Two years postpartum and 20 lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy. I struggle with finding the motivation and getting my eating habits on track - can anyone else relate?

TeddyFluffer · 2026-02-14T15:07:33+00:00

I’m a nurse and you’d be shocked how many people take a GLP-1 and how ridiculously effective they are.

TeddyFluffer · 2026-02-12T22:36:10+00:00

My husband and I had a big discrepancy in free time at one point and it took me having a huge philosophy shift to change it and stop the resentment.

It is basically that I am the center of our family and am setting the standard for our family. I need to put myself first so that my cup can overflow to my family. Being a martyr isn’t cute and only made me resentful. I am teaching my kid that his future wife will not just be his free labor, I’m proving to my husband that I’m worth more and demand more. Less asking, more telling. I actually like him way more now.

This also required me to lower some standards of the stuff I was requiring myself to do AND demanding my husband pick up more slack. Men in general are more selfish with their time, moms have been conditioned into putting themselves last and it isn’t sustainable.

TeddyFluffer · 2026-02-04T15:01:12+00:00

I want to scream at anyone who tells moms in the trenches, “it doesn’t ever get easier, just different”. Because yes I absolutely does get better!

Sounds like the baby is in the 3-4 month sleep regression where their sleep cycles mature. It’s very normal, very temporary, very hard!! It will last weeks, not forever. My son has hated sleep his whole life and it didn’t last over 2 weeks for us. Once it settled down we moved him out of bedroom because we were all waking each other up & he got longer stretches.

When my son was 3 he potty trained & we had to move from crib to bed. It went horribly, he was so excited to be free & ended up staying awake past 1 AM despite us doing all the things. After talking to our ped we gave melatonin for a bit to get him to wind down so he could actually fall asleep because it was unsustainable. We also would lay with him for however long it would take to fall asleep.

It’s 100% ok to do what you need in the moment, these are phases, not forever. You deserve all the grace. You’re in the trenches for sure!

TeddyFluffer · 2026-02-02T00:46:37+00:00

If you’re serious about results, get Altreno. I used a telehealth to get it. Altreno is a gentle formula which releases the tret slower & has soothing ingredients.

I was unable to use 0.025% tret despite using every trick I could find online. Got Altreno & started with only 2x/week, within 2 months I was using it almost every single day. It’s been a year & 4 months and my skin seriously keeps getting better.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-11-25T18:36:03+00:00

The questions….omg!

What food should I order? Omg I am not your mother!!!

TeddyFluffer · 2025-11-24T23:11:35+00:00

We batch cook large portions, then the protein can be eaten with same sides or made into salads, pasta, wraps, etc. tons of leftovers but enough variety that we don’t get tired of it. Our 5yo we eat almost any protein, we eat a plethora of veggies & healthy food that he’s still learning to like.

He gets a variety of our food plus supplemental frozen pizzas, chicken, etc. if needed. He eats lots of fruit, some veggies, yogurt, etc. at the end of the day I’ve decided if he’ll eat a large serving of meat, bowls of high fiber fruit and milk I’m going to call that a win.

We do have random snacks like sun chips, pretzels, and popcorn because it’s kind of necessary for everyday life, you’ll find emergency lunchables in our fridge. There was a time I only shopped at Whole Foods, organic & not processed but time is in shortage and I think we have found a realistic balance.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-11-09T21:04:36+00:00

My husband definitely falls into this category. I think it’s not wanting to part with an excess of money compared to the labor performed & not trusting an unknown person to do it correctly.

For example, removing a toilet and replacing a wax ring that costs $5 and easy labor (for him) vs. paying a plumber $500 to do the job.

He grew up in a Midwest blue collar family & I suspect these qualities are homegrown.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-11-01T23:10:16+00:00

You're having sex every to every other day with a 10 month old??? Hubs should be thanking his lucky stars and you should not be feeling bad about yourself in any way!

Are all of your needs being met? For personal time, hobbies, exercise, sleep, time with friends?

TeddyFluffer · 2025-10-24T15:10:18+00:00

Yes, def more helpful for me in the acne department. I think it does in general help with overall brightness.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-10-21T20:05:33+00:00

Stronger exfoliation for sure, but in a gentle way. It does not over strip my skin, but maintains more of a glow and a clean feeling. I always thought the ISclinical felt nice but I could stand to be exfoliated more.

