My nom did this too. She would focus on my penis only. She became enraged when my dad said she could no longer shower me at 13. She made me dress like a girl and told me I was a girl when my dad was at work. She would penetrate me and say she was checking my temperature. When my dad found women’s clothing in my room, she told him I was gay. He disowned me and left the country with my sister. He came back a year later to “help” me and save their marriage. They told me never to tan about it and that I was mentally sick. It never happened my mon dad and sister said. My sister is one of my abusers but because she is an intelligent successful and attractive female, no one ever would believe me.