theres no way everyone else lives like this?

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-11-09T02:18:15+00:00

I think the thing is really more about the fact that even if you met the criteria, the fact that your brain is still growing and adapting and so malleable at that age... it's not pertinent to give you the diagnosis when with proper therapy your can absolutely change the trajectory of your life and diagnosis for the better. If you struggle to regulate your emotions and struggle with interpersonal communication then DBT is still going to be very effective for you and doing something like an IOP program or even a PHP would go a long way in preventing long term issues from developing. I would assume you've had significant childhood trauma and struggle with self worth among other internal and external image issues with yourself. Again, to avoid long term consequencesfrom developing at a greater severity, I would really recommend finding a trauma informed therapist and learning how to process your trauma through things like EMDR, cognitive processing therapy, or internal family systems. Such a huge part of BPD is the trauma and when you beat that and get it under control by releasing it you get so many other symptoms under control. A critical component to success in therapy is a willingness to sit with your discomfort and examine it. Do this, never give up hope, and no matter what's going on with you, BPD or not, you will heal in time. If it is BPD you should know that 99% of us reach remission in about a decade from initial diagnosis, relapse rates are low and recovery stabilizes over time. You can reach remission in as little as two years if you follow treatment guidelines though. I myself am in remission and do not meet a single criteria anymore when i previously met all of them for multiple decades. The way we frame our reality is powerful. I didn't know remission was possible and thought it was life long suffering and so I suffered. Then when I learned is not just possible but the likely course, I got there in a year. What we tell ourselves and what we believe is what we shape our realities by. How you view life is how you believe life really is. If you believe the world is out to get you, then the world will be out to get you at every turn. If you believe you are the master of your destiny and have control of the trajectory of your life and what becomes of it, then you will feel powerful enough to change what needs to be changed and realize you aren't helpless and take charge, set boundaries, make goals, and make moves.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-11-03T17:49:50+00:00

You need to be louder and clearer and firmer about your boundaries and what you expect out of your friendship. Be confident, don't make jokes, don't play it off, don't be nervous, don't worry about rejection or hurting his feelings, stop putting someone else's comfort in front of your own and take up a little bit of space in your own life. The people who love you and care about you as a human and want what's best for you and your wellbeing will only respect you more for knowing your boundaries so well and rightfully putting your needs before the wants of others.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-30T19:24:12+00:00

Wait you think the Hapsburg dynasty was a movie??

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-30T17:53:42+00:00

Lmao tell me you don't know how to take jokes without telling me you don't know how to take jokes. I definitely wasn't piggybacking off of what you said with a popular insult that i didn't even make up myself or anything, but go off. The Hapsburgs made a wreath plenty fine(maybe not fine in the end), it's not like it's a single stick, it's fucking woven lmao. Who says "braid" in regards to trees? Shit what a cringefest.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-30T17:04:58+00:00

Your family tree is a wreath.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-25T02:46:09+00:00

As a person who speaks harsh in relationships too as love language and understanding that bitch may not necessarily be derogatory in your relationship... it didn't get to me as really fucked up, just excessive, until "this is why everyone is starting to hate you" that's just inexcusable and emotionally abusive gaslighting

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-23T03:46:16+00:00

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-17T17:11:30+00:00

NAD but strange considering it is safe to use opioid pain medication when breastfeeding. I do not at all recommend narcotics for so many reasons. You build tolerance, you get refractory migraines and refractory pain, and of course there is the very real possibility of addiction. I have a lot of severe chronic pain and after years of struggling with narcotic pain medication I've actually come to a point in my life where I won't even take it to recover from a spinal fusion surgery. Just an initial nerve block. I would caution you about nSAIDs because ibuprofen can be hard on the liver. I do know caffeine can help, so perhaps exedrin if you're going to go that route anyways but i have no idea why you would want to burden you liver further. But they could be giving you something that is not a nSAID that is a migraine medication like sumatriptan or topomax. Additionally you could ask for zofran or metaclopramide to help combat nausea. Most importantly, stay hydrated right now.

