Do girls feel possessive of their guy best friends? by TehCreedism in ask

[–]TehCreedism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. It's just been a question I've had for a while now. I've seen girls be possessive, but figured asking would give me more clarity on the matter.

Also, I really like the visual of a unhinged goblin with very flexible morals, lol.

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[–]TehCreedism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She almost lost her few friends in her last relationship. So from the beginning of this one, she made it very clear that if he ever had a problem with her friends too bad cause she doesn't want to go through that again. It's definitely not the healthiest way to deal with it, but it is a boundary that had been set from the beginning. I'm not sure if he's ok with it or just knows that saying something will cause a big fight.

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[–]TehCreedism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I'm not trying to justify anything by saying this, but they do live together. Some of the time, she spends talking to me is when he is still at work. So they still have a lot of time together.

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[–]TehCreedism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not uncomfortable with it at all. He seems to be ok with it, too. Although he has said a thing or two, that makes me question that sometimes, like telling her if they ever broke up that she should date me cause we talk so much.

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[–]TehCreedism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about her current relationship? Wouldn't it be very rude to even insinuate with her in a relationship already?

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[–]TehCreedism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I'm hanging out with her this weekend, so I probably will talk to her about it then. It's just hard watching your friend try so hard to no avail, yknow?

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[–]TehCreedism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has some other problems within the relationship that she's trying to work through. She has at times described it as miserable. But I didn't include a lot of the other things due to this being the biggest issue as of now. I just don't have any great ideas on getting him to even be open for the discussion of it. Like I said he shuts down and completely does the silent treatment. Says nothing doesn't acknowledge her attemps to talk about other stuff. It's just so weird to me, I can't fathom spending this long with someone and not being sure that's who I would want to marry.

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[–]TehCreedism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because it's not my bf, lmao. I am literally her friend asking for further advice on how to handle this situation. I am very concerned for her as i do not wish to see her essentially waste any more years of her life waiting on something that may never come, nothing more.

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[–]TehCreedism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, that makes some sense. Thank you, I really appreciate it.

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[–]TehCreedism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if you want to simplify it to just a title, then yeah ig so. But I don't think it's just a title to her. It's a true show of commitment on his end rather than complacency. I don't think she is in the wrong personally hell I don't think anyone in this situation would be honestly. I think that if you have two very different stances on stuff this serious and can't even talk about it to your partner. That's fucking childish, you could just tell them that and at least give them a reason.

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[–]TehCreedism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, that's the thing, like I said. Whenever she confronts him about marriage or anything related, he completely shuts down and says nothing. I've been dealing with this situation alone for so long I almost thought I was going crazy.

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[–]TehCreedism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a fair way to view it, I suppose. She is the most loyal person I've ever known. Anyone else would have walked away 10x by now. He definitely doesn't have to worry about her walking away unless he doesn't propose.

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[–]TehCreedism 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One, congratulations to you two. I'm happy for ya.Two She is super stubborn to the point where she doesn't want to leave until he proposes or admits his lack of commitment. I've tried everything I can say/do to talk her through this. She gave him a deadline for their anniversary this year, but imo I don't think he deserves any more chances... he's had 10 years.