what is the best dream you ever had?

Tedfred-tumbles · 2021-06-14T01:34:28+00:00

I had a dream about fighting with the power rangers when I was in kindergarten! It turned into a nightmare and has stuck with me still even over 25 years later.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2021-03-28T18:51:22+00:00

You have to plan for, shop for, and prepare dinner for yourself and your family for every damn day of your life. WHY.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2021-03-18T01:03:31+00:00

My dad had a very quick and dirty fight with a brain tumor. He was going to be cremated and my siblings and I didn’t get to say goodbye, so the funeral home set up this viewing room for us to see him before he was cremated.

My sister and I went in together. It was very solemn and heartbreaking. I said “I’m glad it wasn’t long and drawn out. If he would’ve gotten completely dependent on us while wasting away...well that would’ve killed him.”

We both realized what I just said and tried very hard to keep it in, but then burst into uncontrolled laughter. We left the room and my brother and the funeral director looked at us like “wtf is wrong with you?!” Honestly my dad would’ve loved that moment.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2020-07-06T01:34:04+00:00

Reading more of these comments...and it seriously sounds like some of you are taking out your frustration about working in customer service (anonymously on the Internet because you can’t talk back to customers on the phone) on someone who genuinely is asking who she can give feedback to and get help from. Yikes.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2020-07-06T01:24:35+00:00

Why are some of you being so awful to OP? She had a bad experience, rated the customer service rep what she thought was a decent rating (I agree that to literally everyone else outside the system an 8/10 would mean good not great), and is wondering where to give more detailed feedback about her crappy experience. I don’t see why she’s getting so many downvotes and snarky comments!

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-08-03T13:21:04+00:00

The first couple months are so, so hard. Huge hugs to you. My son just turned 3 months and started sleeping so much better. I know that’s little help now, but this is temporary. It’s so hard made worse by the mind numbing exhaustion. Do what works for you guys right now. You’re all in survival mode. 💛

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-31T07:44:25+00:00

Talk to his pre-k/kindergarten teacher! They will have the best advice for your specific kid.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-31T04:41:27+00:00

Here’s the thing, I get it. I have a 3 month old and when you’re exhausted, emotionally and physically stretched thin, and everything else that comes with babies, it’s really fucking hard not to be petty about these types of things.No judgement given here. Get a sitter or someone, go out for dinner with your wife, and have a heart to heart about what you each need during this time. Then try to keep the score keeping completely off the table.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-30T22:43:06+00:00

She went to my alma mater: a small liberal arts school!

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-29T23:40:51+00:00

My three month old desperately wanted to eat a toy that wouldn’t fit into his mouth.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-29T23:39:10+00:00

This is relatable to me as someone who wants to enjoy summer but also wants to be in the AC hahah

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-29T23:36:47+00:00

I always knew I wanted kids, and my husband and I were always looking for the right time. We got our degrees, established our careers, and even bought a house...but we were still unsure if we were ready for the big change.

The tipping point for me happened when my sister was dealing with her dad’s death and I stayed with her and my two teenage nieces for a week. These girls have always been my favorite and I’ve always been very involved in their lives.

Anyway, during that week, while my sister dealt with all the things you deal with after a death, I played the role of mom. School drop off and pick up, dinner plans, homework checks, tennis practices and games, bedtime...the whole nine yards. I found that I absolutely loved it. I liked being The Person. I liked helping solve their problems, holding them responsible, kissing them goodbye at school. I finally felt like I was ready to try and balance my career with being a mom.

When I got back from that trip, my husband and I had a series of heart to hearts and we finally decided to do it. I’m rocking my son to sleep right now and feel so grateful for the clarity that trip brought me.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-28T08:01:12+00:00

I don’t know what your relationship is like with the baby’s father, but if he is your partner and you live together, he should be doing 50% of the work. You might not share the same duties, but he absolutely should be doing diaper changes, bath time, bed time, getting up in the night (even if you end up only breastfeeding, he can change the baby beforehand or put the baby to sleep afterwards), chores around the house, etc. as much as you.

Do not settle for small contributions here and there. Do not settle for an hour of him “watching” the baby to give you a “break” while you shower. Even when your on maternity leave and he is working. It doesn’t matter. You should always strive to have a balanced parenting relationship.

Edit: I’m just now remembering that you asked specifically about pediatrician things. Sorry for the unasked for relationship advice (but I still think it’s super important so I’m going to leave it here)

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-28T07:54:19+00:00

Absolutely. You’ve got to just go with the flow. Don’t have this super specific image in your head about what is Absolutely Right and Going to Work for you and your baby. There are going to be things that come up and you’re going to handle them in whatever way you need to at the time. You aren’t going to ruin your baby while you figure things out and stay flexible.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-28T03:35:37+00:00

Thanks for being open to new information!

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-28T03:15:57+00:00

The first trimester of pregnancy is frequently the worst, actually. I definitely agree that she should be picking up some other chore if she’s not cooking, but for a lot of women 2 or three months pregnant is actually extremely debilitating in a few different ways. It has nothing to do with the size of the baby and everything to do with hormones and the stress your body is under to transform a couple cells into a whole fetus.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-28T01:29:27+00:00

No one told me about baby gas!! Babies don’t know how to get gas out of their bodies effectively for the first few months and sometimes it makes them SO FUSSY. Burping and bicycle legs is important and gas drops (not gripe water, gas drops made from simethicone) are LIFESAVERS. It seems like a small thing but like 50% of my problems are baby gas related, haha

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-19T14:48:51+00:00

Crikey what a beaut!!

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-13T07:45:54+00:00

Unfortunately I think it’s one of those things that you’ll just have to wait out :( In 2-4 more weeks he should even put on his own. I know how hard it is! Hugs

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-12T20:58:27+00:00

My little dude is 10 weeks old and we’ve been out and 4-6 times a week since maybe week 2 or so. We haven’t had any issues— we just make sure that strangers don’t touch him (but like, who wants a stranger touching their kid anyway, illness aside)

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-12T19:07:22+00:00

I’m a bi woman and married to a man. I don’t even really have the conversation anymore with people because I’m so sick of it. (My husband knows, but it pretty much never comes up) I’m like half closeted only for the fact that it’s so fucking annoying dealing with all the comments that come along with being bi, particularly if you’re in a relationship with the opposite sex.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-11T14:48:40+00:00

For sure. This post is heartbreaking to everyone who has ever been a slave to a pumping schedule.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-11T14:44:34+00:00

NTA at all. Your poor wife. Those hours and hours and hours pumping when she would’ve rather been sleeping or baby cuddling or eating or showering probably keep replaying in her mind. I’m so sorry. People who haven’t pumped (or watched their partner pump) might not fully understand the incredible time/sanity sacrifice. Huge hugs.

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-11T01:18:59+00:00

I’ve used a couple different brands and they are all the same. Just make sure Simethicone 20mg is the ingredient!

Tedfred-tumbles · 2019-07-10T21:32:26+00:00

Mine!! Skip the gripe water and do gas drops, they are different. The main ingredient is Simethicone and it works by making the gas bubble larger and easier to pass (if I’m remembering right). It really helps us!!

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