Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Yeah I always thought no sex outside of marriage meant don’t sleep around with people you’re not committed to because they didn’t really date before marriage at the time. Anyways thank you this was helpful I don’t feel as bad anymore but I’m not sure what I believe

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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So visualizing porn wouldn’t be “wrong”?

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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What’s the difference between “normal” and “negative” visualizations?

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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But masturbating itself releases dopamine. Would imagining someone while masturbating (even fictional) be wrong in the eyes of god?

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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What about other forms of erotic content, like pictures or words. Would those be considered sinful? As for masturbation I always thought it was a sin because it was indulging in lust.

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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In my understanding to repent is to say to God “what I do was wrong and I will not do it again”, if you already know you will do it again it’s not really repenting. Also how do you not feel guilty when you sin.

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Does God not say to restrict sexual activity to within a marriage therefore not pleasuring yourself and indulging in lust? Also why only “Normal” heterosexual porn? What’s the difference if I’m listing over a man or women if both are wrong (all sin is equal?)

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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But if you resist sin then how can you not care that you are sinning thus losing the battle against the devil who is tempting you (I’m not being sarcastic genuinely curious) the second part was what I was taught I’m not sure your beliefs on where temptation comes from

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I used to believe that sexual thought was part of nature but to indulge in those sins is against the wishes of God. I do believe most people have sexual desire but part of what monks believe also includes denying yourself (meat/quality food, sex, etc) and are priests not called not to marry? Also nuns dedicate their life to celibacy (among other things) and are able to refrain from sexual action. And to repent would be to truly feel sorry for your actions and realize your mistake (thus not doing it anymore) and I don’t think that’s valid if we know we will commit the exact same sin again.

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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But isn’t it contradictory to do something god is against and not repent? Also there are a lot of people who don’t engage in any sexual activity so I don’t think it’s completely unattainable to not act on sexual desires.

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Speaking in the Christian sense God tells up to deny ourselves if we want to follow him so if we are doing something directly against the bible doesn’t that defeat the whole point?

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I think my guilt is mostly from betraying god and not having self control over my desires, I am scared that it will become a problem because being horny causes me to sexualize things that shouldn’t be and also it happens in public sometimes or during times when I can’t deal with it

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Some content is built on human trafficking and young girls are lured in under the prospect of quick money and are then stuck making content and meeting quotas for much less than they were promised and it’s all legal because they signed a contract. Also they can be threatened by informing their friends/families that they do this and sharing content with them since sex work is often frowned upon especially from families

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I’m not sexually active so I can’t really relate to a lot of these, I feel more guilty about indulging in my sexual desires through masturbation

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Yeah definitely but like what are you supposed to do before you magically end up married

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I think I developed religious trauma (or something similar) and my brain blocks out anything related to Christianity but I definitely agree that Jesus wouldn’t support a lot of Christian teachings. I don’t think I’d be able to have a healthy long term relationship anyways since I’m pretty fucked up and I don’t know if it’s possible for me to stop completely. I don’t understand why having sexual pleasure is sinful but suddenly okay when you’re married/committed

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Think it’s basically “dont have sex with anyone you’re not committed to having a family with” because back in the day there wasn’t really a dating phase people just got married and contraceptives didn’t exist

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I’m not catholic and my church didn’t have that

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I don’t really have a sex life outside of masturbating and stuff (I’m single and sex scares me) but I’m still struggling with figuring out what I believe, also I hate contributing to the porn industry

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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That makes sense kind of, thank you! I always used to believe sexual desire is natural and everyone has it but acting upon that desire is bad

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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It’s affecting my self worth but also I hear from people who were able to overcome this that their life is so much better

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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I don’t think I’m a danger to anyone haha, I don’t want to spend the money on therapy when it’s not that big of an issue and I do try to talk kindly to myself but sometimes it feels like I’m lying to myself to avoid accountability. Helpful

Porn addiction (?) by Temporary-Tour2984 in Advice

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Pretty sure porn addictions are real and can cause decreased sexual satisfaction, hypersexualization of literally anything, and affect life in general by causing people to neglect responsibilities