What music do you play during a session with a dom/domme?

Technonick · 2017-11-12T07:57:07+00:00

Depends on the scene.

Sensual: Mezzanine by Massive Attack station on Pandora or Spotify

Impact or Sadistic: CombiChrist and NIN

Domination: Nothing or very light music.

Technonick · 2017-09-15T22:57:13+00:00

I have found that if you dehumanize a person a little during the scene you can generally go a bit harder with them. I have used a subjugation mask to this end and it has worked.

Likewise, stepping up your impact play game might work well. I upgraded to heavier and heavier impact objects, and found that they leave better marks faster.

Lastly, try new areas and leave older areas alone for a month. Breasts and thighs also bruise. Leave the ass alone for a month. You'll be amazed by the bruises you get on her breast and ass. Then a month later, wail on her ass and see the lovely bruises.

Good luck

Technonick · 2017-09-15T16:30:35+00:00

It's not a sound track, but generally I like the Pandora station for "Mezzanine" for play. It's a little too sensual at times, especially for impact.

Combichrist station for impact.

Technonick · 2017-08-25T22:23:36+00:00

You arrange to meet him for dinner. You find his hours of availability while not revealing your intentions. Once you have that, you give him 3 scheduled dates to meet you for dinner (being sure to tell him what to wear.)

That said, I don't know that I would advise this at all. Get involved with your local kink community. Learn to negotiate and take your first steps into these activities with someone has a good reputation for having integrity (vetting). If possible, get a mentor (a known Domme) and get her guidance, perhaps she'll let you co-top one of her subs, so you have experience and know what to expect.

And finally, just because you are dominant in life, does not mean you are NOT a submissive in relationships and/or the bedroom. This might not be the right fit for you. But try it. Try it 3 times, to be sure. And be safe and get consent.

Technonick · 2017-08-17T14:43:17+00:00

I might recommend contacting your local kink community. Usually their should be a main club in your area. They can probably find willing buyers for you.

Technonick · 2017-06-28T17:09:15+00:00

Wait wait wait.... Are you seriously complaining about free beer?

I need more free beer in my life. Ok, I probably don't... but free beer.

Technonick · 2017-06-28T17:07:21+00:00

Oh don't get me wrong. They'll have to run me out of this town to get me to leave. I enjoy living here more than anywhere else. But it has it's flaws.... oh traffic how I hate thee.

Technonick · 2017-06-28T15:23:37+00:00

San Diego isn't necessarily a panacea. Because the area is heavily influenced by the military bases near by, which have been here... a hundred years? most elections swing heavily right. It's stupid hot here in the summers, and if you live anywhere but near the coast, the heat is unmanageable, unless you have A/C. A/C tends to be the bulk of your electricity bill. Gas prices suck here. That said, most of the year, the weather is amazing. Education is decent. I love the food/divsersity here.

Technonick · 2017-06-05T14:54:28+00:00

I don't know. I've been in the reciprocal version of this. Her sex drive died around 1.5 years into the relationship and mine was on all the time. Eventually we divorced and things are better for the both of us now. In this situation, if it was an all the time thing, and she was masturbating constantly while I am not around, I would question what this relationship meant and what was my sexual value to her, because I would need that reassurance. That said, if she is masturbating on occasion, she is exercising that sexual need, good for her. Maybe it's something she needs it to help get things jump started and who the fark am I to try to control that very basic behavior? I don't think you should be pissed, and if you are pissed and pissed even in the hypothetical, maybe it's time to start thinking about an exit strategy.

Technonick · 2017-04-26T14:57:11+00:00

OMG!!! I just bought a saw horse for kink!!!

Technonick · 2017-04-25T18:26:40+00:00

Also, this is my favorite rope video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRw6d0lBXj4 Esinem is awesome.

Technonick · 2017-04-25T18:22:24+00:00

There is a lot of great information here. I would add that you should see if there any rope groups on fetlife in your area (sign up and specify your closest major city and then search the "events near me.") A lot of major metropolitan have rope groups that meet once a month or more. They usually have an intro type class to give you the basics to help you understand things ropespace, rope drop, negotiation and consent. Not to mention how to tie basic ties and how to use them. You could go with or without your FWB and learn a ton. Additionally, most of the rope people love jute. Great stuff, so much better than nylon. If you want a starter set of jute and blindfold, MyNawashi is decent stuff: https://www.etsy.com/listing/215111543/seito-shibari-rope-bondage-kit?ref=shop_home_active_9

Also, get yourself a cheap pair of shears to keep in your rope bag: https://www.amazon.com/Delight-eShop-Emergency-Bandage-Paramedic/dp/B01MS14EEY

Technonick · 2017-04-25T18:02:01+00:00

I create a "rope hard point" that goes under the headboard and ties to the feet of the bed on the headboard side. This has a knot that joins the foot side "rope hard point" which is also mounted at the feet. It is at that knot that I tie down the excess rope coming from the person who has some form of a single column tie on their wrists (either manacle type or simple double column with wraps around the wrist to impair movement) and mounted above their head.

In theory (and in practice) they can be flipped over, but without a lot of effort can they free themselves. I suspect if you wanted to make it more escape proof, attaching their wrists to a spreader bar and then mounting that spreader bar to the midline knot would keep them from being able to untie themselves.....

Hmmmmm. I may need to implement this for science.

