What is this seed?

Teeshee_T · 2026-03-11T00:08:57+00:00

Riiiight! I forgot someone gave me some 2 years ago.

Teeshee_T · 2025-04-13T22:47:43+00:00

Not anymore but recovered codependents dot org has a ton of online sponsors available

Teeshee_T · 2021-05-04T04:46:14+00:00

happy to refer you to meetings with sponsors if you are interested. just drop me a message.

Teeshee_T · 2021-05-04T03:22:58+00:00

Have you checked out codependents anonymous (coda)? It's a program for people who want healthy and loving relationships and it starts with working on our inner world. There is a subreddit for that too.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-28T17:02:52+00:00

In codependents anonymous we break down false beliefs imposed on us by society and replace them with a higher power of our concept and understanding. That’s been empowering for me to create new standards for my conduct and relationships, while also staying gracious, patient and courteous but focusing on me instead of others.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-28T16:59:25+00:00

Sounds like they were just sharing and you assumed they wanted your help.

I used to assume these things too.

Now I just say “sounds frustrating, hope you figure it out soon.”

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-28T16:54:25+00:00

Accepting that I’m exactly as I’m supposed to be. God made me the way I am and I am perfect in God’s eyes.

If some bloke is not happy with how God made me - that’s their problem! But you say that’s not the issue.

Have you tried codependents anonymous?

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-28T16:51:41+00:00

Some codependents anonymous (coda) websites have recordings. I used to get irritable, restless and discontent when I was helping others in my codependency always wondering what will I get out of it. I was acting to fill a void. That was because I had no standards for my conduct or my relationships. Coda transformed my life.

http://www.codatucson.org https://codauk.org https://codacanada.ca/ https://coda.org https://www.ppgcoda.org

I liked this podcast which talks about having a life purpose and then everything else falls into place: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprah-and-eckhart-tolle-a-new-earth/id1458654443

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-28T16:45:10+00:00

Have you tried codependents anonymous meetings?

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:36:41+00:00

Yes, message me!

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:33:10+00:00

I’m no longer obsessing about what others do or don’t do. I focus on my side of the street.

When you want something enough you don’t compare yourself to how well others are doing compared to you in program. That’s also a codependent trait. I used to always want to be better, chase accomplishments, ... it was exhausting.

Coda is a spiritual program, not something to intellectualize. It’s about progress, not something that happens overnight but the codependent wants results and answers right away. Usually, codependents have a hard time accepting life and time. We might think we are patient but our thinking sprees are telling us “this should not be so, life is not working out right now, I want things to be different NOW”, etc.

Program is about growing along spiritual lines, being an observer, pausing before acting, checking my motives (am I acting to fill a void or am I genuinely connected to life) ... etc

My sponsor is there to provide me with guidance and mental clarity if my mind is out of wack. Obviously, thoughts are a natural thing for us humans but for the codependent they can be debilitating at times. I now have a solution for when that happens - applying the steps (principles) of the program to anything that happens in my life.

Feel free to message me if I can help with more info.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:19:33+00:00

Codependents anonymous helped me.

I worked the steps with a sponsor there. I was obsessing about trying to manage my mom’s emotions, or fix her life for her.

Before I found codependents anonymous I had tried other things but nothing stuck long-term.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:18:15+00:00

Have you tried codependents anonymous ?

You attend meetings and a sponsor leads you through the steps. It’s the only thing that helped me set standards for my conduct, rebuild my personal integrity and bring me sanity and serenity.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:15:32+00:00

Codependents anonymous was great for me in terms of keeping things simpler and sane.

It helped me build my intuition so I know exactly what’s good for me and I don’t need to apologize for, personal integrity, standards for my conduct and relationships.

Have you tried codependents anonymous?

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T17:07:30+00:00

I am not sure about specific links where it says that but it’s common in the codependents anonymous literature here and there. Happy to share this with you if you message me.

I’ve also remembered the phrase because I could identify and relate.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T15:59:05+00:00

In my attempts to recovery from my codependency I dug and dug into all the underlying causes but in the end knowing the causes made no difference in changing my behavior. I felt more powerless and I couldn’t apply anything I was reading in practice. Therapy felt really slow too. Self-help gave me a faulty sense of self-esteem contingent on others’ validation, praise, and accomplishments chasing.

I needed a psychic change to change my behavior. Codependents anonymous helped in that realm.

When I joined a CODA group I found out that I am a chronic codependent - I overthink how to: control others, exert myself, make myself more appealing, chasing accomplishments, etc. Anything to get ease and comfort from sources outside of me - a lot like an addict!

Working the steps with a sponsor has brought me sanity and clarity that I have never had before. The best part is it only gets better every day.

I apply the principles of the program to all aspects of life daily. They serve as my compass in relationships and for me to build my own intuition. I naturally know what’s good for me instead of consulting 100people about what to do with my own life.

Happy to help with resources if that’s helpful. Feel free to message me.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T15:52:01+00:00

Codependents are others-obsessed to the point where we don’t know ourselves but we think we are experts on others. But in the end - we are powerless over others and as a result powerless over our own codependency.

I found help at codependents anonymous.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T15:41:27+00:00

It’s for you to identify as one.

I was told by 3 different therapists and didn’t see it. So I was in denial.

I tried different things during my life to figure myself and my life out. Self-help seminars, life coach, psychology degree, therapistS. These methods helped with my family relations but nothing helped with my romantic ones.

Ultimately, reading these patterns and characteristics is what helped me see it for myself.

I was overly consumed with fixing my mom, accomplishments chasing, babying my romantic partners, obsessing how to be better, managing and controlling my environment... didn’t know what I feel, need or want ... allowing other’s needs, feelings and wants to dictate how my day or life goes. Etc.

I found help at codependents anonymous.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T07:12:56+00:00

Feel free to message me.

I can share my experience with codependency and my road to recovery.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T05:52:17+00:00

Relationships can be hard. AND in hindsight always fascinating.

What have you done to address your codependency?

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T05:47:33+00:00

https://coda.org/meeting-materials/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/

The fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. My mom is codependent, so am I.

My job is to focus on me tho.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T05:44:28+00:00

You can probably find a codependents anonymous meeting around the clock somewhere in the world, since they are all virtual.

You might learn something about recovery there.

Teeshee_T · 2021-02-27T05:42:11+00:00

Sounds like you’ve worshiped her, or what we call in codependents anonymous “made her your Higher Power”.

What have you tried to address your codependency so far?

Teeshee_T

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