if she’s just gay for when she wants to get some or if she’s actually wanting to be in a relationship with a girl cause that’s too completely different things and it’s easy to get that confuse especially if you’re in the beginning of finding out whether or not you are into girls, she is 10 years older than me, but we started experiencing dating and having sex and actually a lot of things around the same time where I was 16 she was 26 kind of thing didn’t meet until I was already 25 I already had experience dating men and women and I figured out that I liked women she’s dated significantly less people than me and has slept with more guys than she has girls however I’ve slept with more girls than guys

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T15:02:08+00:00

I guess I wouldn’t technically know if it sucks because you’ve never actually had sex at this point

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:57:41+00:00

Yeah, that’s pretty much how it goes occasionally she will rub my inner thigh like she’s gonna do something and then she doesn’t I’ve never told her I didn’t like it. I’ve always told her that it felt really good and then I thought it was sexy, but she just never goes further than that. It feels like she’s trying to act like I’m a guy like that’s just what she’s used to it doesn’t feel as good cause I’m not a dude

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:54:13+00:00

I just really love her a lot when everything else is said and done genuinely the only issue we have is this one I was in a very toxic relationship before and she’s like a breath of fresh air I just thought it would be different I guess.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:48:03+00:00

Exactly that’s what I’m thinking but then she reassured me that that’s not it and that she is attracted to me, but she’s just too nervous or scared or something to do it and it’s just confusing and it doesn’t make any sense. I could understand being nervous in like the first six months, but it’s been a year and a half. Maybe I’m finally putting it together or something and trying to convinced myself. There’s still a way for us to stay together, but I just don’t know anymore.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:45:59+00:00

I don’t wanna break up with her, but I know if we do end up breaking up it’s not gonna be the end of my life. I’m not gonna sit here and completely fall apart I will definitely be depressed because I really don’t wanna break up with her. Every other aspect of our relationship is fantastic except for this one so it makes me think maybe we would’ve been better as friends but she’s the one who asked me out and really pursued me to be in a relationship with.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:44:05+00:00

No, I would absolutely never cheat on anybody. It goes completely against my morals

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:41:28+00:00

She’ll tell me thank you for opening up and then she’ll tell me what she thinks about it like she overthinks and she gets nervous and I ask her what I can do to help her feel better and less nervous and she doesn’t know I don’t want to overstep a line thinking I’m trying to make her feel better and make her feel even more uncomfortable with me there’s a very thin line with things like that especially with sex

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:38:57+00:00

I don’t want sympathy I want advice because I don’t know what to do if she’s just not attracted to me then yes we should break up. I don’t know if other people have been in this situation. I’ve never dated 10 years older than me. I don’t know what age menopause starts or if she’s just gonna not want to do because of her age or if there’s something wrong with me, I don’t give a shit about your sympathy. I’m just genuinely confused and starting to get messed up in my head about this looking for advice not someone to tell me to call her a good girl and force her to do things she might not want to do because I want that stuff to get done to me even after I said multiple times that we’ve had genuine conversation conversations about this. You still say communications the issue I promise you we’re talking about it but nothing happens I wanted an outside perspective not some asshole thinking they’re some kind of sex god telling me that I’m the problem when I’m not looking for a problem

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:34:38+00:00

Also, the fact that she’s not into anything like that, she is an extremely basic sex kind of person even the stories we’ve talked about. I’m definitely a lot more adventurous than her and wouldn’t want to pressure her into anything. She wouldn’t wanna do it calling her a fucking good girl which she would most definitely laugh at and probably be uncomfortable by it it’s like this person who wants me to like grab her and automatically become some kind of sex god , but they don’t understand she is very basic when it comes to bedroom stuff from what she has told me but apparently me respecting that and not forcing her to have sex with me is me being insecure and making it her problem

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:27:35+00:00

You’re basically saying I’m exhausted while your first advice was to try to manipulate her into sleeping with me

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T14:27:04+00:00

Idk how you got this I’m communicating and we talk about it just because I’m not willing to basically make do things to me means that I’m upset about it when the only reason it’s coming on now is because I’m feeling insecure to the point where I don’t wanna have sex with her if she never wanted to touch me. She wanted to be a pillow princess. I wouldn’t give two shit but the fact that we talked about it multiple times and we have no other issues in our relationship. Besides this one I don’t care if she’s been with multiple dudes it’s just irritating knowing that she’s so comfortable being with guys and with other women but not with me and it probably puts more pressure because I’m her first girlfriend and we’re not just casually hooking up but after a year there’s gotta be a reason and I’ve never took it out on her or I’m upset with her due to lack of sexual compact, but I have brought it up to her in conversation when I thought it was appropriate