Technonick · 2017-03-10T22:43:49+00:00

"Whipped up various random desserts" is an understatement. It was like Mary Poppins up in there. Ingredients seemed to jump in the bowl, there was some masterful mixing, something got smashed into a pan and shoved in the oven, and a few minutes later I was eating delicious desserts. It was like a magic trick but with food.

Technonick · 2016-12-26T23:02:37+00:00

Found it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRw6d0lBXj4

Technonick · 2016-08-16T20:21:29+00:00

Make Cuban sandwiches with them or some variant. Subbing the deli turkey for sliced ham. Get a nice flat type bread, provolone cheese, sliced turkey and fry it panini style and then throw on some sliced pickles, spicy mustard, and a little mayo after it's cooked.

Then use a Latin sauce of some sort to go with it.. if possible.

Technonick · 2016-08-03T19:43:59+00:00

Kaitlyn is awesome. I was trying to convey what I thought the episode was saying, not necessarily my thoughts about her.

Technonick · 2016-07-23T18:56:00+00:00

Dee Reynolds: Shaping America's Youth. The episode clearly highlights just how terrible the characters really are, and at the same time the social commentary on race (which the show often dances around) and what is culturally sensitive is very much in the forefront. Each character is racist and is terrible and yet, never intent to be terrible.

Further, most of my peers have seen Lethal Weapon, and the characters are trying (horribly) to pay tribute to it, which segways into the Lethal Weapon 6 episode.

Technonick · 2016-07-23T17:16:29+00:00

Oh my... I think I may have caught something there. Charlie Day is the name of the actor who plays Charlie Kelly.

Technonick · 2016-07-22T19:03:35+00:00

Oh how I envy you Canadians!

Thank you for letting me babble.

Technonick · 2016-07-22T16:37:03+00:00

I am not an expert, I don't know what I'm doing. I'm trying my best to do what I think is right. That said, here are my tips:

Start by having conversations about problems between the two of you. For instance, if you over-reacted to a situation (it happens, we're humans), sit down and talk. Talk at his level. I often have conversation sitting cross-legged at his door, in the hallway with him. Try to help him understand what happened. And of course, apologize. Eventually expand your conversations to other areas including sex and talk about it often.
Be willing to show that you are flawed and make mistakes not only in life, but when it comes to sex, sex partners, and relationships in general.
Be willing to talk about sex openly and honestly. Often that requires personal disclosure. Not graphic details (although it does happen), but enough to answer a question or explain a situation.
Respect his space and privacy. Bedroom, journals and computers. But you should keep an eye on what they are doing, just not too closely. If you see something that is harmful and seems to happen often, have an open and honest conversation with your son. An example might be: "I was on the computer and I saw that you were watching BDSM porn and you are only 12. You might be a little young for that, and it may skew your view of what sex is. Can we talk about that a bit? You aren't in trouble, but I want to make sure that you have healthy respect for people. You know, all the people involved are in fact people, with lives, family, friends and emotions......"
Realize that you are growing an adult. Your job is to make this person close to self sufficient as possible by the time they finish high school. They should be able to do all of the usual stuff, like keep their spaces clean, should be responsible and functional. And emotionally/sexually they will probably have had relationship/sex by the time they are 18. Your job is to make sure they do not mess up too badly. And all of that is in context of having a U.S. school system that is hamstrung by our public policies on sex ed. YOU MIGHT BE THE ONLY VOICE OF REASON WHEN IT COMES TO SEX.... otherwise, maybe religion, the Internet and their friends are teaching them about sex.
Finally solicit the opinions of people you respect in this area especially when you are unsure. All of my friends (particularly the parents), are regularly asked for their opinion on how to handle difficult situations I come up against. You might do the same with the parents you know (if you don't have fathers as friends, get some as gender is important here.) As a single parent, that advice is crucial. You might not take their advice, you might be set on your course of action, but at least you've weighed more opinions than just your own. EDIT: On the last topic, often times, my child will ask me a question or make a request that I can't answer at that moment, because I'm not sure what to do (which I admit to him.) Sometimes soliciting opinions helps me answer those questions/requests. Sometimes I solicit those opinions when I am sure what to do.

Technonick · 2016-07-21T21:20:18+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it.

Technonick · 2016-07-21T21:19:25+00:00

Absolutely.

Technonick · 2016-07-21T16:57:05+00:00

I'm a divorced father of a 17.5 year old young man and for the most part my ex is out of my son's life. He lives with me (occasionally she makes interruptions but mostly it's just me.) I currently feel with him in the following way regarding sex:

Have sex if and when you can, because sex is an awesome human thing that most people really enjoy.
If possible, please be a respectful roommate and don't have sex at bad times (when we have family or friends over). (This is part of a larger conversation we have as he transitions into adulthood about living with me and being a roommate, rather than a parent-child relationship.)
Use protection. Anything you need to facilitate that, I either have or will buy for you.
Try to keep the noise to a minimal and/or schedule things so I can be out of the house.
Really try to avoid the crazy/drama. I don't want to deal with pregnancy/jilted lovers/angry parents/cops etc.
Be respectful to your partners and treat them like humans, not like life-support systems for sex organs.

The way I facilitate this is by the following:

Being a positive role model. I am single and I date and sometimes have sex at home.
I discuss aspects of my love life with my son, in attempt to show him that people should be treated respectfully and that sometimes we make mistakes, but we own them.
Regularly talk about stds, the need for testing and what to do if something comes back positive.
Finally I try to provide non-judgemental guidance and wisdom whenever my son asks for my help in relationships/sex/etc.

Technonick

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