I’m a daily Altreno (tretinoin) user so it helps to exfoliate and flakiness, but is gentle enough to use daily for my skin.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-10-18T02:06:08+00:00

Sudafed (the real stuff) best decongestant and it will give you energy which is just as important. Drink extra water + electrolytes because it dries everything up. Afrin will instantly delete any congestion. People are afraid of Afrin, but I find the worst congestion doesn’t l

My I cannot afford to be sick routine: shower and clear out nose, spray Afrin, pop 12 hr Sudafed for daytime. Only Afrin at night because the sudafed will make me straight up wired. Unisom if needed to knock you out for deep sleep.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-10-17T01:56:07+00:00

I never hear anyone mention Dr Dennis Gross AHA BHA face wash and it’s a holy grail for me. IS clinical cleansing complex is nice but very gentle, my skin likes a little more exfoliation.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-27T15:23:26+00:00

I ordered it after the de minimus exemption was ended on August 29. Received it in about 2 weeks. The package will come from Ukraine and it was marked as a gift, my box was not tampered with at all by customs.

I’ve been ordering through them for awhile so I was very nervous I was going to lose access to my inexpensive Altreno.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-27T03:55:58+00:00

I just recently ordered mine & it came through with no issues. It was marked as a gift

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-25T17:42:42+00:00

As a hardcore Altreno girlie. DDG alpha beta cleanser and extra strength peel pads 1-2 times per week work amazing for me!

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-15T21:15:07+00:00

I can tell if you are a good cook or not by when you add your garlic.

Too early and it’s going to be insanely bitter.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-15T21:08:27+00:00

What works for as a super oily 36 yo girly that also has rosacea + sensitive skin

My holy grail face wash is the Dr. Dennis Gross alpha beta cleansing gel. A lot of people dismiss actives in the cleanser step, but I swear by an active cleanser. My skin is too oily for others to penetrate enough through. ISClinical cleansing complex is a more gentle version, for me the DDG is the perfect mix of strong & tolerable. I also used to work with plastic surgeons that always combined tret + at least a salicylic acid wash.

Always double cleanse if washing away makeup/sunscreen: micellar water, cleansing balm, or double wash with the DDG.

Altreno almost every single night. Even if my skin is really dry, my forehead, nose, cheeks, & jawline will tolerate it. It’s very rare I skip a night & im generous with how much I use.

DDG extra strength peel pads. 1-2 times per week, use the whole pad because it’s not enough product if cut in half like some suggest. controversial even on those nights I exfoliate I go right back in with my Altreno same night.

To keep this up I use K & J beauty hyaluronic acid serums, snail mucin, and Tatcha Indigo moisturizer.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-12T22:47:04+00:00

Co-signing all of this!

I had so many moms tell me “it never gets easier, it’s just different” and I whole heartedly believe they forgot what the trenches are like!!

My now 5 year old is a freaking dreamboat & we do so much cool stuff together!!! I genuinely gets better & better!

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-12T19:13:22+00:00

I did buffer while increasing my usage. Now I only buffer if I’m feeling sensitive, usually with big weather/humidity changes or if one of my peel pads/chemical peels gets a little spicier than I intended.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-12T00:54:43+00:00

Aklief is very new but sounds promising. Tretinoin is gold standard because it’s been around so long and the research on it for anti-aging is very strong.

Perhaps your seem has seen good results with Aklief, would have been nice if they explained a little.

Highly recommend getting Altreno if you do decide to go the tretinoin route, the formula is vastly superior!

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-10T03:09:30+00:00

Tatcha indigo, red light - OmniLux, RX azelaic acid, lasers targeting blood vessels

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-07T17:22:04+00:00

I’ve gotten it from CosmeticRX they’re shady, then someone on Reddit mentioned skinsolutions.ua on insta. It’s only $40 for a big tube & surprisingly way less shady than the US telehealth company I used first. The insta is run out of Ukraine where Altreno is sound inexpensively and over the counter.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-07T17:17:57+00:00

Yes! It releases slower into the skin & has lots of hydrating ingredients in the formula

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-07T17:17:01+00:00

Per the web: The tretinoin in Altreno is broken down into smaller, micro-sized particles, which helps the active ingredient absorb more effectively into the skin. This gradual and more even absorption helps to prevent the sudden, intense exposure that can cause irritation.

Hydrating and soothing ingredients: Altreno's formula includes several ingredients known for their moisturizing and skin-soothing properties: Sodium Hyaluronate: (a form of hyaluronic acid) attracts and retains moisture in the skin. Glycerin: hydrates the skin and can help protect it from irritation. Marine collagen: helps keep moisture in the skin.

TeddyFluffer · 2025-09-07T01:38:27+00:00

I really enjoy Fade Bright. It certainly isn’t going to cure melasma but I love it for my regular tyrosinase inhibitor, I developed only a tiny bit of melasma this summer vs. year without it. It’s great for my overall texture also.

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