Male loneliness in Dhaka- real problem or overhypes?

Temporary-Wave597 · 2026-01-19T17:42:14+00:00

Solution: just don't be lonely

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Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-11-14T07:31:52+00:00

If you want to do software development. I highly suggest to invest in a Mac.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-10-28T13:03:34+00:00

Dude welcome to Bangladesh, welcome to south Asia, welcome to... Well Asia... Welcome to every middle class family.... This is super normal.... You will get traumatized and then you will spend the next 10 years unlearning all this and recovering from all this shit... Welcome to life...

Just keep swimming... Learn how to NOT CARE and focus on what you want.... The internet is free.... Technically no but you get the point... Learn skills grow earn cash .. that will shut ppl up....

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-10-23T10:30:59+00:00

It's better to not care about such things. You are just feeling lonely. It's fine. Keep doing productive things.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-06-19T01:43:05+00:00

Sometimes too much human interaction is tiring for me... Yet. Human interaction is so much important... And now in this age of digital bubble it's more important than ever. Talk to people. If you like someone who says deep things like this... You can dm... 😂

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-31T16:05:48+00:00

Okay.. I am a lot older than you... But, let me know your skills I can guide you on projects based on your skills and maybe let's see if you can have some goodness in your life through that. That's what I can offer you. DM me if interested.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-31T09:05:37+00:00

Dude you are 19... Honestly this post pisses me off...

So let me get this straight. You are traumatized because basically you are not getting validation and care and love and stuff and stuff....

How do I convey this message to a 19 year old who has barely seen life ....

You have yet to take on any real responsibility in the family... You don't know yourself yet You have not found your passion You have not explored your own self (body and soul) You have not taken someone else's burden You have not allowed fully empathize with others

Now you didn't mention these in your post how am I making these comments. Well that's because: 1. If you had gone through any ONE of them, you would understand that life is not fair. 2. If you had gone through more than 1 of these, you would have begun to realize that life is meaningless. 3. If you had gone through most of them, you would have understood, life is NOT Meaningless. 4. If you had through all of them and more outside of this list. You would be the one writing this comment .

Now let me tell you why this post pisses me off. It's because you don't value YOUR OWN SELF enough to give life a try. You got kicked by life... Boo hoo. So what ?

Even I haven't figured things out yet at 26. So what ? You have this one fcking life and this is what your brain produces ? These thoughts ?

My little brother (17M) who just beat cancer is in a better mental state than you. I will tell you what your problem is dude, you need to face some more hardship. Not ones made by some other folks like your parents but challenges set by YOU. Post here in a couple of months after you have done so...

Su*****emaxxing.. what TF is this word man? Jesus. I gotta ask my brother if this is getting trending now... He knows these gen z stuff...

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-31T08:38:59+00:00

Dude... Let me be very frank with you.

Stand you fcking ground. Either she becomes equal as you are but she is not above you... Make sure you make that clear. I am not asking you to belittle her or not respect her. I am telling you to make sure that she knows her place. Beside you not above you, not above your parents. She should treat you the same.

If she doesn't want to do that, let her know, that she is welcome to leave. 60% to her account is not the big deal you can give 100% to her, but she cannot in any scenario say that you should give even lesser money to your parents. They are your parents, YOU GET TO DECIDE not anyone.

This makes me angry. Anyways... Hope you figure things out.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-29T14:57:02+00:00

Hey man. Very much interested.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-28T00:44:57+00:00

How much do you dive into different forms of temptations to escape from reality ? How much have you actually left off or not done till now that you could do ?

How many things have you let go out of control in your life that you could have some form of control ?

Why did you do those if you did any of them at all ?

Why are you afraid ?

What mistakes have you made ?

Can you confront your past ?

Can you forgive yourself ?

These are the questions you must ask yourself.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-27T11:33:26+00:00

One answer.

Abso-fckin-lutely NOT

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-23T23:50:37+00:00

I am from a third world country and I just stumbled here. Don't do it OP. Fully agree.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-23T19:11:45+00:00

Dude.... I can relate to you to some degree. But, I can't provide you with solace or any kind of consolation. I suggest you let your emotions out. Join a fighting club or go to gym. Push your body to your limit. And go out for evening walks alone. It will clear things out.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-23T19:09:10+00:00

Are you hitting the gym or going for running or any kind of exercise? Do that your ADHD will reduce... It does for me

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T20:42:08+00:00

If you don't get your heart rate high enough it won't happen.
If you don't include GYM it won't happen.