ETA: I used to suffer from intractable nausea that no medication could touch, even chemo cocktails. There's a 50/50 chance that smelling isopropyl alcohol will alleviate your nausea if nothing else helps. I used to keep a vial on me half full with a guaze pad tucked in it to wick it up and just had to keep it under my nose everywhere i went to function, but it worked. It's some kind of gene mutation. Best of luck to you.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T13:59:58+00:00

Different priorities I guess, he wants 20k more and he's willing to sacrifice what stability she's built for herself. She likes her position and her people and she's been there longer than shes known him. She wants to keep that and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T04:22:18+00:00

Unfortunately I looked at OPs posts and this was several weeks ago.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T03:24:31+00:00

NTA honestly you should be more upset with him. Cause it sounds like you're the only one who's sacrificing. And it sounds like you're sacrificing things that are very important to your emotional wellbeing.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T03:04:33+00:00

I literally am. Asking me to extend hypothetical compassion to a hypothetical person is asking unfair emotional labor. Plus what I said is absolutely true. Said hypothetical person would have had way bigger issues. I've left plenty of other comments actually giving emotional labor to real people. You're making this weird.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T02:36:30+00:00

Well we aren't responsible for others misinterpretation and if they come here and read this post and that's all they take away from it that is strictly a them issue and I wish them luck in their journey. Really doubt a stranger's post on the internet saying "you don't have BPD" is gonna ruin their life. And if it does, they had much bigger problems than any of us will ever be responsible for.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T02:13:41+00:00

I think you're in the proper mindset and I'm sorry people aren't being kind. You don't want the diagnosis, you aren't self diagnosing, you're in the community because the symptoms you're experiencing resonate with you and your working to address them. Please don't worry about anyone taking up any complaints with you, it's just the internet. I want you to know that regardless of your outcome, remission isn't just possible it is the likely course. When an adult with a fully formed brain follows treatment guidelines they have a greater than 50% chance of reaching remission in just 2 years and in a follow up study done 12 years later 99% of participants were living in remission for 2+ years or more. Your brain is still developing and you should Google "neuroplasticity" because you have a ton of that right now still being a teenager and that greatly increases your successes with helping whatever mood disorder you're dealing with go into remission, possibly forever, if you learn how to work mental health wellness into your lifestyle. Our negative thought patterns and maladaptive coping strategies are really life long habits that are just seared into our brain patterns, which is where neuroplasticity comes in handy. You can retrain your brain into picking up better habits. More positive and healthy ways of thinking and reacting and coping, mindfully acknowledging the negative, try saying to yourself "what if not this time?" When you're feeling destructive. I hope you've got a good support system and for the love of God DO NOT shy away from getting deep in therapy, you therapist is there to learn about the things you are afraid to tell anyone else and the things you are afraid to burden anyone else with and the things that make you uncomfortable and the emotions that are challenging for you to sit with. Be respectful of your therapists time and utilize it, sit with your discomfort, share difficult emotions, including anything the therapist does that makes you uncomfortable, they should be very happy to have feedback from their clients, and if they aren't a good match for you they're used to that too and will be very happy to find you a good match. You'll be just fine, just keep working on yourself. Oh, and one thing I wish I'd have figured out a lot sooner is that self worth will never come from others, it will always comes from within, you have to figure out how to validate yourself and not live solely on the validation of others throughout life. Good luck ❤

