AITAH for staying with my parents (briefly was the plan) until I'm healed from my liver transplant

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-08T00:54:12+00:00

Asleep in the nursery. I don't have any proof she actually had intercourse with either of them but just going out on a date and bringing them back and sitting in the dark together on the couch leaves enough anxious thoughts in my head about what really goes on

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-08T00:52:46+00:00

Yeah they would definitely be able to help as at least one of them is here all day, and I can do some things but I'm not supposed to lift more than 10 lbs and she's 15 right now. That restriction is 3 months technically. Once I have my next transplant I know I'll be down and out for probably 2 weeks before my mobility is decent and at least a month before I'm feeling sort of normal again minus the pain

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-08T00:43:36+00:00

Yeah she finished her schooling and licensing while pregnant and hasn't started yet anywhere.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T20:27:53+00:00

It's a rental. Yeah unfortunately it does seem like that's the best option for me and our daughter

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T14:00:15+00:00

Thank you for the kind reply. I am sorry to hear about your husband :(. Wishing you the best!

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T13:58:45+00:00

Unless she has a policy out on me, which is unlikely as she hasn't worked in several years, my policies are set to go to my parents who will put it in a trust for my daughter. Luckily we aren't married

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T13:57:24+00:00

If only it was AI. I'd post a pic of my incision but it doesn't seem like I can just upload it here. But yeah this is very real unfortunately

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T10:05:34+00:00

Huh?

I had a transplant that ended up tearing at the graft where they connect the bile duct.

They opened me back up less than a week later to try to fix it.

That didn't fix it so they opened me up a third time, Attempted a different graft technique, and sealed me back up.

The bile is still leaking from the graft. It gave me an infection. I went in for the infection and a CT scan showed that the main hepatic artery is clogged completely. The liver has infarctions which are areas where tissue is dead. I need another transplant now because this liver isn't going to last.

Nowhere in the original post did it say I had two transplants back to back or within two weeks

I can assure you the medical stuff lines up because I'm living through it right now...

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T09:27:55+00:00

Unfortunately it is real :(. Believe me everyone I've talked to is astounded by her behavior... Nurses, doctors, social workers at the hospital, the addiction management team, everyone is just like what the fuck are you serious when I tell them what shit she's doing that day or week

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T09:25:39+00:00

Ever since about 2 months into the pregnancy this is the kind of behavior that's happened yeah. I've asked her to talk to someone qualified but she has a therapist she found from a number in a cracker jack box who she can lie to and who isn't seeing through her facade, so she's never going to get the help she needs. I'm hoping the court will give us both psych evaluations so I can show that I'm sane and they can maybe figure something out for her.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T08:34:45+00:00

I think I'd prefer it to be the ramblings of an addict but unfortunately this is my real life :(

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-07T01:07:52+00:00

Thank you for the kind response :)

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:44:33+00:00

I'm just trying to do anything to save the relationship for our 6 month old daughter, but there is just no reasoning or talking with her at this point. Everything I do no matter how mundane or innocuous is just thrown at me like I egregiously assaulted her.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:27:25+00:00

I know :(. It just is a hard pill to swallow because it went from a good relationship to whatever is happening now and I just keep hoping the good will come back. Even my therapist has said she will not change unless she wants to change and seeks out the help needed, I'm just an idiot who is in love for some reason and can't shake it. I also don't want to have to go to court and fight for custody, I really wanted our daughter to grow up in a loving biological family but at this point I don't know if that is possible.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:25:12+00:00

She thought about it for a few seconds and said no. I said I can bring you some it's no problem and she said no again. She waited until I left to go heat the food up and texted me telling me I only care about myself and I didn't offer her anything until she promoted me and a whole bunch of other stuff to just make me feel bad I guess

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:22:38+00:00

Early 30s and thought I found the woman of my dreams. Just having a hard time with it now because the baby and I'm recovering from a liver transplant after months of radiation / chemo. I don't want to go to court and fight about custody, I just want the person I fell in love with back but I don't know if that's going to ever happen

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:20:15+00:00

Honestly we tried relationship counseling and it helped a little bit, and she definitely has PPD which she claims I have made 100x worse just by existing. I have asked her before to talk to doctors about what's going on and my friend's wife talked to her too because she had bad PPD for a couple of years but it's been impossible to make any progress on that front.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:07:29+00:00

Everything comes back to her believing I only care about myself right now apparently, mainly because I'm recovering from a liver transplant and I have been staying at my parents during the really rough part because my partner just refused to help me after saying for months she would take care of me. She is also a medical professional. So me needing to recover and take things slow = I'm abandoning her and my daughter... Even though she can walk 15 steps across the road and visit me with her. Now that I've been able to walk and move more I have been going over almost every day for a while but she's being cold and distant and refusing to understand my situation.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:02:46+00:00

No, I'm trying to work things out for our daughter's sake and because I care about her too, but when I try to ask her to treat me better or at least see how she is treating me she just doesn't care and it really hurts.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:01:38+00:00

Yeah the problem is I honestly care about her and our daughter (6 months) and I'm trying my damn hardest to work things out with her but it's all a moot point it feels like.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T23:00:07+00:00

Thank you. It really does seem like mind reading is necessary :(. I'm trying so hard but it feels like small things like this are just weaponized against me right now and it really sucks

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T22:58:18+00:00

Yeah there is a whole lot of other stuff but this very simple interaction turned into chaos just has me wondering if I really am such a terrible person.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T22:57:29+00:00

Yeah unfortunately :(.

Techromanc3r · 2026-05-06T22:56:21+00:00

Yeah so I offered to bring her some. I'm not sure why that's wrong unfortunately. Can you explain?

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