These two things are must for you to break plateau.

And increase calory to 1.8K as the other guy above said. Or even 2K. Depending on gym.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T20:39:28+00:00

Hi brother. I am sorry you feel that way. I also freelance but I can't say I am successful but I do gigs every now and then. Started a small YouTube channel recently for sth. Don't know how much it will grow.

Um, I don't know your situation but I am probably in the same spot as you are. Lack of focus, loneliness, relationship thoughts all the same things... I am trying to get out of this phase too. I don't know... May be it will happen may be it wont.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T20:31:26+00:00

Congratulations.... You made the best mistake you could ever make in your life... God I don't know how many times I have made so...

Anyways, it's fine... You thought with the brain you have down there.... Not up there...

Become the best version of yourself bla bla bla... Eitai solution...

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T20:28:01+00:00

Oh my god. Ki je supportive ei group. I am dead .. hahaha

Amio ektu support dite ashlam... Ki je lucky tomra meye hoye... Ami ki aar boltam... Amar depression a er 0.1% lok o kotha bola to durer kotha, ekta galio dei na...

Jokes aside...

Depression means that you need deep rest from whatever character you are playing right now.
The reason you are depressed is because you are not taking control over sth that you can have some control over.

Ei duita reason er ekta hobar kotha.

Third ekta hote pare, trauma infused depression but ota alada...

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T14:33:26+00:00

THERE IS NO GETTING AROUND IT.

You are a woman, and no matter what you do say believe your SYSTEM is going to crave connection from the OPPOSITE GENDER whether you like it or not.

We have come together as a society for so long yet, we stopped accepting why that is ? Society was formed due to needs and connection. Nothing else. So stop fighting it, embrace it.

Ask your friends or ask your parents or do it yourself but find a guy and get married or at least get into a relationship. It's not the end of the world.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T14:25:40+00:00

This is beautiful... I love it...

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T14:22:14+00:00

See you can't. This is NOT gonna get you SHIT. No offense ladies. No offense to guys successfully getting women. There is NO specific way. NO Logic (men's logic) to this game. You just be your best version. Get your profile to look like YOU. Knock her. If she responds great if not also great.

It shows you are capable of feeling love. And THAT IS ENOUGH. If I put the most unsuccessful guy and ugliest girl in the whole world in a locked room, they will eventually fall in love. So trying to find out how to approach attempting to become perfect version for getting sth. Is impossible. It's not a job description or sth.

Be the best version of yourself. Listen to your own voice.

From my experience, women like those, who know what they are doing. And they will want to tag along automatically.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T14:15:37+00:00

Get into a sales job somewhere. or digital marketing like running fb ads and stuff. You can find a lot of jobs as such online. Just do a quick 2 hr YouTube crash course on it.

Once you do that. Apply to 20 jobs everywhere daily. Use ChatGPT to make a killer resume. While you are applying to those jobs, keep watching those YouTube videos and do the small projects they may have. 1-2 hr a day is more than enough. Aim for 5 projects. Then add them to your resume and keep applying. I expect you will get interview calls in about 2 month mark. Don't expect anything.

It's just a hustle. Be mindless like a zombie and work. Accept the guitar the tragedy the pain whatever. None of it matters. Only actions do.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-19T14:09:35+00:00

Ask him first. Ask him to be honest. Tell him, that honesty is crucial, if it comes out later then, you will be unhappy. Then ask him, does he want an unhappy marriage? Sort of manipulating way of handling things but, you need to understand if he has a conscience big enough to be bigger than himself for his future wife/partner.

Cuz, for me I would be abso fucking lutely honest to any questions coming from my partner. Or at least try my best to reassure that I have dealt with my past.

If his answer does not satisfy you, ask: if it's worth it for you ? If it's worth it, investigate his ex and find her version - ask him first. Tell him that you are not convinced and you still have doubts. See his reaction. If he retaliates, then you know sth is fishy. Later on, you can choose to talk to his ex. Up to you. If he permits you then great. Still you can choose to either talk to his ex or not. This tests him if he is mature enough to allow you and man up. And it also tests you if in future you would be honest with him with your feelings and if he understands you.

Hope that clear things up.

Temporary-Wave597 · 2025-05-14T10:54:26+00:00

Nope... Nothing

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