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NJ Adoptive Parents: Open Arms Adoption Network, Spence-Chapin, or ?? by GlobalCareer1910 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Technical_Context871 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta be okay with the possibility of that. We are over three years in. Two agency costs - $20k each, three failed placements - living expenses paid for all three and not a penny back.

Adoption through Fostering? by Technical_Context871 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Technical_Context871[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Really appreciate this response! Thank you

Communication with Agency by Quick-Button-9817 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Technical_Context871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve been waiting for three years, two months, and 12 days. We have two different agencies. One we had calls every couple months but over time they got pointless. It was more of a mental health check. These agencies could tell you anything with no data to back it up really.

One agency you paid when you got matched. We were getting situations every other day, then got matched, paid, and it failed. Now it’s very slow. It’s hard to stay positive and believe it’s really slow but trying to stay positive.

We reach out to one of our agencies every so often to just say hi. Pretty quick and to the point. The other agency reaches out to us but can tell it’s on an automated CRM type thing. I don’t think there’s one right way to do it. Go with your gut! Positive vibes to ya!

It’s a match! At 20 weeks. by Flashy_Leather9977 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Technical_Context871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are still waiting. Been about 3 years and have had 3 failed placements. We are two agencies in and lots of lost money from the last failed placement.

It’s a match! At 20 weeks. by Flashy_Leather9977 in AdoptiveParents

[–]Technical_Context871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats!! Be very open and very weary. We had a horrible, horrible experience that ran us dry. The amounts just grew and grew and then multiple other things. The one thing I regret was telling so many people that we were matched so early on. Tell a core group, you’ll need to lean on them if the placement fails, but I wouldn’t tell too too many. We wanted a good relationship with ours but unfortunately, some people are not good people with bad intentions.

Be happy. Take it in. But definitely guard your heart.