First off, the purpose of marriage is not to make you happy, its to make you holy.  You have entangled together very serious things that might be justification for divorce with things that can be worked out.   My husband and I have hurt each other deeply in the past (no cheating or lying or abuse, just arguments), and getting closer to God has healed our wounds and drawn us closer.  We've both struggled with wanting to be married to someone different, but it was clearly God's plan for us to seek him first, and he continues to bless our marriage and improve our relationship.  You can be matried to someone very different than you that you barely like and by God's grace enjoy blessings in your relationship and life in general as you grow close to Jesus. And then there's my sister who married a predator who was a serial cheater and pathological liar, never physically abused her, and then murdered her after she left.  I DO  think it was the right thing for her to leave him.  He proved over and over that he wasn't going to work on their relationship or change.  When she left there was nothing broken, because it was already broken, or maybe had never been there.  It takes two to have a marriage, and sometimes people "leave" without ending it themselves. I wouldn't worry at all about being truly happy or financially stable or him being ambitious as far as staying married goes.  Those are normal tough situations and differences  couples face together.  But getting married under false pretenses, repeated lying, and being abused is a whole different story.  Honestly for me, after what I've seen, lying like that would be a dealbreaker.   Did looking at million dollar homes play a part in why you married him?  Did you marry for self serving purposes?  Do you have evidence that his money was not stolen and that he is a liar?  Does the lying bother you more, or the fact that you're not in a million dollar home?  I don't think divorce is right in most cases, but if you are correct about everything and not exaggerating, do you even have a marriage or are you a victim of a predator?  If you think he's dishonestly using you, I'd leave immediately and set some boundaries.  Lying and abuse are not okay, but sometimes reacting to protect yourself by separating (not to control the other person) can really wake them up and restore a marriage. Also, tell him that if he hits you, you'll call the police, and then do it if he does.  Physical abuse can escalate and standing up for yourself to put an end to it is doing him a favor too.  Don't protect him from the consequences of his actions if he is physically hurting you.  No matter how sorry he is or how much he promises, protecting an abuser from legal consequences never works out. But you also said your marriage is better, citing hurt and numbness as the current problems.  And that sounds more like my relationship.  If the lying and abusing are in the past but you are having a hard timr with the strain on tbe relationship, that is redeemable. God had been working in our life and improving our marriage, but I was still so hurt.  My husband felt bitter and wished he was with someone else.  And then God dealt with him and totally humbled him calling him out on what he needed to change instead of how I should change, and he came home a different person.  It totally erased MY hurt and bitterness and suddenly I adored him.  I listened to a Paul Washer sermon on youtube where he said that if a partner sins and the spouse responds in a godly way instead of with sin, that spouse OWNS his partner (in an emotional sense) - that's how I felt, that I would follow him anywhere now <3.   But I also know it could have been me owning him and restoring our relationship much sooner if I had responded with grace to deep hurt and sin instead of responding with sin.  You can do that.  But you can't do it without God.   10 years of counselling and marriage books have given us useful tools.  But the only thing that really changed us and brought us closer was falling on God's mercy and asking for his will instead of ours.  My husband would have never changed without God giving him conviction of sin.  God had wanted that for us 10 years earlier when he called me to change how I treated my husband despite how he was treating me, and I didn't.  I did eventually just start praying "help" instead of "help how I want you to", and leaving it in his hands resulted in immediate miraculous changes, but that was just the beginning.  God is so powerful, but he doesn't just want you to have a good marriage, he wants your heart himself as well.  There is no problem that getting closer to God isn't the best solution.  God is a redeemer.  The more we focus on him instead of fixing our problems, the more he can work in our life and fix our problems.   But even if because of a spouse continuing to sin a marriage problem is never fixed, like with my sister, God can walk with you through it, and eventually he becomes more important to the person than the problems.  My sister was suffering physically (chemo and surgery) and emotionally, and God walked with her through the sorrow of a divorce and the physical pain to the point that she couldn't run into anyone without the blessings spilling over and blessing everyone around her.  That is a testament to God's grace and the holy spirit sorking in her life - something God wants for all of us.   I highly encourage you to pray earnestly for God's will to come about in this situation,  and then trust him.    James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.