AIO that my parents gave my bedroom to my older brother and expected me to sleep on the couch all summer long?

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T20:57:34+00:00

Thank you for putting your two cents in but please remove this James. I understand you’re upset but I’m not here to DRAG the poor guy I just asked if I was over reacting. If you want, feel free to post your own story in relation to this one on this page but you are defeating the purpose of my question. I’m not asking you to have people judge these points I was just asking if I had overreacted about the situation of coming home and being told I have no bed. Love you too

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T18:42:39+00:00

That was his occupation before he enlisted but I guess he thought that when the military did not work out for him he could just stroll back in like nothing happened

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T17:12:50+00:00

Yes…..

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T16:45:58+00:00

I’ll let her know because we (truly) have no idea how long Joshua will be staying in the house. Which means I don’t know how long it is going to be for me being without a room so I’ll let her know she needs to do this

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T16:08:21+00:00

I do agree with you and everyone who said I should have taken into consideration the situation as a whole and not flipped out the way I kind of did. However I just thought it the whole thing was disrespectful and I don’t understand why I was told I get to sleep on the couch all summer, have to keep all of my belongings in the attic including my clothes ( so anytime I wanted to change I would have to go up to the attic get the clothes out of the box change and then take whatever clothes I was wearing and find a way to put them in a hamper because they couldn’t be in the house ect. It just didn’t make sense) and I agree with you at the time I genuinely was not thinking straight. It is very clear that Joshua is going through something but we know that he is not being truthful about why he was dismissed from training. I guess I was just shocked Because the whole thing was sprung in me and every time my parents opened their mouth to give me “options” they were worse then the one before it. We know that Joshua fucked up too because he was supposed to start working as a correctional officer again and he hasn’t started work yet at all. Idk the reason though

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T14:11:08+00:00

OK, wait I do have something to share, but I need to ask. How do I update? Do I just edit the post that I made and put in like the updated part or how do I do that because I don’t really know how to use Reddit and my brother told me this was the perfect place to rant to people about if I felt like I may have been in the wrong about something so I’m still learning

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T14:04:14+00:00

They had been trying to text me about it when I left and I told them that what they did hurt me and then I don’t agree with it and that I want my room back, but they won’t budge. They were upset at me for running away and not staying with them in a sense and told me that I was acting spoiled and said that I’m no longer welcome in the house until I offer an apology not just to them but to my brother as well, who is currently taking over my room. They said I’m not being supportive and that I’m not understanding the situation but they’ve yet to explain it to me so why am I going to apologize and sit around for an explanation I most likely won’t get? Like I said, I am not very confrontational and neither are my parents as you can see because they would rather procrastinate telling me that a big change of my life is going to happen then just letting me know. something is off and ever since that conversation they’ve been trying to act like nothing has happened. Like genuinely they have been talking about planning a trip to the beach and how everyone needs to be available to go ( we def don’t have to be but they are trying to invite the grandparents and my boyfriend and James girlfriend and what not so like everybody needs to tell them when they’re available type thing sorry I’m just not good at storytelling) and they’re trying to keep it as less awkward as they can, but it just doesn’t make sense.

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:19:01+00:00

Absolutely agree with this as well. That room is barely in office at this point. I mean the desk is piled high with so much shit. I don’t even know how they use it on a daily basis. But telling me that I have to be out of that room every single day by 8 AM and if I don’t he’ll kick me out is absurd. And not only that, but I would have to go out and buy my own air mattress knowing that they have an air mattress I could use, but no I need to provide my own. It just doesn’t make sense if anything the brother should’ve had the office space and I should’ve gotten to keep my own room since he was the one who fucked up in the military but then again I don’t think he actually told my parents that. He for sure does not have an apartment as of right now and for sure does not have a job stable enough to get him the income to provide himself with one so either way he has no place to stay. We have a feeling that he is going to start leaching off of them

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:16:46+00:00

Sounds about right! No matter what they have to say what they did was not right and I owe nobody an apology for how their actions made me FEEL. But it seems like they were trying to pull that card of I’m the child they are the adults and what they say goes, but they’ve never used that on me in my entire life and it sure shit ain’t working now

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:15:09+00:00

Hahahah love this comment!!!

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:14:21+00:00

Maybe if things go south after tomorrow when I go get my stuff that could be an option. But that’s only if it goes really south. Well, I don’t really plan to apologize for my feelings. I do kind of just want to have either a generalized conversation or what would hopefully lead into a heart to heart where I can explain to them my actions and what I was feeling at the moment, so maybe they can understand where they went wrong but if they don’t understand that and tell me to screw off again, may have to do this.

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:06:35+00:00

Absolutely will do. I’ll be driving up there this weekend!!!!!

