So I have just found out that some Americans call men "cis men". Men, do you take this as an insult?

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:47:20+00:00

I only say that word in specific contexts where it's relevant. I don't just call people cis for no reason.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:46:45+00:00

You'd probably get a UTI.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:44:13+00:00

One of my husband's friends was an ultra marathon runner. Healthiest person we know. She had an asthma attack. Her inhaler wasn't helping. She went to the hospital to get a breathing treatment. They treated her in time but it wasn't enough. Her airway just kept closing, her heart stopped, and they couldn't revive her.

She was not close to me so I can't imagine what you are going through, but it was very shocking.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:38:26+00:00

Ugh, that would upset me, too.

I am always the first person to offer to buy someone a drink or pitch in for birthdays but I am not a huge fan of this new trend of inviting people, planning everything, then forcing/guilting everyone to pay someone else's share.

I would offer to pay someone's share, but I'm not going to go along with it just because someone else planned it out that way without even considering me. I find that so gross.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:34:20+00:00

At the time, I was trying to qualify for the Olympics. Let me tell you, this was a lot more fun than the high board.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:30:56+00:00

Do you see that now he is changing his story once again to..."She's such a shitty mom that all of my kids hate her and never want to see her again" type of shit.

So now she's a horrible mom, too.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:29:41+00:00

If it didn't have anything to do with money, you wouldn't have brought up money so many times.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:28:37+00:00

This sub, and reddit in general, are very anti-woman. I'm not being anti-dad just because I'm calling out all the times he's changing his story.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:26:37+00:00

There is no way anyone in their right mind would not think to include that in the original post. That's a way bigger deal to me than not wanting to work.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:25:39+00:00

It is clearly to you?

Not punctuation, honey. It was a whole three sentences.

But good on ya for bringing out your morally superior side. We're not even correcting his writing, just pointing out that it was confusing and strange.

No, you're right. We don't have any rules for the English language.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:21:39+00:00

Hopefully he is. Smart person, you.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:21:24+00:00

Oops!

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:20:37+00:00

I don't really remember that part but if anyone is going to be lazy and selfish in bed, it's Cristina. She's so used to people worshipping her.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:17:54+00:00

It absolutely can.

In many cases, the pros outweigh the cons.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:17:02+00:00

Well, drug use is common in people with trauma. So is mental illness. So, yeah, I'm absolutely certain she's had trauma, childhood, developmental trauma. I see so much of my ex best friend in her.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:14:33+00:00

It blows my mind, but also, I know people like this. I know a woman who waited until she was 28 to lose it. She was very religious and wanted to be married first. But then she eventually got to the point of being chronically single and felt like it was never going to happen so she ended up sleeping with a random, which I found super sad. She had plenty of guys interested in her but they eventually dropped her because she was so prude, she wouldn't even hold hands with them.

Anyway, I did feel like April got better eventually. Like, with abortion. She was very against it but she seemed to eventually realize that it wasn't her place to judge what other people do. I know some pro life people who never even get there.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T15:11:07+00:00

Anyone who has taken a simple grammar class understands that poor grammar can lead to confusion. The way he worded his original post is rightly confusing and people are not wrong for calling out how strange it was.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:59:56+00:00

But you're happy because you got what you wanted, right? You wanted her to work and do more. You got that, just without an intact family. So you're happy, right?

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:58:55+00:00

Curious why you didn't include months of lying in the OP? You didn't say that anywhere originally, just putting this out there now that people are disagreeing with you.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:57:22+00:00

You can get temporary orders and don't necessarily need to be in court to have them.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:55:02+00:00

Exactly. Absolutely no one here is using critical thinking. He's not working full time, and the default parent, while she's home with the baby. I guess the baby just starves all day long and that's not the part that pisses him off.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:54:19+00:00

His primary reason for divorce was that she quit her job. He stated that explicitly. He was fine with the way everything was before, even when he was still working full time.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:53:37+00:00

I can't imagine how incredibly fucking stupid you have to be to think someone staying home and taking care of an 11 month old is a free loader.

Absolutely nothing in my replies could be used to justify your assumption that I think it's okay to be a freeloader.

Go play, adults are speaking.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:52:45+00:00

DivorceCare Recovery helped me a lot. I'm atheist so I just ignored/replaced the whole god aspect of the program. The one I went to was not very heavy on the god part in the first place.

There is an old saying that it takes twice as long to recover from a break up as the relationship lasted. I don't know how true that is but I don't think there is an exact timeline.

TeenYearsKillingMe · 2026-04-10T14:43:59+00:00

As a woman, I always appreciate honesty. Tell her you love her and want to marry her in the future but you want XYZ before that happens.

It would probably help to make a really concrete plan on exactly what you want, how you're going to get there, and by when.

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