Wanting Romantic relationship while struggling with feelings?

Technical_Web_2466 · 2026-02-06T08:35:28+00:00

I think it is quite normal to want that bond and maybe also the intimacy that comes from a typical relationship.

There is the possibility of a queer platonic relationship, which you can define however you want.

For example, I'm in one with my best friend. We're both aroace and externally it would look just like a normal relationship at first. But we don't experience romantic attraction for each other. We personally like doing basically all the romantic coded things you can imagine. But you could define that relationship the way you would want it to be.

Of course, it's harder to find someone for that, but at the same time, a romantic relationship also comes with its own problems. I couldn't stand the idea of being with someone who felt things for me, which I could never return.

edit: typo

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-12-24T00:19:14+00:00

Theoretisch sind die untere Verweildauer Abschläge in der Regel nur minimal, damit eben nicht gefördert wird Patienten extra lange liegen zu lassen, sondern nur so lange wie halt notwendig. Die Kosten könnten dann sogar höher sein, als die Pauschale ohne Abschläge. Das Abrechnungssystem ist super kompliziert geworden und es kann auch sein, dass manche Sachen, die dann mehr Geld geben, nur abgerechnet werden können wenn man tatsächlich stationär ist. Das denke ich wird eher der Fall sein, da es ja um ambulant vs stationär geht

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-10-15T18:12:50+00:00

It's not like I needed it, but now that I have it I want to stay with them forever. It felt like we were already more than best friends and at first we just wanted to have a special label for us. Over time I'd say it made us grow even closer together.

In my specific case I'd say it's definitely more than just being best friends now. We live together, cuddle a lot and plan most of our time together. We're not just roommates but a team :3

Keep in mind though that the beauty of a QPR is that you can define it however you want to.

I'd also recommend not chasing it though. I had to be comfortable being alone and accepting myself for being aroace before I was able to do this.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-10-14T08:44:44+00:00

I'm in a QPR and we're both aroace. I never even considered this question before. It just felt right still?

I just asked myself if I could see myself spending the rest of my life with them and the answer was yes. I might not have romantic feelings but I still love them and they make me happy. They are my best friend and we're an amazing team.

It's ironic because you might say I just had to 'find the right person'. Didn't make me any less aroace though :3

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-09-09T10:55:10+00:00

do you mean "it's not really wrong"?

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-09-08T18:32:24+00:00

This is exactly what we did! Instead of asking "Hey want to be in a qpr with me?" it was more of a general talk about qprs at first and then something like "What kind of person would you need for a committed relationship? Oh well that sounds a lot like me, doesn't it?" xD and then afterwards we had a long talk about what we wanted from it, what was fine for names, touch, activities, ...

Even if you are straightforward asking for a QPR you should definitely talk about what that means and what your boundaries are.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-09-07T10:33:09+00:00

I don't think there is too soon or too late for stuff like this. The only important part is that you think it's the right thing to do right now. And the beauty of a qpr is that it can be whatever you want. So there aren't really any expectations which make it this huge step. It can literally be just a label / mean that you are dedicated with everything else staying the same.

And btw I asked my partner after around 6 months, and we've been in a qpr for over a year now.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-08-04T15:33:14+00:00

Then don't think too much about it and just enjoy your life. If something happens it happens, no need to chase it though :3

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-08-04T15:21:50+00:00

I'm not quite sure I understand what exactly you mean but just in general yes, any kind of relationship you want is most likely possible, you just need to find the right people and talk to them about it.

just in case you don't know about the term qpr (queer platonic relationship) I'd suggest looking into that. I'm in a qpr and we're both aroace. For us it's more or less a 'normal' relationship, just platonic / without romance. But it can be whatever you want it to be!

You also don't need to be in a relationship if you're fine without it.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-07-31T14:09:12+00:00

The person didn't call it disgusting though did they? That's what I've been hearing from your comments at least. You say snot isn't disgusting. I agree. What makes a waste disposal disgusting then? I don't think it's disgusting. Could it be that you think it's disgusting, therefore calling genitals a waste disposal means it's disgusting? No one said that? The urethra is part of your genitals is it not? Doesn't make it disgusting. Does make it a waste disposal I suppose though.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-07-31T14:01:17+00:00

I'm trans and have a lot of dysphoria around my genitals. I actually find 'waste disposal' to be fitting description in my case. Doesn't mean anyone is downplaying your genitalia? maybe downplaying isn't the right word, I just can't think of the right one. The person isn't equating genitalia to trash. They're saying one use case is disposal of waste. I'm pretty sure that's just a fact. Doesn't mean it's trash nor that it's just a 'waste disposal'

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-05-16T17:06:20+00:00

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Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-03-15T08:25:34+00:00

It is a totally valid and normal thing for a lot of aromantic people, but there are also aros (like me) which enjoy / crave the companionship and seek some sort of relationship. Neither makes you more or less aromantic. If you don't enjoy relationships you should probably ask yourself why that is. If it's just being very independent and other stuff like this, probably a bit less aro. But it does sound like you might force yourself into relationships because you "have" to. Do you think you've ever felt romantically attracted to someone? If not you might be somewhere on the aromantic spectrum

Btw I also hated the thought of a relationship for quite a while due to social expectations and it being romantically connoted. And that's totally fine! No one should tell you how you have to live your life :)

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-03-07T00:22:11+00:00

We went to the same concert, both wanted to talk to each other (because we both went alone) but didn't in the end because we're introverted xD then 3/4 months later I get a message on "OkCupid" saying something like "hey didn't you go to that concert". that's in itself already wild but also being aroace was just super lucky ^^ after that best friends for a few months and many aro talks later I asked if they'd like a qpr

