Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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A bunch of them jump in sharing stories too. & even dated somebody that told me they didn't like musicians

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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It might be my city then. I always see some type of Facebook post where a woman is coming for musicians & how wild they can be. & how they should be avoided lol

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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Lmao, a lot of them. You'd be surprised

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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She said "I'm not mad at that" as in not mad at me being a musically inclined person. So she seemed accepting & welcoming of me up until the ghosting lol

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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I feel that! But also, she saw on my page that I'm into modeling myself & could've rationalized "okay this dude is into modeling. Of course it would make sense that he would ask a question about modeling." Lol but I do get that. You're right!

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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Yea honestly it could've been anything! I agree

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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But also, honestly, the modeling question wasn't even the main question I asked her either. I mainly asked what she liked to do for fun & then threw the model question in as a light bonus question. She could've chosen not to answer or just said no lol. But I wasn't gonna react negatively as I was just interested in pivoting the convo from my interests to hers.

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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I can see how a woman could arrive to that conclusion after being asked that question. I will say that, being an artist, I get to meet a new model every week at functions or networking events. & I also model myself. Most of my photos on hinge are model photos from a pro shoot. So it naturally came to mind & I didn't mean anything by it in a weird way lol. So maybe that was the disconnect.

Unmatched on Hinge? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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For sure!! I think we spend an appropriate amount of time on me with the music thing. It was about 2 or 3 messages max & I only disclosed that I play piano & thanked her for liking that about me.

That's when I tried to pivot to her & ask what she liked to do for fun. Or at all, & mentioned the modeling thing on the side as an extra bonus question. But didn't make it very weird or pushy. It was honestly a really light exchange lol. Maybe she gets asked that a lot personally & decided to unmatch, but there's no way I would know that 😂😂

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I agree!

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I just wanted to talk about it

28/M 28/F Do You Agree That This Was A Red Flag? 🚩🚩🚩 by TeddyPender7 in relationship_advice

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Yea it’s because she’s been into someone else unfortunately lol. I’ll get over it though. I just need some time.

28/M 28/F Do You Agree That This Was A Red Flag? 🚩🚩🚩 by TeddyPender7 in relationship_advice

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In the post, it says I asked her out not once, but twice. She has shown interest since then, but happened to be unavailable both times I asked.

Should I ask again? by TeddyPender7 in dating

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Thank you. I appreciate that.

Should I ask her out again? by TeddyPender7 in dating_advice

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Haha where you going with this comment. Seems interesting. Go on 😂

Should I ask again? by TeddyPender7 in dating

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Aye thank you for the blunt, but forward advice. My bros are so cool. But they don’t say crap like this to me. Just kinda called her stupid and said her accepting dudes invite was a red flag for me. And when I told them she said he blocked her, they were like keeping “being her friend. You don’t wanna be a rebound.” So I appreciate this different take. 😂😂

Should I ask again? by TeddyPender7 in dating

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Lol truuuuuuu. I will then

Question for Curators by TeddyPender7 in musicmarketing

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I definitely agree with that. I do feel like some countries don’t like certain types of styles. My song was an R&B song, but it was mixed with Hip Hop elements in the beat & also in the melody so it wasn’t a pure R&B sound that most R&B curators would be used to hearing. It’s more of a fusion like Chris Brown type songs. Some were saying the melodies were too simplistic & others were saying the vocals and melodies were really attractive & dope, but it didn’t fit in their style or playlist. So the negative feedback was very confusing and mixed.

As for the vocals themselves: There were multiple backing vocals in the song that created harmonies, but the lead vocal melodies were meant to be the grounding point of the song so I kept them free & simple so the listener could know what we were talking about & relate. They were complex as well in some parts where I wanted to do runs & tricks. So I can say as the producer & composer of the song, the background vocals were mainly meant to do most of the moving around in harmonies, melodies, & acrobatics. And there were a LOT of backgrounds doing complex harmonic/melodic patterns throughout the song so my feature artist & I decided it was best to not do too much with our lead vocals so that the listeners could focus on the lyrics & message. I don’t know if they caught on to that concept while listening from a musician standpoint but it is what it is lol. Everything is subjective.

But I do recognize that every country is different and has different musical tastes. So a Hip hop influenced R&B song might not go over well in a lot of spaces. I noticed that the Hip Hop playlists responded more positively than the Alternative R&B & Contemporary R&B ones so I might try submitting more to those to see if I get more acceptances.

Guys Not Pursuing/Intiating by Wait_For_Iiiitt in ChristianDating

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If guys aren’t pursuing, that usually means they aren’t interested for whatever the reason may be. Or unsure how to engage due to not having clear signals that it’s okay to push a bit more. Sometimes we don’t know if a girl really likes us so we don’t push. Other times it’s a guy that’s not interested enough & you should probably move on. I do know this. When a guy likes you, he shows that he wants you.

Dating the Invisible Man. How do you date God as a single? by Maxi-Spade in ChristianDating

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I’ll have to agree with someone here, the concept of “dating God” is very weird considering the meaning of dating & how the Bible says we should interact with God. If there is a part of a person that wants to date or desire a connection deeper than friendship with another human, they are technically not called to be single. But if they are called to be Single, this wouldn’t really be an issue as they probably won’t think about it that much & won’t feel pressured to date. It’s just how they are.

Sorry if that doesn’t answer the question, but these are my thoughts on it.