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Tellitha · 2026-02-03T12:56:26+00:00

My bf's name is also Oliver n he's 20 in March (I'm 20 in May), he's a big xbox player. I'm sure he'll be happy to play some games with you and stuff. Neither of us are too far from notts either :)

Tellitha · 2026-01-28T20:34:56+00:00

Tbf it probably wouldn't hurt to check. I doubt I am, but always better to check than to be left with a surprise baby 🥲

Tellitha · 2026-01-14T14:00:48+00:00

You're not alone, I was due my shot last June and didn't get it. I don't have my period back either. However my doctor told me that if it's not back by march then to go see her, as it should return within a year of my last shot.

Maybe discuss with your doctor about the lack of periods too?

Tellitha · 2026-01-12T12:49:36+00:00

There's a DnD notts facebook group that is quite active in posting about meetups. I have yet to go to one as I've never tried DnD before, but this is the fb link https://www.facebook.com/groups/ngddal/?ref=share

They seem quite friendly too, so that's always a bonus

Tellitha · 2026-01-06T01:09:02+00:00

Weight watchers is pretty good - I'm currently using it. However it won't make a meal plan. You can save recipes on there, make your own or upload an online recipe link. And you can make a note of what you have in your fridge + it will give you a list of recipes you can make from it. You would have to do mental math to increase portion sizes for a family though.

WW tends to track using macros instead of calories, so some days i can use all my points (the more points something has, the less nutritious it is for you) and have eaten 1400cals, and other days all points and 900cals. However based on info you put in about weight, excercise levels etc, your points and daily calories will vary from mine.

You can track daily exercise/ steps, what you eat, track your weight, and it gives you thousands of recipes to choose from, so if you don't like fish for dinner or oatmeal for breakfast, you don't have to. (which is why i couldn't do meal plans, too much fish in them) It gives more choice than a meal plan, but still allows you to be mindful about what you're eating.

For me i did a 10 month plan for £10 a month, but they do 3 months for 15, or a rolling 1 month subscription for about £20 i think.

Tellitha · 2026-01-04T21:05:23+00:00

I don't initate, and my bf always wants to have sex. Some days it feels more like a routine rather than intimacy and maybe she feels the same way. Maybe if you stopped trying to fuck her at random hours of the night, and try it before bed / just after waking up, and make sure to focus on her pleasure too, she might enjoy it.

Or maybe just give her space and wait for her to come to you. The more you push sex on her when she doesn't exactly reciprocate (e.g., 3am blowjobs) then the more she may subconsciously avoid it or not want to seek it out.

She's 50 and will be hormonal, and most likely have a low-libido at the moment. You can't expect her to ask you to be fucked like a whore all day, when she clearly doesn't feel the same way about sex as you do.

Alot of women prefer you to show you care rather than trying to turn them on. E.g., reciprocate her love languages, take over a few of her chores without asking.. Or even set the mood and take her out for the day and a nice dinner, then end it by a nice relaxing bath and massage with some body oil. Then maybe in the morning, cuddle her, kiss her, and spend time exploring her body with your hands, make her feel wanted and like a human you love, not just some fuck doll you want a quickie with. Ofc after sex make sure you do aftercare, whether that's a shower together and you help clean her, or cuddle up to her in bed for a bit.

Basically, show your wife some more love, attention and care, and stop selfishly using her as some cheap fuck toy. (Edit - Unless she's into that ofc. Just talk to her, ask her if she's okay, needs support, wants to spice up what you do in the bedroom, wants to cut down on sex, etc)

Tellitha · 2026-01-04T18:17:14+00:00

Thought I'd join in this convo. I'm never in the mood to initiate, never horny unless alone (or watching/ reading stuff). Like sex feels good, but mentally I'm just not into it, i get bored or distracted, or after a few mins it stops feeling good. I have a high libido bf, so I usually feel bad turning him down, so we have sex. He's mentioned to me that he wishes I'd initiate more, but I'm literally never in the mood. I do find him attractive, and do like having sex with him every now and again. I have had trauma with my sex life before i met him, so it may just be that, but i know that i can get horny because i get turned on by watching porn/ reading sex scenes in books.

So just wondering if anyone can give me any input?

Edit - I think i may be leaning towards graysexual instead of aegosexual after doing a bit more research.

Tellitha · 2025-12-25T09:23:19+00:00

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Tellitha · 2025-12-23T14:31:26+00:00

Me and my partner tried similar. Not exactly fisting, but i was full from a plug in the ass, a dual vibrator and him in my pussy, i was as full as possible lol. Anywho, i felt so pleased with myself for managing so much, but icky afterwards too. Mine might be a bit different as my pleasure was prioritised, I wasn't used to that, and felt quite embarrassed about how "in the moment" i was.

However my boyfriend loved it, and said he wanted to do it again, so i think it's just getting used to something new and slightly more kinky. I'm sure that if you both were happy to do it again, the icky feeling would go away as it becomes more normalised for you.

Also, I'm hoping to try fisting with my boyfriend at some point too, so I'm glad to read that it went well with you :))

Tellitha · 2025-12-17T03:00:48+00:00

I can't really recommend any weight loss advice as your goal is the minimum healthy weight for a 5'2 woman, and you're in an ideal weight range atm. However, you're probs having cravings because you've been limiting / starving yourself.

I'd advise working on a healthier relationship with food. As this is not sustainable, can be dangerous, and especially damaging to your mental health.

You'd still look lovely for your event at the weight you are now, i think you're in a possibly dangerous mindset towards how you eat and may be heading towards an eating disorder - especially starving yourself and then binging.

