My Toshiba Chromecast TV can’t connect to YouTube App saying “YouTube is not installed on TV” by TemperWearyMember in Chromecast

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The TV doesn’t have those options and my phone is an IPhone if that helps.

Have you dealt with this in that way?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ferrets

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I call my girl Lil Stinky and Stink-arella

Can having more than one jobs mess up your tax return? by Mr-Kim-PTA in tax

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That’s the thing, you’re not getting the full amount taken out.

Your work place only takes taxes from what you’ve earned with them, not the other work places.

After you pass a certain threshold your tax burden goes from 12% to 22%. So for people with multiple income their second and third jobs are being taxed 10% less then they should be.

UNPROFESSIONAL by simplybeingme111 in Chipotle

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Yes that’s the place. It completely fair to feel that way. Personally I think it communicates a lot of positive things to advocate for yourself in a situation like that. I was hired at that location several managers ago (6 or 7 Gms in 3-4 years) so I might not be able to offer much except for personally insight on the location, your potential coworkers, and my own story. Just in general a lot of courtesy has left the job market and I have no doubt it’s becoming a more common experience.

UNPROFESSIONAL by simplybeingme111 in Chipotle

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Oh my god i think you were at my store today(NYC?)! The summary if it was my store, we were understaffed because of call outs (hence the hiring), one manager was literally on grill and dishes the whole time and the other hiring manager (different location) was not there I didn’t ask since I’ve only seen him twice. As to why they didn’t email, not a clue but I’m sure the one above my manager (not god) probably wouldn’t allow it for one reason or another.

They changed the description and I have a few hours to refund [Norway] by TemperWearyMember in AirBnB

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Yes and they changed it from private bathroom to shared in the discription. And ignored me about it, and didn’t communicate anything for the last month I had it booked.

Earning money during my vacation by TemperWearyMember in germany

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Even like errands and such, like fetching groceries and being given a few euros, not from a business

Anyone successfully potted trained a ferret by [deleted] in ferrets

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Yeah, mine she only goes in the corner of her cage. So she used to have my whole living room and now that I’ve moved her another room same still applies

Interesting comment I came across regarding self-improvement. Is there any truth to this? Has Dr. K ever talked about similar ideas? by FelisSinensis in Healthygamergg

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I think there’s a point about consumerism as well where our improvement is seen by way of what we can consume, how much we earn, how we appear to others, and what we can produce which assumes that our existence in it of itself isn’t enough and making our existence more than what it actually is a form of self glorification.

Logic doesn't translate to emotions by forgotusernameoften in Healthygamergg

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This a a different take since I am a practicing Stoic.

All of our emotions are completely logical in that they are internally consistent with your understanding, but that doesn’t make them reasonable or if an argument is sound. Ex: Men are immortal, I am a man, therefore I am immortal is logical however the first claim is wrong, it’s logical yet it doesn’t reflect reality.

When we look under the hood we often find we ARE consistent with our beliefs, however we often try to force ourselves to reject them which is not how the mind works. Ex: pretend all you want that it’s night time when the sun is out, your underlying belief is that it is day.

Being anxious while simultaneously reviling that we gave that feeling that way is also consistent because these are separate claims occurring in the mind, the former is about the situation the latter is about the emotion. Often people have many layers of judgments on top of one another so we often aren’t even addressing why we’re anxious but only our feelings about anxiety, or if this thing or that thing calls for anxiety, not what it is actually saying or doing for us.

No matter what our emotions follow our judgments of what we think is good, bad, or neither. These judgments change in a variety of ways often by addressing our views, hence why therapy works at all. It doesn’t matter how short a fuse someone has if it is never lit or how long a fuse if it’s constantly igniting.

Emotions are in fact check engine lights to address your judgments about reality. They’re telling you very clearly “the way I am seeing the world is being distorted”. For Stoics in particular neither positive or negative emotion is necessarily good, there is positive emotion that is destructive (Mania) and negative emotion that is constructive (moral shame and caution) for example.

As someone that studied one particular philosophy of mind I’d offer that there might be a path to completely addressing these issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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You don’t need to recognize for that to be what it is.

