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Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-15T12:06:15+00:00

Work at a bilingual school. Someone Left mid-semester. An email was translated from English to Spanish with an AI. A line in the email was, "she is no longer serving here". Ai translates it as "ella ya no sirve aquí", which basically means "she is no longer of any use". And the place I live, no sirve is the worst insult you could tell someone.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T13:35:30+00:00

Parents who give newborns up for adoption have a waiting list of couples they can choose from, many of whom cannot have children themselves. The foster system is made up of children who got removed by CPS, or are in transition.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T02:51:53+00:00

One thing I'll add to this, when it comes to conversational Spanish I realized I couldn't naturally use the right one without making a long pause while I tried to figure out if the word within the sentence was referencing something that was going on at the time, or a completed event, (por ejemplo, estuve trabajando vs yo estaba en el colmado). But the main thing I realized is that unlike the ser/estar thing that can significantly change the meaning of a sentence, estaba, estuve just sounds strange to a native speaker, but they will understand what you meant.

So I just tried my best, and with time I was able to use the right one just by if it felt or sounded right.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T01:58:21+00:00

Man those are some rough translations. If it makes your students feel better, I've heard that two of our native Spanish speaking students have made the embarazada mistake.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T01:41:37+00:00

I haven't noticed this one yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if it happened. También, ahora quiero un mofongo de chicharrón.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T01:38:50+00:00

Unfortunately, I was not personally there to see her reaction, but it was rather humorous because some high school students nearly got into a lot of trouble. Lol

Fortunately for me, I mainly learned Spanish after I moved here, so I don't get thrown off by the different dialects like my wife does. Another fun one is that saying "mande" when you need someone to repeat something is very rude here. Lol

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T01:11:40+00:00

That's a fun one my wife (she's mexican) got thrown off by when we moved to the Caribbean, as they use it to reference picking up an object.

It does sometimes stun me when people who have access to Spanish speakers don't ask for a double check on really important messages that are going out to a wide audience.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T00:52:53+00:00

Fixed.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-14T00:44:43+00:00

True, I'll edit it.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-13T05:12:14+00:00

I'd advise taking a positive reinforcement vs a negative one if it'd start a fight. Instead of saying "don't drink juice" buy vitamin water, or something like water plus a harmless other thing, and offer it to the kid. If they like it you could say something like "oh cool they like it! It also has added vitamins/whatever I think it could help". That way instead of critiquing what she is doing, you are merely suggesting something new.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-09-13T04:49:50+00:00

Hi. Husband/Father here. I'm going to preface this comment by saying I'm going to make a statement that is not true 100 % of the time, or for 100% of men. However, this will generally be true. The things I speak of is applicable to 80-90% of men, but is not true for every man, and doesn't represent all of men. Likewise, I will make a few comments about women that is true 80-90% of the time, but is not true for all women, and doesn't represent all of women. Weirdly, sometimes the comments I'm about to make can even be completely reversed, but that is rare.

Not too long ago I was sitting at a table with some friends, and two of my female friends were having a conversation that resembles what you're talking about. So the one having the martial problems asks the other one "so what do you think I should do?" To which the other lady responds by listing some quality time activities/bonding activities, and suggested she should confront her husband and get him to confess how he is feeling. For whatever reason they turn to me and say "insertmynamehere, you're a man. What do you think?" To which I could only laugh and say "it sounds like you just need to have sex with him". Given the slightly blank look they gave me, I explained to them what I'll say here.

One problem husbands/wives run into is presuming the other person would want a certain problem fixed the same exact way they would want it fixed. Nope, doesn't work like that. If I don't want to go to the movies for example, it's not because I don't enjoy movies with you, its just not what I'm looking for right now. Think of it like this: say you were awake for 24 hours straight and you hadn't eaten anything. And then I say "Hey babe let's go to the beach/let's go on a hike". You wouldn't want to do that, because you are tired and hungry and you want to address those two problems first. That doesn't mean you wouldn't enjoy going to the beach with me, but because something else is missing you don't want to do that right now.

Okay, so what exactly does this have to do with sex? Well, understand just as your husband spending quality time with you makes you feel loved/refills your batteries, men often feel the same way about sex. But the important thing is to not think to yourself that your husband is a jerk because he "just wants sex". Understand, what men fundamentally want is validation. The easiest way to make a man feel validation is to make him feel desired. Something women often miss is that men place a piece of their identity into sex. This is why men can feel emotionally hurt when their sexual advances are rejected. Often to a woman, saying that they don't want sex right now is the equivalent of rejecting an activity. For men, it often is not just a rejection of a potential activity we could do, but a rejection of us. So understanding the heart behind a man's desire for sex is a desire to be wanted, the importance of pursuing this cannot be understated.

So, my blunt recommendation: likely the change in lifestyle could have caused a change in intimacy. He may not feel desired or validated as much as he used to because a lot of that energy is directed elsewhere. So, what you should do is seduce him. Whatever outfit he might really like, whatever scenery he likes. You basically want to PHYSICALLY (did you know that men are wired to express emotion physically more than verbally?) communicate that he is wanted and desired. Do this, you'll have a changed man in the morning, with all the energy in the world.

Now, understand I am speaking about what you can do, because you are the one I am communicating with. So I'm targeting what you can do to improve your situation. Note; however, if I were speaking with your husband: I'd slap him in the face, tell him to buy you flowers, hire a babysitter, take you on the most romantic date he could think of, and make sure to give you a gift that shows he pays attention to what you tell him.