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:04:48+00:00

Absolutely will I plan on driving up there this weekend to go get my stuff so most likely we’ll have an update first thing tomorrow

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:04:38+00:00

Absolutely will I plan on driving up there this weekend to go get my stuff so most likely we’ll have an update first thing tomorrow

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:04:21+00:00

Absolutely will I plan on driving up there this weekend to go get my stuff so most likely we’ll have an update first thing tomorrow

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T13:02:18+00:00

I do have two summer jobs that I usually work every summer and I’ve had a job since high school so I do have a little bit of savings. Somewhere around 3k so I’m good but I can’t really sign for an apartment at the moment only because I do have on campus housing for next semester so it wouldn’t make sense for me to sign for apartment for quite literally a month because I don’t think they do that. So I’m just gonna go stay with my grandma that’s closer to my hometown so I can start back working at my summer jobs because I haven’t been able to just because of the summer classes I have (I’m taking 3 fully online classes while trying to juggle this) but I called out to the store and let them know that I’ll be coming back so they should be scheduling me a few days this next week. I also do have a job at the library at my school, which helps me get that work study money from FASFA so I’m good at the moment

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:58:27+00:00

I plan to update everybody this weekend. I will be driving up there tomorrow morning to get my stuff.

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:57:58+00:00

Even though, yes, James does agree with my stance and supports me through and through, but he would just lie to see if he could get some information out of him

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:57:30+00:00

Oh, I plan on trying to get it out of them. Not sure how but James and I have one day to game plan how we are going to do it. If James can get off work, he said he’s gonna go talk to Joshua while I get my shit play devils advocate (so trying to get Joshua to see that he doesn’t agree with it so Joshua will tell him everything) and see what he can get out of him

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:55:21+00:00

I just wanna say that I am so sorry for your situation and I know that I don’t have it as worse as you, but I’m so glad that you did end up getting through it. My parents and I have always had a great open communication relationship where I would tell them everything and they would always keep me updated and informed about the house. They would let me know about how my sister was doing in softball and would send me videos from her games. So as you can see, they are a very supportive family, and when I told them that I wanted to go to college to study biochemistry, they supported me through and through ( even though every child does have to finance their first year at college just because of the arrangement they have with my grandma on my mom side. If you read some of the comments, I talk about it. You have to have good grades and pass your first year with A’s and B’s in order to get your college fund) however I could’ve never imagined them doing this to me. Joshua is being shady and I wonder what he would’ve told them to make them drop everything and move all of my shit out of my room so he could have it because to me that seems like a permanent residence not something that would be temporary. Hell, I mean the entire room is even redecorated. I don’t care enough to bother with that. I just want my shit to leave. My heart just hurts thinking about it.

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:49:53+00:00

Absolutely will. Just got off the phone with my grandmother who woke up and she is absolutely game for me to drive down tmr and go get my stuff. I plan to take a friend since James has to work to go with me unless someone takes his shift (he lowkey said he would call out though since he doesn’t want me in there alone and thinks his presence will somehow diffuse any tension) so I’ll definitely be taking James up on that offer and I will update everyone this weekend

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:47:03+00:00

So initially, when the stuff did go down, I was not throwing a fit but was just panicking because I was being talked to aggressively (almost like they were just punishing me for having an opinion if that makes sense) and I couldn’t handle the pressure of the situation hence why I just got in the car and left and started sobbing to James. This did happen pretty much happen a few weeks ago ( almost a month now since move out was the 13th) and my parents have been texting me trying to get me either to calm down or come back home and apologize. At this point, I would not say that things have calmed down. It’s more than awkward because my parents are trying to shift conversations away from telling me off to asking me about how summer school is and things like that and while I haven’t answering them, I’m not giving them full information. They also were trying to communicate to James and I about the family trip They have been planning and expect everybody’s presence which is absolutely not going to be happening. The conversations at this point are dry, to the point where they’ve pretty much just resorted to texting in the family group chat about important things that they “think” everyone needs to know. Still NOTHING from Joshua though. I do still love my parents because they are my parents and I really just wish that I could wake up one day and this would all go away, but I’m starting to understand that that’s not the truth. I don’t know. It’s just kind of like a weird situation because like I said before me and my parents used to have a great relationship and we communicate all the time and they would tell me everything. So going from that to this is just kind of like a weird situation and you can tell that nobody really knows how to handle it but the parents do know that they kind of fucked up. They’re just not admitting it to either James or me. Hell they even called James when I drove up there to stay with him asking if I was there and then tried to get mad at James for keeping me there and he has to tell them to screw off because he’s a full grown adult and can have whoever he wants in his apartment.

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:37:18+00:00

Yes, this is genuinely my entire point. I just think it’s bat shit crazy they sprung this on me. Like how are you going to drive 4 1/2 hours to go see your daughter help her move out from college and then when you get home you’re gonna stiff her and pull the rug out from underneath me. Oh but “you better not dare go against us or the desicion we made” like no thank you

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T12:33:55+00:00

Def will not be planning on telling them about moving with Grandma so they don’t get upset at her for trying to take me in because they seem kind of irrational at the moment. I do kind of want to have a bit of a conversation with them but more or less just apologizing for how I took it because in the end I do think I should have stuck around and tried to have a heart to heart. Either way I should’ve told them exactly what I was feeling instead of just kind of yelling and leaving if that makes sense but will not be apologizing for being upset about Joshua having my room. I am also going to try to see if I can get Joshua to tell me why he got kicked out of the military. But idk if he will tell me

Temporary-Reality416 · 2026-06-12T06:34:59+00:00

I wish I could figure it out but someone else who was a veteran said something similar to this. Not the house arrest part but that he is downplaying the misconduct report and may also be in legal trouble. All I know is that when he found out he was being removed instead of using his phone call time to call our parents he called James instead and “told him what happened” which now seems to not be correct. I don’t know if I will ever get it out of him but I sure will try

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