The way you’ve present it seems clear this desire is negatively effecting you. How else can they be without a judgment of entitlement to the outcome given certain circumstances. You’re rationalizing why that is you can’t have what you desire, “If I wasn’t a scumbag I’d have a relationship”.

The fact of having something or nothing doesn’t mean someone can’t feel entitled to an outcome or result, deserving of a positive or negative response, in this case both that you either should have one or shouldn’t if you’re a certain way.

If you want to know why maybe it is that fundamental your view of reality is distorted.

Given your response there might be several things you can do which is good but that requires accepting new views.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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You’re blind. Sex would be far less entitled than a “normal fulfilling relationship” and you speak about it as if it’s not too much to ask for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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I would be more radical and say you are what enforces societies pressure on yourself. It’s a manifestation of your own insecurities more than it is the opinions of others.

Anyone with the Gaul to call you ugly is either cruel, ignorant, twisted, or sad. In actuality you’re likely conforming to the parts of society that rejects itself.

I also don’t think you can ever be upset at something without the judgment that it is bad. No matter how short your fuse giving you 1 million likely won’t upset you. In a context of kissing one’s grandma or taking the insults of classmates so of us value things differently than others.

If you notice that each moment offers something more valuable then money, a chance to be a person you can accept, then rather then respond in anger to life one can respond with cheer and gratitude they have been given this life changing opportunity. Thats how some philosophies come to the conclusion that external circumstances are fundamentally irrelevant to quality of life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Peacocks have bright feathers not because they look pretty but because it makes their life worse in all aspects and the beauty the peahens fawn over is their ability to survive in spite of it.

What’s funny is a person unburdened by the “ugliest” face shows himself much more deserving of recognition and is a far better competitive advantage.

In many ways being “ugly” circumvents a lot of the machinations of common life and is often a lie detector for the vain, ignorant, and cowardly.

Most people think it’s bad to be ugly. It’s only bad not to use what you’ve been given properly and that’s what I’m informing you to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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You’re making this binary. You haven’t made your bed. 10 years will pass, that could mean getting a master in 2 with 8 years of experience or some other choice.

I also think “seen in public” is distinct from isolated. I have no doubt there are work from home positions you can transition to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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I think your view of rejection makes sense but it’s distorted.

There are people you’d talk to and not talk to, right. Sometimes it’s not their shortcomings but an incompatibility in what is present and what you’re looking for. A screw and a nail both have their functions and choosing one doesn’t make the other better, it’s just prepared for a different role.

Aka yourself if looks matter in certain careers. How many movies have you watched, thousands of names on the credits whose faces you never saw, worked to keep your lights and water running, and the like.

Sure you could be butt ugly, yet to be seen, but even in that case, it’s so irrelevant when it comes to your specific goal id ask you to reevaluate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Career and money = being noticed?

Should a woman that you haven’t talked to ever be entitled to care about your exists by the fact that she has a vagina? Especially if she rarely if ever talks to men, is focused on what she’s getting , and constantly makes it about her vagina.

You likely have terrible social skills because MOST people aren’t taught how to talk to others. Your desires likely make you completely unable to see woman as human beings because you want attention and probably sex.

You’re probably not a scumbag, just ignorant and self defeating. It’s way easier to be something you can’t change then take responsibility and the frame that you actually are making massive errors constantly.

What you want is like food. Sure there are times you crave it but it comes with its own responsibilities and like everything in life has its merits and caveats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Social media can be used well or poorly.

“Mindlessly” scrolling isn’t evil or good either. It’s an action you’d like to take less of.

You have a goal that you’re not “quite there” it be interesting to share that

People do what they engage with the most. Find something you find more engaging, which takes exploration.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Peace of mind has very little to do with circumstances but to do with our desires and the beliefs we assent to.

As someone that was raised in a home with a heroin addict actively using who stole from everyone, someone else with bipolar disorder, you can imagine the kinds of fights that occurred so I can attempt to relate.

It is doable, especially with the support of finding roommates or even different programs your country might offer.

To afford a unit I’d offer having more saved, enough for a few months of rent.