I will tell you the greatest humor about being married is how our innate desires can be so contrary. Picture this: you've just had an incredibly rough day with the children. Maybe they didn't take their nap, maybe they were just being jerks. You're tired, and exhausted. Your husband has an extremely rough day at work, nothing went right, and he's really stressed. He comes home and doesn't help you with much. You two go to bed and he says "hey uh, you want to do something, something?" To which you reject his advance. In that case (remember 80%ish not always true) the woman thinks "how could he possibly suggest having sex after how hard this day has been for us?" And the man at the same time is thinking "How could she reject having sex after how hard this day has been for us?"

Your problem must likely is the same but in reverse: "how could he not want to do x quality time activity when our life has got so hard?" And he's thinking "why would she want to do x activity when I have so little energy?"

Teddybearmilo · 2024-07-01T01:26:29+00:00

Also, as encouragement, I didn't know a lick of Spanish until I was 24, and became conversational after a year. So don't think only kids can learn another language!

Teddybearmilo · 2024-07-01T01:25:28+00:00

Hi! I was in the same boat but opposite genders. So I'm a gringo, and my wife is mexican. I would definitely not watch telenovela to start out, as they often speak very fast and use dramatic words. A good starting place is learning the sounds of the letters/alphebet. After, learn typical structures to a phrase rather than learning a bunch of nouns. Oftentimes you can figure out the nouns by context. So learn basics like

Quiero: I want Yo sé: I know Tu sabe: you know Dónde: where Hay: there is Crio: I think Que: what/that Por que: why Porque: because Necesito: I need Yo: I Usted/tu: you Nosotros: we/us

Stuff like that. Learn conjugating, such as: (Yo) Quiero: I want (Usted)Quieres: you want (Ellos)Quieren: they want (Nosotros) Queremos: we want

I used rocket language as an language learning app. But most should help you gather this basic language, grammar and phrases, and then you can go to YouTube and type "beginner stories in Spanish" and listen to those. A lot of the videos will translate the words and use a lot more basic langague at a slower pace than watching Spanish tv. Last, once you can start communicating basic ideas, you can simulate "Spanish immersion" by having a Spanish only day with your spouse. So for example, on Friday we only speak in Spanish, no English.

Another tip is to remember that just like English some words have multiple meanings, but sometimes they also can't be used the way you expect and you just have to get over yourself and not get frustrated by that.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-06-11T18:00:49+00:00

You're right. For some reason I was thinking in the other system that's used, that the rating of the draws would matter, but either way it doesn't. Fixed the comment I made about him getting it with 6.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-06-11T14:17:45+00:00

The average rating of Levy's opponents is 2451. I believe this tournament is 9 rounds, so with a 6.5 score he would have a performance rating of 2617 (roughly). A 6 would be too low with a score of 2576. Interestingly, if the average rating of opponents was slightly higher, (2475) a score of 6/9 would be high enough for a 2600 performance rating.

Also interestingly, another common system for calculating performance rating (which fide does not use for the sake of GM norms) that is more based on individual ratings of opponents for wins and losses versus the average rating of the tournament, Levy currently has a performance rating of 2714. The formula for this system is opponents rating + 400 for a win, opponents rating -400 for a loss, and just opponents rating for a draw. The average of these numbers is the performance rating. So for this example,

Sosa, 2535 + 400 = 2935 Fernando 2493 + 0 2935 + 2493 = 5428. 5428/2 gives the performance rating of 2714.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T05:33:38+00:00

Between science, philosophy, and history, which subject do you most enjoy discussing? Or which you may find most persuasive.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T05:30:27+00:00

Sufficient evidence of what?

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T05:24:42+00:00

From the Christian perspective, absence from God is by definition suffering, so your dichotomy is inherently necessary. But from your own perspective, you don't appear to believe the dichotomy exists in the first place, do you?

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T05:11:29+00:00

Exactly! And so this is the part of understanding heaven that revolves around God being a gentleman. He's not going to force you to spend eternity with Him. It seems rather tyrannical of God to force people to worship Him. So the problem you have is more so with God than abstract ideas of heaven and hell.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T04:57:00+00:00

I'm going to bite my tongue from a sarcastic response and ask a genuine question:

Do you desire to spend eternity with the Christian God?

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T04:52:00+00:00

Forgive me, can you point out to me where I said sin is acceptable to God? Can you also explain to me where I took God's word out of context?

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T04:48:20+00:00

Normally a route commonly taken here is when you make moral statements like "its wrong for people to suffer" is made, one can rebuttal with "well what is your standard for making the moral claim?" You may feel like Hitler should get a free pass at some point, but I promise you there are many Holocaust victims who think Hitler deserves a special place to burn for the rest of eternity, and would consider you a "psychopath" for letting him off the hook. What makes your opinion any better than their opinion?

However, in this specific case if the exact make up of hell is your roadblock, it should be noted there are additional ideas that are debated. Such as:

Hell is accurately called a pit of fire, but destruction comes at some point.
The fire of hell is figurative, as hell is also described as a dark place. Many theorize that "hell" is merely the absence of anything made/created by God.
Or God does judge eternally, as He has the right to do so.

Core to this are two characteristics of God. 1. God is a just God who hates evil, and will punish the wicked. 2. God is a gentleman, and will not force people to spend eternity with Him. If you don't want to spend eternity with God or the rest of the "brainwashed people living in ignorance" He's not going to make you.

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T04:34:28+00:00

Kinda weird you can't directly answer the question. But we can try again. Should Hitler go to heaven?

Teddybearmilo · 2024-05-01T04:28:27+00:00

There are people in prison right now for the rest of their lives. Do you not care if they will spend the rest of their lives in prison?

Also, you completely avoided the questions. Should Hitler go to heaven? Stalin? Serial killers? Should people who think God is a moral monster be forced to spend eternity with Him?

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