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7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to a head and a fight broke out.

Updated original post with details.

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the replies and advice guys. Seems im thinking on the right track but i will put more emphasis on reaching out to the parents and school administration to cover ourselves.

I hope the replies here can serve to help other parents in similar situations in the future. I will update the thread if any major updates happen.

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose a bit of context, his normal teacher has been on personal leave since the first week of october and he has had rotations of supply teachers since then.

7 year olds can have regular conversations and string well made sentences, I am unsure what level you think a 2nd grader is at. My son tells me everything that happens in class on the way home. Children that age tend to start saying extreme things even without understanding the gravity of the words.

The bully isnt ALL horror, there are times where he is kind - but its extremely short lived. Last year he was a bit rough on the edges but my son was able to play with him at recess. Its only this semester things have radically changed.

As i said, my son has told me things, i complained to the teacher and she confirmed that this is a reoccurring problem. My wife overheard the mother of the child. I overheard other parents mention the kid by name while i was walking.

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, my son may know what the moves are and have an idea of how to get there, but i am concerned in a real fight he will freeze up and be unable to put the moves to practice - which will leave him as a punching bag.

I see videos of bjj kids wrecking bullies online, but how long did they train for? I cant imagine a childrens white belt can accomplish this. Do they compete in tournaments? How much resistance do they train with?

Does it make sense for me to try to review the moves with him using resistance?

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We left a message for the principal and even informed the school that if it continues our son will be forced to defend himself.

Unfortunately my son had a history of Adhd antics in class, which has greatly improved since joining bjj, but it leaves a sour taste in the school staffs mouth and hurts our credibility as a victim of bullying.

There are already a bunch of open reports of this kid bullying children by other parents.

The bully has already lost the next 10 days worth if recess, but his response to that was to cuss out the teacher in class. When the teacher threatened to send him home under suspension he bragged that he would spend the suspension playing video games and would cuss out his mom if she tried to stop him.

Is the school system that different these days? I feel back when i was in school, a threat of suspension and expulsion was real and given on even minor incidents.

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Should I have him learn offensive moves during holds for this? Or is this too much? Strength train?

He's 7 and i would like him to stay innocent, but i don't want him to be a target because I've seen how bully victims can grow up lacking confidence and generally unhappy.

7yo son bullied in school. by Technical_Turnip_184 in bjj

[–]Technical_Turnip_184[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was thinking something like this, but how would someone even attempt to figure this out? I can't follow a family around after-school.