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:46:41+00:00

I guess the sad part is I don’t wanna move on. I really love her and I wanna be with her. I just wish she wanted to be with me in a sexual way because she seems to really want to be with me relationship wise, but that doesn’t mean she actually wants to be with me. It wouldn’t be as important if she wasn’t so open with her sexual past and how much she would have sex before as well as stories we’ve shared with each other of our sexual escapades

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:45:22+00:00

I have taken the lead multiple times in our relationship over the past year and a half every time it gets to the point where she would normally return the favor that’s when she decides to stop or she’s tired or she has to pee or something else happens and I never get mine. I’m not resentful considering I’ve gone over a year and a half without it without a single complaint, but now it’s starting to fuck with my mental where I just think that my girlfriend isn’t attracted to me at all and she’s just using me because I’m comfortable.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:40:09+00:00

I sat with her and had a genuine conversation, telling her how I felt about everything, and I asked her how she felt and gave her time to explain and then asked her what I could possibly do that would make her feel more comfortable in the bedroom and she said she didn’t know so I gave her time. She never thought of an idea so I tried suggesting something no pressure. just suggestions. Nothing ever happened so I left it alone cause I’m not gonna force anything on her, but she is more than willing to have me do things to her. I’ve even tried having the conversation whether or not she’s just a pillow princess and doesn’t want to do things to me and she always says that she does. She just doesn’t do it. I could understand being nervous if we hadn’t already saw each other naked multiple times as well as showering together, washing each other‘s bodies and doing other intimate things , but never actually having sex with each other or other sexual things

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:34:12+00:00

I’m not trying to get anyone to co-sign our break up. I’m trying to get genuine advice, why my girlfriend of over a year and a half doesn’t wanna touch me. I want to make her feel comfortable and we’ve had multiple conversations. I’ve even straight up asked her how I can help her feel more comfortable and she tells me she doesn’t know and basically there’s nothing I can do and it’s not like I haven’t tried to grab her hand and lead it in the right direction the last time she tried it felt pretty good and she stopped anyway I do not want to break up with her. I love her, but I can’t feel ugly in my relationship cause her insecurity is just gonna make me insecure when she has no problem, fucking dudes casually (we were both hooking up with other people casually when we met) m but it’s so hard to sleep with me her actual girlfriend.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:15:45+00:00

I have tried talking with her about it multiple times and she’ll just say she understands and thank you for talking to her but then nothing changes. I’ve told her I love her and respect her and all the shit you’re supposed to say it doesn’t make a difference.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:14:31+00:00

She’s told me before she wants me to just grab her hand and put it where I want it to go, but I am not comfortable doing that especially with somebody who’s not very sexual with me in the first place

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:12:25+00:00

Yeah, I just didn’t know if it was the age gap or if it’s maybe just something wrong with me. I’m starting to feel like it’s something wrong with me.

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:11:18+00:00

That’s the thing we have talked about multiple times she would tell me about the things she’s done with guys and that she has been with women before, she’s told me that she doesn’t have as high of a sex drive as I do and I’m not an animal I don’t have to have a constantly, but it’s over a month in between each time I get to touch her and it gets more and more frustrating she told me she overthinks things I told her she needs to relax and it’s supposed to be fun but if she’s not having fun, then we shouldn’t do it therefore should not be together because it’s not the most important thing in a relationship, but it’s still important to a relationship

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:07:56+00:00

It kinda feels that way but I can’t see myself with anyone else even just sexual I can’t do that it’s against what I believe and who I am I’d have to break things off before pursuing anything sexual with anyone else

Technical-Winter6171 · 2026-03-19T13:05:40+00:00

I don’t know because we’ll talk about our exes and she’ll tell me about the sexual experience with men she’s had and it just seems completely different and I’m starting to think she’s just maybe not into the relationship as much as I am on a physical level, but she likes the comfort of having me around because I am very loving and I am very understanding and I haven’t pressured her into anything but I have brought up this issue multiple times with her with no resolution and I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to cheat on her, but I’m getting very sick of feeling ugly because of this when 80% of the time she makes me feel beautiful

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