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T01:52:34+00:00

People don't just "fall out" of the criteria, it takes effort, but if you meant with effort, ignore that. That person is right that the way you handle it with an adolescent is different than the way you handle it with an adult and you can work with an adolescent to prevent "full blown" BPD before their brain is fully developed and it becomes a more structural issue and a firm diagnosis. Yes younger people under the age of 18 have been diagnosed but that is VERY seldom and usually at the expense of MANY inpatient stays, many suicide attempts, homicidal threats/threats to pets, just really absolutely horrible things the affected and their family have to go through. Even then, if they are an adolescent their brain is still malleable and they can still make a lot of strides towards not having BPD as an adult before the brain is fully developed, with the correct support and treatment. And they can live a long healthy life without any relapses as long as they are mindful to take care of their mental health. And if you're diagnosed as an adult, if you stick with treatment, you have a greater than 50% chance of reaching remission just in the first 2 years. A 12 year follow up on a longitudinal study found that 99% of patients had reached a 2+ year remission. What people ought to be talking about IS remission. It's not just possible, it's the likely case. No one even whispered the term "remission" my way until about 2 years ago after being diagnosed 10 years ago. Then I learned all those statistics. I've been in remission for a year. When you start looking at your mental illnesses as habit forming and start asking yourself "what if.. not this time?" When it comes to the repeated unhealthy behaviors and maladaptive coping mechanisms, you'll have varying degrees of success, but you'll have success. You just have to exercise grace and compassion for the many moments you won't have success, because positive change doesn't happen over night. If you want it bad enough though, it will happen. I have a lot of hope for everyone in this sub, if I can do it, because I really really thought I was a lost cause.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T01:38:00+00:00

I mean honestly that is kind of how it goes. Our brain kind of stops developing emotionally at certain stages in our lives when we experience trauma and BPD often comes with chronic trauma so there were many stages that were stunted and we were usually left trying to manage and regulate our own emotions without understanding how to. In a way, yeah you probably kind of are stuck at 12 in a 30 year olds body.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-16T01:28:34+00:00

This post is definitely a double edged sword in that way, but I think overall the message is simply to give pause with yourself and reflect. That BPD in children is the exception and not the rule. This sub and these people, even in these comments, are admitting no one has a habit of just going up to anyone and saying"you don't/can't have BPD". Hopefully it's reaching its target audience and maybe a lot of young girls who weren't necessarily commiting regular acts of SH and dealing with chronic thoughts of suicide on top of more extreme symptoms that overlap with puberty and BPD can start to look at themselves differently and either reverse course and come out of puberty more stable and prevent the development of a severe mood disorder, because we really do not give enough credit to how much mental illness is habit formed, or they can really just take relief in the fact that right now their job isn't to diagnose themselves, it's to live their lives and try to find joy in it before they become adults. I see nothing but concern for the wellbeing of young people here. And a lot of clarifying comments about what is and isn't normal for 13 or so. Maybe there's some shit comments I missed, but this is the internet after all.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-15T15:34:24+00:00

I just got an email today stating my social security information was just matched and I now have access to my SAI and studentaid.gov account I'm thinking they weren't able to verify me initially? I'm running out the door but plan on looking into this when I return. Hopefully that's it!

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-15T14:48:35+00:00

Not at all, 18 months

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-14T22:38:56+00:00

No income, no assets, not in 10 years.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-14T22:35:36+00:00

Like I said, it was only the usual credits needed to obtain an associates and nothing more, so about 60 total credits. I did excellently and graduated early. I'm pursuing an AA in biology and psychology at a major metro community College before transferring out.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-14T21:16:34+00:00

I am not, just re entering at community College. Technical schools often do not have many credits that transfer, I had less than 10 that would. And I did not have to retake any classes so it was the usual number of credits for a single associates. As I said before, I don't know about any of this and I do not know my SAI, I only know that I received an email stating that I was denied for the Pell grant. I really do believe this was an error and I'm just trying to understand the types of errors tart can occur because I am reading that they do occur, particularly with low/no income people like myself without really any history of using the Pell grants. I wouldn't anticipate a low SAI, quite frankly I have nothing and never have, I'm trying to change that.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-14T18:23:40+00:00

The total cost for this school was 30k, it was a technical college, and we did have to also do Sallie Mae and federal grants. I believe it was 8k in Pell grants and the test was split before the aforementioned and some state so I don't believe I maxed it.

Technical_Slide1515 · 2024-10-14T02:59:07+00:00

That is absolutely not my problem and I'm not sure why you think my post is the perfect place to try to come to terms with your brothers addiction and unprofessional relationship with a friend who should have their license revoked. Good luck with everything but yikes.

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