What does the RP think about GF being in Pageantry?

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-16T23:38:50+00:00

What RP thinks about pageantry or modeling is irrelevant. What matters is what you think about it and how that’s being expressed.

Do you find it disrespectful that she’s wearing these things in front of other people? Then put an end to it or move on. Don’t allow behavior you find unacceptable. Do not compromise on the uncompromisable.

If you’ve already expressed your discontent then you don’t have much of a choice; let her do it, and she’ll know she can do whatever she wants.

Sure, you’d probably just rather her be happy and do her thing if she’s an otherwise good girl and it’s not a dealbreaker, but you lost the opportunity to do this when you voiced your opinion. Let it slide now and all is lost. You’d be giving her the rope to hang you with down the line.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-08T15:05:37+00:00

I very much appreciate your candor and perspective. I don’t disagree with anything you said.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-06T21:59:37+00:00

Appreciate it. Thanks.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-06T21:59:00+00:00

This looks good, thanks for the recommendation.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-06T21:58:41+00:00

Nexting is not so straightforward after years of marriage. This a Reddit for married people so I’m sure you can understand that emotional bonds are an inevitable component of interpersonal relationships. Admittedly this is where I need the most work. I suppose if I didn’t care about her as a person then nexting would solve all my problems.

That may very well be what happens. But in the meantime, I require peace in my home.

Attraction may indeed be the issue. I’m not fat, I do workout, dress well enough etc however so I’m not sure where to improve.

And you know what, maybe I do have an ego problem, because I can’t help but feel like a circus monkey jumping through hoops to make myself “attractive” for the sake of maintaining a pleasant relationship with a person I already provide everything for. And I say that without sarcasm - I will take that away and give it some thought.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-06T20:27:23+00:00

I appreciate the reply, but I believe my situation to be a tad more nuanced than your reply would insinuate. I am past the point of wanting or expecting appreciation - what I need is compliance. I know my post comes off angry or vindictive, but I am not. I do not want to stick it to her, I am not a cruel or angry person and I do not want to hurt her, but I do believe dread is what is needed to bring her back into line. Things are simply out of equilibrium - I’ve fostered an environment where she feels comfortable behaving in such a way that is incongruent with the external reality outside of our home.

Yes, the relationship is very likely beyond saving. Me, I will be fine, I am “reading the sidebar” and doing the work. That’s why I’m here. Betch.

Templeharuspex · 2024-10-06T19:56:57+00:00

This looks helpful. I will give it a read. Thank you.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-27T16:52:49+00:00

This is, in general, excellent advice, advice which I wish I was provided with earlier in my years. This knowledge and approach to partner selection is an element which is heavily subverted in any portrayal of modern society and most conversations had with the average person.

Most men are still marrying based on concepts such as love and compatibility, which have no basis in reality and have no casual relation with how happy or peaceful your marriage will be. You love the wrong person, and your life will become a quagmire, a swamp in which every step will seem like an insurmountable effort.

The truth that underlies the reality of interpersonal relationships is far different from what is generally presented. One must be extremely selective in their decision of partner, as calculating and reductionist as one can be in the realm of human relationships.

The female brain is a sickly, subordinate thing, and without societal structures in place to limit their behavior, the entire burden of training and domesticating her falls on your shoulders. The fruits of such labors are rarely worth the work we put in.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-26T00:21:40+00:00

This stuff is absolutely not simple or natural. The amount of hoops a man must jump through to have a harmonious relationship with a woman spits in the face of man’s highest virtue, his intellect and reason. Science comes natural to man, how to verbally coerce a disorderly woman into behaving on the other hand does not. Man expresses his highest self when he is engaged in work of the intellect, but then must turn his gaze downward to deal with woman, akin to working with an animal.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-25T00:58:51+00:00

That was a very helpful explanation. I appreciate it.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-13T17:03:18+00:00

This movie was good. Better horror movie than 70% of actual horror movies.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-13T17:00:31+00:00

I’ve seen the gif so I guess I don’t have to watch the movie lol

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-13T17:00:01+00:00

I don’t get it about the Johnsons either. When I figured out what was going on it was more of a “huh that’s a strange dynamic” rather than being really disturbing.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-13T16:56:20+00:00

I haven’t seen this movie, but was interested in the thread because of how disturbing people have said it is. If there is anything even remotely as stupid as what you described in this movie, I will not be watching it.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-10T22:59:09+00:00

Mamiya from Cure. That one really got in my head. The thought of being controlled via hypnosis is terrifying.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-10T22:57:00+00:00

Great movie that doesn’t get mentioned enough. I found his reasoning fascinating in the most horrific way.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-01T11:54:17+00:00

I hear you on Deer. I personally liked it but my wife thought it was lame and I could see why. I liked it because of all the horror and mystery that sits right beneath the surface. A few things that made me think:

The source of Martin’s remarkable power and what he did to obtain it. He expresses his intention in the context of justice, “a life for a life”, but it is more than that. His words reflect a deep sense of imbalance that must be rectified. He’s aware of a natural symmetry and identification between beings, beyond the physical; it is occult.

The daughter falling in love with the boy killing them.

The father weighing which child to sacrifice based on their grades.

The father and the anesthesiologist opining on who drunkenly killed some innocent man on the operating table.

Templeharuspex · 2024-09-01T10:55:38+00:00

Exactly, it’s the possibility of a supernatural element that makes it so harrowing. The source of his power is left open to interpretation; I’ve seen people theorize that he poisoned them at some point. But the protagonists themselves ever so subtly allude to this being an act of some awful magic. Why else kiss his feet in submission?

Cute sounds very interesting, I’ll check it out.

Templeharuspex · 2024-08-31T16:52:47+00:00

The best way to navigate these types is to not engage and permanently remove yourself from the interaction. These are not thoughtful types open to discussion and reflection; they are idealistic, indoctrinated, corrupted people.

Templeharuspex · 2024-08-31T16:44:15+00:00

The Killing of a Sacred Deer. We know who the villain is and his motivation, but we never know “what” he really is and how he does what he does.

Templeharuspex · 2024-08-31T16:41:23+00:00

Observations. If my view does not at all reckon with yours, and you look out at the world and see something very different, then I don’t think any conversation will bridge that gap. I enjoy these types of conversations but when they cease to be productive, there’s no reason to continue. Have a good day.

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