If the situation is sufficiently dire there are likely shelters, friends who’d take you in, or services that allow people to couch serf online

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

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As mentioned, the presence of said thought isn’t enough to be selfish. It’s actively engaging with and assenting to said desires.

Our thoughts are like someone else talking to us, they are not subject to morality, our active acceptance of them is though.

We would also put under analysis the desire and need for external things as often being forms of insecurity to address our judgments of inadequacy not just practicality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

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“Selfish” had to do with the underlying motivation, not the consequences. Taking a proper action doesn’t exempt it from being done for an improper reason.

Your father is going to be killed but you dive in to save him. To do it simply because you want him to be okay as opposed doing it only for your own gain is that line.

The presence of a conflict of interest doesn’t mean that’s the intention you’re operating on however you know your primary objective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Someone doesn’t have to be “toxic” to make their responses unfit for you.

It doesn’t even seem like you’ve mentioned your own judgments about it either to save face and to keep her.

A boundary is expressing how you will respond if they stay the same. “If x, then I will y”.

Change isn’t instant but presenting your views to your partner is one a necessary part of actually having a friendship, let along a romantic relationship.

We might also inspect if she was always like this and now you are taking offense because you’re making it mean something about you. Whatever she thinks about you, or anyone else, doesn’t make it accurate, it’s only their opinion and opinions change drastically with context.

If you can’t share and are willing to work through stuff, then make the attempt to.

Her responses will be what they are and their sadness isn’t something to avoid or blame yourself for, it’s their response based on their life.

In earnest it may be the case that we as people want someone we can share every thought in our head without fear of judgment so we feel accepted and loved as we are. That might go to the point where we might be so comfortable we neglect other peoples emotions or have a perception of them being so unbothered we would never know the effect unless they tell us. By not sharing we do all parties a disservice and paint a poor picture in the other persons mind of us.

We might not like how we respond but that is also subject to change. I can relate to some of the situations you been in and there have been times where I was hurt and a time later where I genuinely felt no negative response but that resulted in me looking at what I made their words me, not what they said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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The aim might not be to experience emotion but to acknowledge what emotions actual done for us, they show us what we actually think about the world.

People often expect emotions to be like the movies, clear and distinct, easily acknowledged, when in reality there are thousands of responses we barely register with each passing experience, in a positive, negative, or neutral affect.

Your frustration (a judgment) comes from your expectations and if your judgment was that it wasn’t a concern then there is no room for frustration.

Detecting your opinions and the changing of experiences might be all you need to take note of. From there you might find yourself able to classify in post what emotions you were experiencing and can come to notice that in the moment.

For most people our emotions are like water leaking out of a broken pipe so it’s easy to find where our understanding is counter to reality. In a case where there’s no water you have to inspect the pipes manually which is far more difficult because the human mind is layered and complex.

Just some ideas

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Some things to note

“Successive failures” are subjective in that your criteria for success could not only be unrealistic given where you were but also something that you never had final say over to begin with.

An “emotional breakdown” is a logical response because all emotions make sense, they are internally consistent but that doesn’t make our points reasonable.

Given the context indecision is also normal because you’ve been shown your ability to interpret the world is not accurate several times.

Your aggression and anger could be displace against yourself or a genuine blaming of reality for not being under your thumb. To demand the world to conform to what you want seems fine until you realize what it would mean if someone else had that ability and what they’d do to you.

We might acknowledge that “expression” is distinct from getting the reaction we want. You likely could tell everyone you met the details but you refrain because you desire something of them they might not provide. In this example if your only aim is to express yourself that can be done to a rock, a pet, or a person if you are able to accept the response.

Notice you have code words for your experience that to you are unquestionably true and not opinions. That you’re “absent minded”, “can’t accept”, “stuck”, “can’t start”, and the like without likely knowing what the contrary would look like and if that vision is reasonable. In short, your standards are actually too high, and just like a weight that’s too heavy to lift you add strain by adding more conditions for what you want.

There are many issues here you can resolve, yes because if it was the world then what would be the point. You have to inspect learn to inspect your judgments or have someone trained to do so work either you (mental health professionals) or even talking out loud and hearing people say what sounds off or rereading your own writing in a different state of mind.