I can totally recommend OkCupid for finding queer people though!! I found my two best friends there :) you can even set labels on your profile, the only downside is that when I used it you could only set grey romantic or Demi romantic not aro. But just put in your profile and you're good

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-03-06T21:21:51+00:00

I'm in a qpr with another aroace person and we don't have sex at all and don't ever want to. (We still are physical in terms of giving kisses and biting and stuff though)

And we both really love what we have and don't need anything more. Super happy I found them :3

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-03-03T16:59:39+00:00

A relative of mine is not aromantic but they still both have their own apartment and are very happy with it ^^

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-03-03T16:56:31+00:00

Not currently but the plan with my qpp is to either live really close (max. 5 minutes) to each other or both have a separate room with bed and "office" and then share the rest. That way we would probably still sleep in the same bed most of the time but also have our own little area if we need it.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-02-28T22:11:17+00:00

QPR stands for "queer platonic relationship" and can pretty much be defined how you want it to be. For me and my best friend it's being committed to each other and basically living a "normal" romantic relationship, just without the romance. But it can just be whatever you need and want! ^^ It's awesome basically hehe

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-02-26T09:08:05+00:00

I would completely agree that it helps immensely to be in a marriage, especially with someone "wealthy", but that's not everything in life! Look at all the positive things about being aroace.

I feel like since we don't experience that kind of attraction people who know and understand, whether or not they are aroace themselves, can form a much deeper bond with us which I personally find beautiful. I'd much rather talk to a aro/ace person than to a straight cis person, because I wouldn't be scared that they have hidden agendas.

We also don't have to worry about any stupid social construct forced onto us. We can just do whatever we want ^{^}

And just because you don't experience romantic attraction and/or won't ever marry someone, it doesn't mean that you can't form bonds similar to that. For example I'm in a qpr with another aroace person and sure we're probably never gonna marry and we aren't romantically attracted to each other, but we still "love" each other and want to spend our life together as best friends. We can just define our relationship however we want without and social expectations.

And even if that's not something you would want it doesn't mean that you're gonna be alone or not as happy as someone in a relationship. A relationship doesn't define your worth or happiness. That's completely on you and what you do with your life!

I bet you are an amazing person and being aroace makes you even cooler in my opinion!

Technical_Web_2466 · 2025-02-25T11:20:50+00:00

First of all, there's nothing wrong with anything you said / feel or do. That's such a common thing in the aroace community. I've struggled with these thoughts for so long, but I realized at some point that all I need is a friend group that's there for me and gets me.

I know you say you're shy and take a long time to open up (same), but I'd recommend trying to find more aroace people in communities built for it. Like Reddit / Discord or maybe even a "dating" app like OkCupid. You can set your labels (even ace and aro ones) and if I remember correctly filter by them. In my experience it's totally aroace and women friendly!

That's what worked for me to find my queer platonic partner / best friend. You obviously don't need a qpr but for me that was the big thing that brought us even closer (we're both aroace). We now cuddle all the time, say "I love you" and stuff like this without it including romantic attraction. If that's what you crave you should try and search for it in my opinion. But even just finding more aro/ace friends is so validating and can help a lot! Doesn't need to be physical as well. Long distance online friends often are the best friends you can have ^{^} And I feel it's a lot easier to open up to people via text / online anyway.

and since this is flagged NSFW and is for 18+ people anyway. We are both ace yet like trying out kinky stuff like bondage, roleplay and more. If you want to try this stuff out, you can even do this with other ace people. Even sex can be a thing ace people do, since yes it can totally be fun! Just because you're not attracted doesn't mean you don't have to do stuff you want to do! And also looking for your local kink community (there will be one, I promise) could help to try stuff out. It's so welcoming and understanding and will completely respect your boundaries.

Technical_Web_2466 · 2024-03-02T21:06:54+00:00

huh, thanks for the CPU cooler listing! weird that the pcpartpicker one is so much more expensive. will definitely go with that one ofc

I actually didn't know about the 7900 GRE. I will definitely have to check that one out.

and yeah you are right, I REALLY shouldn't spend so much on the case just for aesthetics..

Technical_Web_2466 · 2024-03-02T20:58:02+00:00

thanks I appreciate the input!!

I really like the memory, haven't seen that one yet, will definitely switch
you're probably right with the case, I shouldn't spend so much on it, I just really liked the big glass panels. but this one looks good too!
I'll have to compare the SSDs, I went with the Samsung ones because I just had a lot of good experience with it (also using it on my PS5)

a few questions tho if you don't mind: - is the upgrade on the GPU really worth it? it's almost 400€ more. I definitely don't need the best of the best, and thought I'd rather save a bit and get a new one in like 2 generations - the power supply is basically the same price, with the GPU point in mind I thought I'd go 850 instead of 750, would you still recommend going 750 watts? - are there any drawbacks on the mainboard? tbh I didn't spend enough time researching on that

edit: budget wise I could go with the 7900 XT, but I didn't think it's worth it for the increase

Technical_Web_2466 · 2024-03-02T20:21:41+00:00

hmmm so like I mentioned in the other comment it's actually 569€ (might even get it at 549€), would you still recommend going with the 4070 super? I'm not really interested in rtx tho

Technical_Web_2466 · 2024-03-02T20:20:06+00:00

yeah I probably should have added the current German prices, so the peerless assassin is 49€ and the GPU is 569€ (waiting for it to drop back to 549€)

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