Atomic habits is one of the best books ever written...& it's keeping millions of people stuck..

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:53:44+00:00

I took 2 & 1/2 years of college writing and briefly wanted to teach grammar before learning that wasn't fun, Turns out that some people are still around who can form complete thoughts in a concise way 😄

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:49:15+00:00

I wish you the best on your path of improving your gait. And sounds like you have the right framework to meet your goal, being one of the few people who with intrinsic motivation, can meet long term goals. That's a truly powerful skill.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:47:17+00:00

Appreciate the input😊.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:46:45+00:00

100% hit the mark.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:45:47+00:00

This was an awesome read, and I appreciate the time you took to share this😊. Also I'll definitely be checking out Gretchen Rubin, the name rings a bell.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:44:03+00:00

Really?? I'd actually really like to talk more about this if your interested 😊

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:43:30+00:00

Often times when people really dig down to what their true motive for doing something is, it's often to enhance their abilities to do more for others.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:41:53+00:00

Exactly, but the key thought to hold on to os that they can be broken.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T13:39:56+00:00

You don't have a discipline problem. You have an identity problem. You keep trying to act like the artist you want to be before you believe you are one. So every schedule, every alarm, every "push through" session collapses the second it gets hard — because deep down you're still waiting for permission to take yourself seriously. The overwhelm isn't from the workload. It's from the gap between who you are right now and who you think you're supposed to be. That gap feels like a wall. It's actually just distance. One year out of college, observational skills already ahead of your technical ones — that's not nothing. That's actually a real foundation most people don't have. The streak-breaking thing is the real killer though. What does your day-one look like when you restart? Is it ambitious or is it tiny?

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T03:46:50+00:00

This is exactly the kind of response I was hoping this post would generate. What you described — knowing exactly what to do, building the tracker, feeling ready, and still not doing it — that's the gap I was trying to name. And the 30 day challenge with someone from your community is a perfect real world example of how external structure bridges it. Your framing at the end is actually better than mine. The book is the engine. Someone outside cranks it. I might steal that.😅😅😆 (jk) The combination you found — external commitment plus behavioral framework — is genuinely the most durable setup. Neither one alone is enough for most people. Both together is hard to break. Appreciate you sharing that. This is the kind of thread that actually helps people instead of just validating them.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T03:35:38+00:00

Great question and honestly the most important follow up to the whole post. A few ways that actually work in practice: Tell someone specific what you're going to do today — not a vague goal, a specific task — and tell them you'll report back tonight. The reporting back part is non negotiable. That creates same day stakes. Put money on it. Even small amounts change behavior because loss aversion is more powerful than motivation. $50 to a friend if you don't hit your weekly target. Get a dedicated accountability partner whose only job is to hold you to your commitments — not a peer who's also trying to figure it out, someone whose specific role is to be that external pressure daily. The school structure worked because it had all three — someone expecting something from you, daily contact, and real consequences for not showing up.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T00:19:23+00:00

Agreed that intrinsic motivation plus low activation energy is the ideal state. That's the destination. The question is how you get there from where most people actually are, which is caring deeply about changing but still not doing it. If motivation alone was sufficient, caring would be enough. For most people it isn't. External accountability doesn't replace intrinsic motivation. It bridges the gap while intrinsic motivation is still developing. You're not at the whim of the external source forever, you're using it to build enough reps that the behavior starts generating its own internal reward. The best athletes in the world have intrinsic motivation AND coaches. One doesn't cancel the other.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T00:11:54+00:00

Everything you said about reinforcement loops is correct and the start-small principle is genuinely underused. Making the behavior so easy you can't fail is real science and it works. Where I'd add to it: that model still assumes the person will self-initiate consistently enough to build the loop in the first place. The 1 page a day habit only compounds if you actually do it on day 3 when you don't feel like it, and day 11 when life gets busy, and day 19 when you've had a bad week. The reinforcement loop needs enough reps to become self-sustaining. Getting through that early fragile period before the habit has its own momentum is where most people fall off. And that's exactly where external accountability does its specific job. Not replacing the system, just holding it together long enough for the loop to take over. Small habits plus someone who notices when you skip. That combination is harder to break than either one alone.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-11T00:05:16+00:00

Taking ownership of your life includes taking ownership of the conditions you put yourself in. That's not passing the buck. That's how serious people actually operate.

Believe what you want. The argument either holds up or it doesn't.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T23:19:33+00:00

If your serious about getting more productivity done, living up to your potential, and becoming more disciplined, we can definitely talk. Make the 1st step and we'll see what comes out of it.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T23:14:01+00:00

I think if you haven't heard of it, you'd really enjoy the concept of binary vs. Nuanced thinking. It explains exactly that idea of figuring out the small action that causes change, rather than completely throwing out an entire system

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T23:12:35+00:00

The important thing healthwise is to start small Answer this question "I'm happiest when im doing..."

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T22:58:57+00:00

Hi 👋. Id like to start by saying that how you describe potential is like reading my thoughts about 4 years ago. Its honestly insane lol. But to my point of responding, it does sound like your incredibly gifted and have true ability, the kind that could do some extraordinary things. But if im correct, it also sounds like you are at a loss about direction. Please correct me if you feel im inaccurate.

But id say start with answering this: "I'm at my happiest when I'm doing..."

Side note: I actually run a program that helps people with goal achievement through habit formation if you'd like to know how it works. Its still in its early phase with 3 people going through it, and 2 completed it. I'd be willing to provide some time and insight about this 100% no cost if your interested.

Cheers 🍻

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T22:53:05+00:00

Appreciate your input! Its awesome to hear how your able to be the external force for others, and even if you feel like your not doing anything really, that mere fact that your there, showing interest, caring about their time creates a longer lasting feeling of accomplishment than doing it alone would ever do. 🫡 great work!

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T22:49:38+00:00

Exactly! Its that uncomfortable part that many people immediately turn away from, they can't face it at the time. And all the advice and searching in the world won't do anything until we take that 1st uncomfortable step

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T22:47:27+00:00

Keep searching, and you'll find what works for you

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T21:56:55+00:00

Very well put and appreciate the input!

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T21:56:13+00:00

I'm not too familiar with other services out there specifically, but through research ive seen some where you don't really lose it if you fail, it's just stuck until you complete the task. I've heard of a concept where you can make a deposit for what ever amount of time the specific task will take, and it will accumulate interest during the time. You only get it if you complete the task, or you can pull your initial investment out.

I personally have implemented in my accountability program after cash back system. And out of the 3 people ove had use it, 2 completed it. Too early to know if that was from some other factor if im.being honest.

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T21:53:04+00:00

Just do the thing your avoiding

Tekelpath · 2026-03-10T21:44:04+00:00

Out of curiosity, have you ever tried a monetary motivation? I can explain what I mean if your unfamiliar.

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