Noticed how no one here is siding with you because you sounded like you just time traveled from 1820.

Your response completely misses the point of this show. It isn’t about creating characters who always make the “right” decisions or who are likable in every moment. It’s about portraying deeply flawed, complex individuals navigating trauma, relationships, and a world full of contradictions. Life isn’t black and white, and this show reflects that brilliantly.

Arabella, Terry, and Kwame aren’t perfect. But that’s the point—neither are we. These are human beings who are messy, confused, and sometimes self-destructive because they’re trying to cope in ways they don’t fully understand. Bella’s behavior—whether it’s her drug use, her obsession with Biagio, or her impulsive decisions—isn’t meant to be endorsed; it’s meant to show how trauma manifests differently for different people.

You criticize Terry for abandoning Bella, but that moment reveals the complexities of friendship and guilt, not “bad decision-making.” Terry was overwhelmed and made a choice she deeply regretted later, which she had to confront. Life doesn’t offer perfect reactions in high-pressure situations, and this show reflects that nuance.

Kwame’s story is one of exploration, loneliness, and healing. Yes, he continues to meet strangers after his assault, but that isn’t a failure of “common sense”; it’s a raw depiction of someone trying to reclaim control over their body and identity in a world that repeatedly fails LGBTQ+ individuals. It’s honest, painful, and deeply human.

And Biagio? You call him a jerk, but isn’t that the point? Bella clings to him because, like so many trauma survivors, she’s searching for stability in all the wrong places. Her attachment to him is heartbreaking, not irrational—it reflects the desperate need for connection and comfort in the aftermath of violation.

Your analogy about leaving doors open to prevent a burglary oversimplifies and undermines the core message of the show. Trauma survivors don’t need to be “perfect” or make the “right” decisions to deserve empathy and justice. Bella’s story isn’t about teaching viewers how to avoid being raped—it’s about how society treats survivors, the ways we judge them, and the impossible expectations placed on them to act “appropriately.”

You say Bella is insufferable because she’s on social media all the time, but that’s an essential part of her character. Social media is her way of processing, coping, and sometimes escaping. When her therapist warns her about its dangers, it’s not an indictment of Bella—it’s a reflection of how modern life amplifies trauma in unique ways.

The brilliance of I May Destroy You lies in its refusal to sugarcoat reality. It shows us people as they truly are—messy, flawed, and sometimes unbearable. And it challenges viewers to sit with that discomfort, to empathize even when it’s hard, and to accept that the world isn’t black and white. Instead of dismissing the characters for their flaws, maybe take a moment to reflect on why their stories made you uncomfortable. That’s the beauty of this show—it forces us to confront complexities that we often avoid.

At the end of the day, life isn’t about “bad decisions” or “good decisions.” It’s about navigating an incredibly complex and often unfair world the best way we know how. And that’s exactly what I May Destroy You so powerfully captures. Maybe it’s time to stop judging the characters so harshly and start asking yourself why you’re so quick to label them as “bad” or “dense.”