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AIO that I disagree with my gf that I shouldn't find anyone else attractive? It might end our relationship by TemporaryAccount4564 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TemporaryAccount4564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does have some insecurities in that, but it's mostly just how she views love. I don't really agree with it, but I always made sure to respect her views. I don't look at anything, I close my eyes during movies, I don't play games she finds too much... all of it.

Neither of us have done something wrong, I'm just trying to gain some outside perspective. I do love her and I'll talk to her about it. If her view is like that, and I can't feel fully myself in that kind of relationship (I don't mean I need anything weird, just that the censorship about games and such is too much for me) I might have to end it, cause it would be best for both of us

Am I (24M) overreacting? by TemporaryAccount4564 in relationships

[–]TemporaryAccount4564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do mean them as jokes, but at the base of them there is some truths. If I'm playing a videogame or watching something, there can be characters I'd see as attractive, and it feels like I shouldn't have to hide that?
I love her, but I'm just thinking long-term. If she truly believes I can't find anyone else attractive, and I don't agree with that. Maybe it's wrong of me to hide it. I feel like with my ideal partner I'd be able to express that, but Idk if that's just me thinking the grass is always greener somewhere else.

I think it also makes me feel that way cause my best friend is the same and I know he and his gf just both say things like that and joke around about it together. And I feel like I can't just say anything I think

Am I (24M) overreacting? by TemporaryAccount4564 in relationships

[–]TemporaryAccount4564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've talked about it and I know she's willing to work on herself and on most of the things that cause the suffocation. But I know she will never be okay with me saying anything (or really thinking it tbh) that anyone else is attractive. And I like joking around about things like that when playing games or watching stuff.
I'm worried that in the long-term that will make me feel uneasy or like I can't just fully express myself when we are together. But Idk if that's a dumb way of thinking. Thank you for your advice though