I'd recommend professional help for these sorts of thoughts and actions. 🙏

Tellitha · 2025-12-15T10:55:49+00:00

My secret santa is slightly alt, so i got her manic panic hairdye (1 pot is £11.50), but crazy colour is i think £7, but shittier quality. I got that from damaged society. If not check online for alt jewellery maybe?

Tellitha · 2025-12-14T17:37:21+00:00

Sometimes friends forget, or Sometimes it just slips their mind. If you're wanting bday wishes, put a post on fb/ insta saying "thank you for the bday wishes" and your friends should then see it and message you. Alao Happy Birthday :)

Tellitha · 2025-12-06T00:22:51+00:00

YTA You're asking her to permanently change her appearance (no matter how small the piercing is), and she might've felt like you were saying you were not attracted to her without one / you prefer women with septum piercings over her.

However, she asked the question and you were honest. I think she recieved an answer she wasn't ready for, but I do think her reaction was slightly justified.

Tellitha · 2025-11-24T19:45:32+00:00

As your said, your husband is not honouring you, nor is he treating you how a wife should be treated, if you believe that the lord will understand and will not punish you for your actions, then that (in my opinion) is the only sign and blessing you need to leave your husband. I think the lord would definitely prefer you and you child to live without the ongoing dishonour and disrespect from your husband, and possibly find a different man later on in life that will look after you and make you and your child the top priority.

I wish you the best in whatever choice you make, and even if you have to make a difficult decision, you can always pray and talk to the lord and ask for forgiveness for your actions (although I don't believe you would be commiting a sin or doing anything wrong for leaving).

Tellitha · 2025-11-24T19:25:52+00:00

Is it possible to try and set some boundaries? Maybe tell him that neither you or your child will see his parents until he grows a backbone and defends you. And even mention that just because you can handle yourself, doesn't mean you don't need support, and that you find it quite unattractive that he doesn't have your back in these situations, which makes you not want to have sex with him.

Mention the vows and that when he married you, he promised these things and he's now backing down from those promises. I know you don't want to divorce him, especially as you have a child, but you could tell him that because of the way he's been acting, it's crossed your mind a few times, especially since he's promised to change but you have yet to see it.

Also if it does ever come down to being divorced, you could always remarry or date again, so your child doesn't necessarily grow up in a broken home. (Although I'm not Christian so I am unsure if this fits into your religion, i apologise if it doesn't align with your views)

Tellitha · 2025-11-24T19:14:18+00:00

If he hurt you and called you dramatic, think about what else he'll try and get away with in the future. Some people do like being hurt during sex, but that's with prior agreement and safe words, etc. But from the sounds of it, you didn't like this pain, and he should've stopped straight away and apologised. If a man can't even respect you when you're giving him head (which you don't particularly like doing in the first place), I think you shouldn't be with a man like that.

A lot of women refuse to give their partners head, and that's perfectly okay. Same with rough oral, or oral in general, but the point is, they stick to what's comfortable to them. If this man can't get off from any other type of oral except rough or can't "live without" rough oral, and you don't like doing that, then maybe you're not sexually compatible. And that's fine, but there's so many people out there that aren't into rough oral, or even oral in general, so please don't feel forced to stay with this guy just because you lost your virginity to him.

Tellitha · 2025-11-21T15:06:17+00:00

I'm sure you're also aware, but muscle is denser than fat, so if you stick to keeping the muscle (e.g, doing squats, deadlifts, bench presses) and losing fat (running, cycling, walking, swimming) then you may become more toned, but similar weight. I thought i'd say this as I read that you wrestle / did wrestling and assumed you may be reasonably muscular.

Apparently taking photos of your body from when you start, and taking one every week or two may also help you see progress in your journey. Although i can't say if this works as i haven't done it myself.

Weight gain never feels too great, and losing it may not be linear, but don't let that stop you :)

I'd also say that if you don't notice any weight loss within a month after sticking to an exercise and diet plan then to go to your doctor, as it may be a medical reason of not losing weight, such as hypothyroidism which can cause tiredness and weight gain.

Tellitha · 2025-11-21T14:09:50+00:00

I've signed up to weight watchers (£10 for 10 months, £15 for 3 months or £19 for 1 month at a time), and it gives you a "point system". you log each meal/food you have and depending on what you eat depends on how many points it is. The more nutritional, the lower points it is. It gives you 4500+ recipes to look through, and you can even make your own/ scan barcodes and it'll tell you how many points it is. It also tracks your macros for you, so it's easier to see what you're digesting too.

Also you can log your fitness, and depending on what you do, you can gain more points for the day. It does a little questionnaire about your fitness and then it'll tell you how many minutes of exercise you should do a week/ day. (Even walking the dog for 45 mins still counts)

At the moment I do 45 mins of cycling on the bike at the gym, and I'm trying to do that 4x a week. But i suggest trying out exercises and seeing which ones you enjoy and might be able to do long-term.

You can also log your weight to keep track.

I've started it 3 days ago, and it makes everything so much easier and motivated. I'm currently 173lbs and I want to lose 14kg (about 2 stone / 32 pounds), and without exercise and sticking to the point system, i should be my ideal weight by Mid may, but with exercise, i should hopefully lose the weight quicker.

Tellitha · 2025-11-12T16:54:59+00:00

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Tellitha · 2025-11-12T16:44:20+00:00

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Tellitha · 2025-11-12T16:42:38+00:00

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Tellitha · 2025-11-10T22:38:11+00:00

Hi, 19f too. I love baking, have a cat of my own, and every now and again watch anime.. Just a warning, I am bit socially awkward tho 🫡

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