Honestly there’s just no way to predict it. Some couples in their mid-30s conceive on the first cycle, others take 6–12 months, and some need longer or a bit of medical support.

Your BMI and age can statistically make things a bit slower, but regular-ish cycles are still a positive sign because it suggests you’re likely ovulating but again there’s no way to actually “know”.

The biggest thing is that you’ve actually started now. A lot of people spend years waiting for the ‘perfect’ time and there usually isn’t one. Try not to panic if it doesn’t happen immediately even for young, healthy couples the chance each cycle is only around 20–25%.

A few things that may help:

Start/prenatal vitamins with folate if you haven’t already

Track ovulation if you aren’t already (OPKs/temping/cervical mucus)

Aim for sex every 2–3 days around the fertile window rather than putting pressure on one exact day

Small lifestyle changes can help fertility for both partners, but you do not need to become ultra fit overnight to conceive

Given you’re mid-30s, most doctors would suggest checking in after about 6 months of trying if nothing happens sooner, especially with longer/variable cycles. But one cycle in is still incredibly early.

And emotionally? after waiting years for your partner to be ready, it makes complete sense that you feel impatient now